Sunday, March 13, 2011
They are often over looked, taken for granted, remembered occasionally with an email, a card or a prayer. They exist in the back ground, like pleasant music, we know they are there but don’t often feel the need to acknowledge them. They cause us to laugh, to smile. They move us to tears with their unselfish acts of kindness and thoughtfulness. They are often the glue that binds the rest of our lives together. We share our deep dark secrets with them because we know they won’t ever judge us. They are our BFF’s, our pals, our buddies, our friends and they are a very important part of our journey.
Health is a balancing act. It not only requires that we pay close attention to the physical factors, but that we begin to undergo and emotional transformation inside of ourselves that opens me up to the world and allows it to not only see my beauty, my splendor, my foibles and flaws but causes me to allow you, my friend to love me and to honor me. Yup, most of us are really good at giving friendship. We can rush to the rescue of every disaster known to person kind and be ready to eagerly assist. Let the tables turn and it’s a horse of a different flavor, so to speak.
I have learned it is easy for me to give and darn near impossible for me to take. Some place, in the maze of confusion that often resembles my thought process, I have come to believe that I should give, give, give and that if my score card tallies up correctly at the end of it all I’ll get some sort of eternal reward. Givers are noble and takers, well takers, they are just slackers, weak people, not much back bone……. All that rot. It’s how most of us were raised. God loves a cheerful giver………..
I read somewhere, recently that the single largest act of vanity occurs within me when I do not acknowledge your out stretched hand. I shake my head and turn away. I can handle it myself!!! If I acknowledge your affection it means I am weak.
All of this laughable because real health is a balancing act between our body, our minds and our souls. When I accept you as my friend I am asked to do something we have a hard time with – trust you. I have to believe you are going to love me, care for me and even though it means you may have to get upset with me from time to time, have my best interest at heart.
I cannot be a friend unless I allow you to be mine. The wisdom you send me daily is the wisdom that fortifies me and makes me want to continue this journey. I have learned many things in my time here at Spark but the most valuable asset I have is you my friend.