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Shaking Nerves...and Good Times

Wednesday, March 02, 2011

I'm sure you might have seen from my updated status that my husband is up for a job that is perfect for him. He was laid off 2 years ago, so this could mean more to us than anything right now. My nerves are frazzled waiting for his 10:30am interview and the wait after that to see if he gets hired. We are having a 39th Birthday Party for him Saturday, so it would be nice to be able to celebrate a new job too. Fingers, toes and eyes are crossed over here.

It's been a crazy week. I've had a few meetings with my daughter's Kindergarten teacher. She is having a bit of trouble. Scholastically she is close to the top of the class. Emotionally, she is not on par with the other kids. She is having trouble controlling her emotions and "impulses". This has left me beating myself up trying to figure out how I have failed as a mother. Of course, I know I can't do that to myself, but if you are a mother, I'm sure you understand how I feel. We have an appointment with her pediatrician on Tuesday for her annual physical and to discuss some of the issues going on. I am not going to let my daughter be labelled and, at this time, if drugs are suggested, I am not ready to go that way. ugh...nerves...stomach is in knots.

I am starting her in gymnastics this evening. I am hoping the structure and fun of it helps. Not to mention, I am so looking forward to it! I did gymnastics for years as a kid. Good Times.

So where does this leave me? Well, I kicked a$$ on the treadmill yesterday...cranking it up to 7.0- which I had never done before! What a fantastic stress reliever!! WooHoo! It feels good to be proud of myself. I DESERVE that.

Oh- and a side note...my boss and co-worker were at the gym while I was there and apparently they did not recognize me from behind while I was on the treadmill. Considering I work for a company of 23 employees (with only 3 women) I am taking this as a gigantic compliment!

Well, SparkFriends- here's to a great Wednesday! Keep the positive vibes and prayers coming. This job would be a new start for my family. (and keep my husband's cabin fever at bay so he doesn't turn into to Jack from "The Shining") HAHAHA! emoticon
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THINRONNA 3/9/2011 2:52AM

    I know I am a little late on this one but I truly hope everything worked out well for your husband.

Regarding your daughter...you guys should be here. Kids are raised VERY differently than in the US. They are allowed to completely be free and even encouraged to let their emotions rule. No one would ever expect a 5 or 6 year old to control their emotions or impulses. They don't even have kindergarten...structured school begins at first grade. Up until a short while ago first grade even started a year later than it does now so kids were starting at age 7. Kids are just expected to be kids. They have a formal philosophy that children learn by playing. It sounds like you choosing to engage your daughter in more playing via gymnastics is right on the money! Never ever beat yourself up about your mothering. You are a wonderful mother and honestly your girl is so young! I am kind of annoyed that they are even evaluating her like that.

At first, coming from an American stand point I was annoyed with the kids here...they are kind of unruly and parents just stand by and watch. But then as I think about it...why should we be be pushing our kids to behave by a certain set of adult standards so soon. There is still soooo much development going on. when they are babies we accept that different aspects of them develop at different rates. Why do we think that magically in kindergarten...an arbitrary time...they should suddenly behave in a certain way? This is a whole nation of perfectly good people who succeed in life just fine even if they are allowed to act on their emotional impulses as children!

Your daughter sounds bright, creative and engaging to me. I am so glad to will fight against having her labeled. Nothing good comes of labels. Good for you!

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TEMPEST272002 3/5/2011 9:32AM

    Best wishes for your hubby - I hope he gets the job!

As to your daughter - I agree with POOKIE. Bright kids often have a harder time fitting in at school. They see things differently from their peers and they pester the teacher for more information. Why does school expect our kids to be perfect in ALL areas? Some kids are good at sports, some at academics, some at social activities... few people are strong across the board evenly.

One of the ways you can help your daughter is to explain other people's actions to her in a way that appeals to her rational side. She's too young to understand intuitively that other people think differently, so their behaviour likely baffles her. Using an extreme example here... think Sheldon from Big Bang Theory & how they explain "social contracts" to him.

Great job getting up to 7.0 on the tredmill! Amazing! You go girl!

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TWOTIMESS 3/2/2011 8:32AM

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Heeere's Johnny!

Scary stuff! LOL! I'll hold thumbs that things work out great for your family.

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-POOKIE- 3/2/2011 8:26AM

    Here's hoping for him!

As for your daughter, I work with kids and often those who are brighter DO have these social and behavorial issues... why? I find its because they are bored and unstimulated by classroom activities that are too easy, or classmates who are too dull and "behind" that childs imagination and abilities.

Setting her something athletic to challenge her body, coupled with it being a structured art may be just what she needs... an outlet for both things she is struggling with.

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