How do you become the new you?
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
I've had a really bad week so far. So please excuse my whining and my semi-hopeless, "please help me" attitude. I really am not usually this person. . . I am usually much more optimistic. But I just feel like I need to vent a little and I do need some help from my spark friends and teams.
For the last two weeks, I've been lingering right over 140 pounds. On any given day, I'm as high as 143 or as low as 140. And I've been thinking that I might be done losing weight. I'm within my healthy BMI range, I feel so much healthier and I'm just not sure I feel any major pressure or push to be 135lbs. If it happens, great. If not, I think that's ok too. I think I need to tone up some areas still but weight wise, I feel pretty good. Also, I'm realizing that I need to adjust my eating and exercising habits because they're just not working for me. The truth of the matter is, I know how to lose weight and I know I can do it. But I usually go about it by focusing on eating toward the minimum of my calorie range and exercising all the time. . . . sometimes for an hour or more 6-7 days a week. And for me, that's not realistic. I need to find something that works with my schedule and doesn't make me feel so drained by the end of the week that I completely lose motivation.
So here's my new exercising dilemma (or exercise excuses). I was used to working out during my 2 year old's nap time but he's suddenly decided not to take consistent naps and sometimes I just can't make it work. So then I started getting up early to workout in the morning. But I'm not a great early morning workout person. I hate working out on an empty stomach and I'm just not willing to get up even earlier to eat (it's the honest truth). And even worse, little man has started getting up at 6:30 for the last week. . . and really, I just can't get up at 5:30 to work out . . . it just makes me so tired all day. And evening work outs are a challenge as well. . . it's my only time with my husband so I try to give him my full attention. He works crazy hours and I hate being busy when he is actually home. And I know it's a whole bunch of excuses. But all of the sudden I feel like I can't find the time to get a whole hour in even if I wanted to. Some of my "lack of time" has been because the weather has been so nice and I've been at park or hiking in the woods with my little guy. . . so still some exercise, but not enough. I need to find a way to make exercise fit into my life instead of making my life about exercise. But my problem is that doing something like walking with my little guy in the stroller for 40 min isn't "up to par" with my prior workouts. It's not running and it's not strength training and it's not burning 400 calories. I feel like because I pushed myself so hard while I was losing weight, I can't now decide that I want to just walk as my form of exercise. . . it doesn't work that way. I'm supposed to be pushing myself further and taking on new challenges. . . and the only new challenge I want is to not feel like I have to run for an hour six days a week to maintain "me". I want to feel like a normal, fit, healthy person. I need to figure out how to make this work for the long run.
Today the scale said 144. I shouldn't be surprised. . . and in fact, I wasn't. I haven't eaten great this week and so I'm sure some of it is water/salt weight. But I also think it could be because I've only been walking and doing short runs for the last two weeks because it's what's worked for me. . . so of course the weight is just going to creep back up, right? I just want to be able to enjoy being the new skinnier me. I bought capri pants yesterday and comfortable fit into a size 6. And it feels awesome but I'm so afraid that I'm suddenly going to be squeezing into a size 14 again if I don't workout like a crazy person that I'm getting stuck. I don't want to be so afraid of becoming the old me again that I can't make the change to maintenance. I also don't want to be so afraid that I start to sabotage myself or over-extend myself to the point that I do start to gain weight again or that I am just exhausted.
I about to turn 28. . . . I need to be able to maintain this for many, many, many years. . . not just until I wear a bathing suit this summer. How do all you maintainers make this adjustment?? How do you become the new you instead of striving to become something better or someone skinnier?
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I just focus on making ME happy. I do what makes me feel good and eat for my health. It's changing me, but mostly changing how I feel about myself and makes me love ME even more!
2302 days ago
Hi Megan! There are some great suggestions here and you have probably thought of several others (one idea usually sparks another). I'm not sure if you have a MOPS group around but maybe getting with other Mothers of preschoolers to walk/jog would be helpful - make it a playdate and let the kids play after jogging. I seem to do better when I have a chance to workout with others and I tend to be more consistent when I have the accountability.
