I read a blog of a dear friend and was praying for her. I didn’t know how to comment on her blog. I got back out this book and God led me to this page and I thought allot of people could probably benefit from me sharing this.
Live for Today—Stay in the present
“I will be happy when ________” - You fill in the blank. How many times have you said these words: “I will be happy when I lose weight”, “I will be happy when I get a new job”, “I will be happy when I get married” ? These and thousands of other such statements, postpone your happiness, which lowers your self-esteem. You are telling yourself that you don’t deserve to be happy until a certain event happens. What you are really saying is that you aren’t good enough right now, today, to be happy. And when the long-awaited event does occur, there will always be another and another. This makes it impossible for you to ever achieve happiness and high self-esteem unless you begin to accept yourself today.
Making outer conditions responsible for your happiness puts you on a roller coaster of emotions. If you feel good only when things go your way, you are left miserable a great deal of the time. As long as your happiness is tied into the achievement of future goals, you will never be satisfied. You will always need more to be happy. And if your need more, then you are telling yourself that you are not good enough. This damages your self-esteem.
While goals, dreams, wishes, and fantasies play a necessary part in your life, even adding to your self-esteem, it is important that you live for right now. You are perfect just as you are at this very moment. Sure, there are things you would like to work on, but you are still a worthwhile, beautiful person just as you are today.
Right now, make a list of five positive characteristics or traits about yourself. Whatever it is, write it down. Keep this list in a safe place and refer to it when you start thinking of all the things you don’t have. Give yourself permission to be happy and have high self-esteem TODAY.
Taken from the book “Why Can’t I Stop Eating?” by Dr. Debbie Danowski.
My eating plan is from this book. (see 9-17 blog for it).
My personal history that helps me relate to this blog… I have spent many many years saying “WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT I WILL BE HAPPY”
WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT I will go to the lake with my kids
“ “ “ “ I will have a better marriage.
“ “ “ “ I will get out more and not be such a recluse.
I cannot tell you the number of days, weeks, years I spent thinking this way!
ALLOT of wasted time I CAN tell you that!
Sadly… I am not sure WHY I went year after year miserable in my own skin. I can’t tell you WHY I didn’t do something about it??
I spent more time PLANNING on doing something then ACTUALLY doing something!
Can anyone out there relate?
I honestly thought if I didn’t keep saying this or thinking about my weight then I might just become satisfied with being overweight and just NEVER try to do something about it! I felt like I had to keep beating myself up over it to try to SELF –LOATHE MYSELF INTO DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT… How twisted is that? How unhealthy is that?
And maybe there is a day we get so disgusted with ourselves that we resolve to finally DO something about it……???? Maybe??
I do remember this… that constant replay in my mind was so tiring.. and it played over and over like a broken record!
I have NOW learned that losing weight doesn’t fix everything…
Losing weight doesn’t make everything that was wrong in my life ok….
Losing weight didn’t make my marriage become magically better!
Losing weight DID help with my confidence so that I stood up for myself in my marriage!
Losing weight DID help me have a better outlook towards my life in general.
Losing weight DID make me realize that looking better is good but FEELING BETTER is really the prize!
Hugs to all of you!
Thanks for reading!