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If You Were Thinking of Giving Up........ Read This First......Please?


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Monday, April 04, 2011

There are some mornings I crawl out of bed and as I look at myself in the mirror I tell myself I just canít do this anymore. I canít be bright and positive and upbeat and all those things that take so much effort some mornings. I look at my belly and even though all those fantastic measurement tools I have at my disposal tell me I am making progress, well friend, the progress isnít quick enough. It makes me want to go away, to quit, to give up, to convince myself that some people are supposed to be overweight. Itís in their genes!!! But I donít. I feel a bit ashamed, a little embarrassed that I have been stuck for what seems like forever now. I feel frustrated that I canít convince my body that it isnít twenty seven instead of fifty seven. I want to scream ďThe he** with all of this,Ē but I donít.

I come from a long line of cowards and quitters. I have been trained to live within my limitations and accept my fate as some sort of divine or cosmic punishment for past transgressions, sins and mistakes. Some days I feel like Iím not good enough to be around all these shiny happy people who are running, biking and swimming half way around the globe. I wanna crawl under the covers and block the sun. But I donít.

I have lost some friends recently and that makes me sad. Fellow soldiers on this journey towards health who became casualties of their own minds and beliefs. They quietly faded into the woodwork. They donít interact anymore. Like me they are embarrassed, angry and some days a bit scared. Like me they havenít learned how to deal with success on any level and they often feel foolish. So they quietly leave. I donít always notice right away. Then one day I wonder, ďWhat ever became ofÖÖÖÖĒ

Some have reached their goals and couldnít hang on and the pain is too great. Some have tried and tried and tried and just couldnít make it. So they leave. I wonít go anywhere. Iíll be dam&*d if I run myself off.

Iím not writing this to receive. Iím writing this to give. Somewhere, someone is going to read this and wonder how I knew you were just about ready to give up because you used all of the energy you believed was inside of you. Someone may pass this on to you and urge you to read it.

Donít leave, donít quit, donít give up. Iím here and so are, oh about a million other people and we have all felt the same things from time to time but we havenít given up. This march towards health and self-esteem isnít always the most exciting but in the end it is the most rewarding. This Spark process works. I am proof it works simply because I am still here. This ist a diet. Diets encourage failure. It is an incremental life change that isnít always fun.
Take a good look around you. There are millions of us that feel the same way you do every day. Do me a favor, please? If today was the day you were going to leave, quit or give up, postpone that decision for one more day, print this out, put it on your fridge and commit to taking care of today. When you get up tomorrow congratulate yourself for making it one more day. I promise you it will work.

I can never have enough friends
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YESCURLYCAN 3/12/2012 2:41AM

  I found your blog through DDorn's page and am so glad I did. I am sure you have helped so many people by writing this, because you have certainly helped me. Thank you emoticon

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PNMARTIN2 7/26/2011 7:38PM

  Right on time!

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NEWME0519 6/18/2011 11:58PM

    Thank you for sharing! I needed to read this tonight!

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/11/2011 6:14AM

    I love this honesty and have read this several times and have it bookmarked. Thanks.

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TYRA36 6/1/2011 4:45PM

  thank you. well written emoticon

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STARRYGREENJEN 5/5/2011 12:24AM

    You sir, are an inspiration. Thank you.

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DESERTFLOWERG 5/4/2011 6:26AM

    great post


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BOSOXGYRL33 4/23/2011 3:55PM

    THANK YOU! I really needed that today.

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TERESANAVARRO 4/22/2011 12:37PM

    Thank you. I'm just starting (again) and I will print this and read it when I feel like giving up (again).

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CANDYGETNFIT2 4/22/2011 3:26AM

    Thanks for the blog!

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SLENDERIZE7733 4/18/2011 2:43PM

    Thank you. Today I felt like giving up, I have been so moody and grumpy. I just didn't know if I wanted to continue on this path anymore, of changing my lifestyle. But now, I want to. I suffer from bi-polar, and I guess that today is one of my kind of down days. Previously I have been up up up, but I just don't know why I can't get off this feeling terrible cycle. Thank you for your kind words and you said it all man, I will continue this journey thanks to you, and talk to some of my supporters. I can never thank you enough

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CDAVIDSON9 4/18/2011 9:07AM

  thank you, i felt like i wanted to give up and do exactly what you said, this hits me right in the heart, i have made great progress in my weight loss but i just can not accept the fact i lost 82 pounds, i still look at that 20 pounds i have to lose and i compare my damaged body to those of guys around me and i get more depressed knowing i will always be reminded of what i was.... i will try it one more day becuase of you.

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RUNNERGIRL60 4/18/2011 2:52AM

    WOW!!! I just read this tonight and its a good thing I was at home, I just sat here with tears down my checks. I did print this out and posted it. I have been having alot of down days lately and have been on the edge of this is to much right now! I finally have acouple job interviews set up which helps alot! My weight until this past week was my enemy bearing nudging for 3 or so weeks. Family issues etc etc... I had almost let it get me and like its says I DIDN'T LET IT!! So close but I can't let everyone and everything else control my life! IT'S. MINE. Thanks for the ear and for the great blog! Hope ur weekend was great!!! emoticon emoticon

Michelle

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CHANGINGHORSES 4/17/2011 6:11AM

    Awesome!!! I hope lot's of people read and believe. We all have it in us, from the struggle to the succeed! We can do it!
Thanks John!
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ZENSTEPH 4/15/2011 7:27PM

    Wow, wow, wow. Thank you. I needed to read this today.