Don't beat yourself up over the 5 lbs. between 135 and 140. As you said, you are in the healthy weight range and have made some great changes in your life. Look for the blessings - can you jog up the stairs without getting winded (Ooh, another great exercise! You can do it several times in a row taking one thing at a time upstairs and coming back for the next piece of clothing or toy.) and you can keep up with a preschooler - not easy and definitely a workout! Have a good week:)
2332 days ago
Try not to let the scale define you; it is not always the best judge of how things are going. You are into a size 6? I would depend more on clothes fitting rather than the scale. We all fluctuate on a daily/weekly basis; besides water/salt, it's a hormonal thing for women.
Small chunks of time for exercise is good advice until you find more time. Trying the jogging stroller if you can is a great idea. Besides from getting an aerobic workout, you are building strength, because they aren't light, especially pushing a 30# youngster.
2337 days ago
Hey, have you checked out any of the consignment shops for jogging strollers? I know when I used to go to those (like Once Upon A Child) they usually had at least one or two available. Much cheaper than new! I know it's a challenge with little ones around, so you have to take the time when you can. If you can relax the "regimen" and get little bits of exercise in when he is down for a nap, that will work better than trying to force yourself into a routine that will ultimately frustrate you! Have you tried a HIIT type of routine? That worked really well for me when I had less time to work out because of kids and their activities!
I'm gonna PM you in a second. I have another suggestion!
2337 days ago
You've already gotten great advice here about a running stroller and breaking your advice into smaller time chunks, so that might help.
My advice is to remind yourself that you are already a success story. You have made amazing changes in your life and they are going to carry you through many years to come.
For now, let yourself experiment with different ideas. Don't worry if they don't work right off. Be open to new ideas and experiences and trust that your instincts will be enough.
2337 days ago
By no means am I an expert, but I can say I know more than I practice! But I wanted to let you know I hear you.
With regard to the weight fluctuations, I believe it is normal for your body to have minor fluctuations on a day-to-day basis. Don't be discouraged by the scale. You can use it as a tool, but if you are feeling better in general, maintaining a weight range and making good choices, as long as you stick with that you are successful.
I have read here and there that your body can get used to the same series of exercises and you need to switch it up every once in a while. Maybe some HIIT or some short sprinting every once in a while during your walk might help. Also, are you lifting weights? If not, this will help your metabolism burn calories even when you are done with your workout!
You can take this info for what you feel it's worth... I can't speak from my own personal experience, but maybe this will help.
Good luck either way!
2337 days ago
Hey, Megan. I know it's hard, and after some months I still don't have all the answers. I've picked up a few pounds, beat them off, picked them up, etc. You get the idea--since the end of last year. I'm hoping that spring helps me out. Join the At Goal and Maintaining Team--you're close enough--and look over the team message board. Ask questions there, too. The gals who are active are great to jump in with what has worked for them. Diligence is a key. Remember this is a lifestyle, and it's your life. It may never be as easy as we wish, but it'll be worth it! I like the idea of a jogging stroller, if you can spring for one. My niece has a little cart she attaches to her bike--he would probably love that!
And also remember, your hour doesn't have to be all at once. If you can get in 20-30 minutes in the morning, then maybe another one like that later, it still works you out and doesn't take a whole hour at a time! You wouldn't have to get up at 5 or 5:30 if you were just working on a half hour basis.
Experiment, girl, and be creative! You can do this! You've worked too hard to throw it out. I've been where you are and didn't stick with it. Believe me, as hard as it was, I sure wish I had! Just don't give up!
2337 days ago
Comment edited on: 3/23/2011 5:21:09 PM
How about one of those running strollers? Then you could run outside in nice weather with your little one along for the ride.
2337 days ago
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