Monday, March 14, 2011
Let me start by saying I'm not Catholic... or particularly religious for that matter. However, I do love rituals and so when Lent rolls around, I try to find something I can give up that will make me a better person. This year has been pretty tough for me and my colleagues socially, so I decided to give up negative talking.
We call this 'Dirty Bricks' at work. One of my past supervisors brought in the idea of golden bricks versus dirty bricks. Golden bricks are those things you say and do that help others feel they are doing a good job, are appreciated. Dirty bricks are full of that nasty 'Did you hear what she said?' kind of garbage that breeds rumors and bad karma around a workplace. Sad to say, my job is full of dirty bricks, and I have been an equal participant in the brick throwing.
So this year for Lent, I decided to give up dirty bricks. It has been a tough few days, mostly because I catch myself starting to say something nasty even before I realize it. I am amazed at how comfortable those words sit in my mouth. I have yet to break my Lenten decision, but I have shocked myself at how quickly I am to begin noting something someone is doing in a rather negative manner - YIKES! And I have to work hard not to be drawn into the dirty brick conversations that abound in my workplace. Unfortunately, this gives off a 'holier than thou' air, which I try to dispel with humor, but still - no one likes to complain around someone who won't participate.
I started looking at how I turn dirty bricks upon myself. Oh dear... quite often I throw some hefty black ones my own way when I eat something I 'shouldn't' or don't go to the gym on any particular day. Wow. Negativity really drives my bus some days. So as an added bonus, I am working on giving up the dirtiness for more golden bricks toward myself during Lent. Hopefully, if I can give it up for 40 days/night, I should be able to continue... right? Why would anyone want to go back to dishing out garbage? Exactly my point.