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BLUE_KARMA 4/12/2011 11:33AM

    emoticon Bless you.

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USFBULL 4/12/2011 3:35AM

    Thanks John, emoticon

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NELLBELLA26 4/11/2011 10:28PM

    Such a perfect blog for me to have read today. Thank you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MAMAANGE 4/11/2011 10:21PM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. How did you know?

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JANE1216 4/11/2011 9:45PM

    Thank you for posting such an honest - right between the eyes - kick it in the fanny blog! I needed to read this and I'm so glad I did ---

Hope you have a blessed week ---

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JCEDIT89 4/11/2011 7:11PM

    Excellent, excellent blog. Thank you! emoticon

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JBARSTOW 4/11/2011 6:20PM

    You, my friend, are exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

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MAMADWARF 4/11/2011 4:01PM

    John, you are definatly a beautiful light. Thank you for this wonderful, wise blog. Carry on. Jan

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PENGUINROSS 4/11/2011 2:54PM

    Thank you for your honesty. You spoke directly to me so I am excited tht I got to read it.

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CSERF09 4/11/2011 2:22PM

    Thank you. We all need to hear this every now and then. emoticon

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SPRTMOMX2 4/11/2011 1:39PM

  Wow how motivating!! Thank you so much for sharing such a well written and thought out blog. I did need this today & am forwarding to a friend!

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CAPARSLEY1 4/11/2011 12:41PM

    Thank you for this blog! It's not only encouraging but so well written! Your analogies are absolutely fantastic and right on point! I LOVE THIS BLOG! And I certainly will print it out! You're an inspiration to others which in return helps to keep you inspired as well, I'm sure of it! Thank you for sharing!

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ALLISONBISHOP46 4/11/2011 10:18AM

    thank you

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ALEPEQUIJADA 4/11/2011 9:10AM

    Thank you, it really inspired me to keep going, thanks !!!! emoticon

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MRSPINCKNEY 4/11/2011 8:58AM

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I needed to hear that today!

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RACH_LVSLIFE 4/11/2011 7:46AM

    Thank you~

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JEN040219 4/11/2011 6:36AM

    You made me tear up!! Thank you....

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2BHOTNTONED 4/11/2011 5:24AM

    Thankyou for your very heartfelt and honest blog, you are an inspiration.

Mandy

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MASE72 4/11/2011 4:55AM

    Great Blog! emoticon

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CHANGE4THEBEST 4/11/2011 2:23AM

    Hi,

You title to this blog caught my attention. Well written blog, especially the last paragraph emoticon

Thank you for taking the time to write this blog.

Good Luck with your journey to better health

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BIKRGRANMA 4/11/2011 12:32AM

    Thanks so much for the encouragement, I really needed it.

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IMTCDZ 4/10/2011 10:49PM

  Thank you for this blog post! I need this today.

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VON728 4/10/2011 9:49PM

    ThankS for this post. This week I had to remind myself just who I am losing weight for. It's not for HIM it's for me. I want to be healthy and look better for ME!!!

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BLUEJEAN99 4/10/2011 7:51PM

    thank you, i was feeling down and this helped emoticon

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FAIRLIGHT914 4/10/2011 6:59PM

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I just came back from the beach in my size 18 swimsuit and I know what you mean about looking in the mirror and asking yourself, what in the he** am I thinking? Nonetheless, like you, I did NOT give up...I ran 4 miles up and down that coastline most everyday! I just had to remember that two years ago, I could barely make it to the water without panting but NOT THIS YEAR! I resolved to make a change and guess what, I kept my promise to MYSELF. WOW. I have ran two 5Ks since then! I'm glad to meet ya' my friend! WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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CHRISTINECAN 4/10/2011 6:09PM

    I wasn't close to giving up, but I was a little blue and you did help me out of that funk. I can only that as ye sow, so shall ye reap and when you need it, I or someone like you is there to lend a hand up.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 4/10/2011 5:48PM

    What a powerful blog! Even though I am almost to my goal weight this could be used in any area of life when a person just feels like giving up. You definitely GAVE and in so giving you will receive. I look forward to your next blog.

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BROWNIEISLANDER 4/10/2011 3:15PM

    Honest and heartfelt....Which will certainly be inspiration....
To many others...
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HAPPYNSMILING 4/10/2011 12:57PM

    emoticon I do understand the feelings you expressed. AND you are so correct! Keep hanging on...it is worth it in the end!!!! Or should I say FOREVER!

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JANDREWS031 4/10/2011 12:19PM

    Thanks so much for sharing!!!!!!!
Janet

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HJFOGARTY 4/10/2011 11:57AM

    Thanks for writing what so many feel but don't take that moment to share - it is very appreciated - know that you are a true inspiration on so many levels! take care of you!

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LADYGWEN25 4/10/2011 10:33AM

    thank you so much for your blog! I've printed and keep it with me as a reminder.. I am NOT alone! :)

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JOY1918 4/10/2011 10:23AM

    Beautiful Blog.........thank you!

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CHANGING4ME49 4/10/2011 9:26AM

    I have lost 104 lbs so far and still have 96 more to go. I will not quit however I sincerely haven't given myself, my best effort in the last few months. And that of course has lead to a plateau of sorts. I decided recently I needed to rediscover my motivation, my will to do anything to get the job done, and kick start my effort. THANKS SO MUCH for the KICK!! emoticon

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NANA2PRINCESSES 4/10/2011 6:31AM

    Glad I found this, thanks.

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