Wednesday, March 02, 2011
I'm feeling lost at sea right now.
I remember when I began this journey. I remember starting to work out - 20 minutes of walking, 3 days a week. I remember learning to control my food. I started on the South Beach diet. And although knowing what I know now, I wouldn't use that as a regular eating habit, but it did show me that there were things I was eating that I wouldn't die if I didn't have. It taught me that I could control what I ate. It taught me that I don't need bread! I like it, but I don't need it. That's where this began.
After almost a year of that, I accidentally ran into sparkpeople looking for recipes for ground turkey on the internet. I started going through the site, set up a page, and saw the trackers. I didn't start tracking my food right away. I also ordered Turbo Jam at the same time. I found the TurboJam sparkteam and was excited to have something to share with people and a place to go for more information. Then I got curious. I started to wonder what I was eating and how much I was eating and what that equalled to calorie wise. And so began my nurition tracking. Fall of 2008, I felt the best that I had in my life. I felt fit, I felt small, I felt in control. I hit my lowest weight - 145. It happened to be on the day of my 15th high school reunion. I had lost 35 lbs at that point from when I began just walking. I was working out 5 days a week, I was tracking my food. I was making more good decisions than bad ones.
I also remember that people couldn't help noticing the changes. The confidence that I had. The positive feelings. And people would ask me how i did it. I would tell them about Spark. I would tell them about Turbo Jam. I would tell them that it is diet and exercise. And that you don't have to cut things out - you just have to recognize that there are things you can't eat a lot of - whether it is in one sitting or every day. And I remember some people telling me they couldn't do it. And I remember thinking, you just have to make the choice. And every time you put something in your mouth, make a choice. Every time you sit down to watch tv for hours on end, make a different choice. We are all about the choices we make.
How pompous I was.
After hitting my lowest weight ever, I gained 5 lbs back in the following few months. I struggled right around the 150 mark for 2 years - sometimes a couple pounds under, sometimes up to 5 pounds over. But within 5 lbs of 150.
And then at the start of 2010, I was seldom getting under 150 and I seemed to hover around the 155 mark - again, sometimes a few pounds under, sometimes a few pounds over.
Then this last fall, it seems like everything fell apart. I got sick. A stupid respiratory infection. It was hard to do anything - including just walk up the stairs-without getting extremely winded. And not working out, I struggled with my eating. And the pounds came on. Pretty soon I was at 160. then the holidays came. It's stressful for me because it is the busiest time for me at work. With holiday get-togethers, eating out because of lack of time to cook anything, not finding time to workout even though I was past the respiratory infection, and the pounds kept coming.
Like most people, I told myself that I was going to get back on track after New Year's. I mean, I had told everyone that that it is about choices, right? So I needed to make a choice. Starting with food & water & getting back to working out. It's just a choice.
A choice that I just can't seem to make. I'm struggling. I'm more than struggling, I'm drowning. I'm drowning in my own expectations. I'm drowning in my horrible choices. I'm drowning in my life. and everything that I "know" isn't helping me. I KNOW that I need to get back to working out. I KNOW that I'll feel better about myself when I do. Yet I can't find the time to do what I was doing only 6 months ago! I KNOW that I need more sleep, but something has to give. I KNOW that every calorie going in is getting counted and if I don't work out, that calorie and all of the others I'm shoving in, are going to make themselves comfortable around my waist. I KNOW that I need to just start somewhere, but I feel like a horrible failure. I've gained OVER 20 lbs back from my lowest weight. I had stood in front of the mirror and told myself never again, and yet here I am. I told myself I would never get back to a size 12, but my size 10s are pushing the edge. I have gone from a borderline size 6 to probably needing a size 12.
And yet I still can't make those "choices" I was so willing to explain to people. Things are tough right now. Financially, things are tough. I'm struggling with my job as many are in the economy. My children are getting older and as a mom, I feel like I'm not doing all that I can for them - including making sure that they are learning the healthy lifestyles that I don't want them to have to learn later in life like I have.
I think about the person I was at 145 and how much I took for granted. And I look at what I've done to myself and I just don't know how to make the next step. I've tried my old standbys for trying to get motivated - we're going to a waterpark with the kids in April & I will have to be in a swimsuit. We have my husband's friend's wedding in May. My cousin is getting married in August. How 'bout the fact that I won't have ANY shorts that fit this summer if I don't do SOMEthing?
WHY can I not do this? Why am I watching Biggest Loser and bawling? I'm searching high and low and I can't find the woman that started this process. And I haven't run into that women who felt so confident about her decisions either. All I've found is a woman I'm not proud of anymore. A woman who isn't happy. A much larger version of the stronger, confident, healthier woman who existed not too long ago.
I don't know if a lifesaver can help me. I just don't know if I have what it takes. I'm barely paddling water and I'm just not going anywhere.
Member Comments About This Blog Post
HEAR HEAR loud and clean
SHORT AND SWEET: I'm up 30lbs,can't find my inner workout freak,lost alot of workout/health friends(but I'm now seeing they weren't really friends)and I'm having the hardest time choking down water.
YOU'RE NOT ALONE AND WE'RE HERE FOR YOU,you just have to kick me in the butt......
2567 days ago
Don't let your weight gain get in the way of your whole perspective on life. Look at how beautiful and healthy your children are. Look at the how lucky you are to have such lively kids, when people out there wish they could have kids or they have chronically ill kids that need constant 24 hour care. You have a roof over your head, when many are homeless, you're able to put food on the table and take care of your family, when others are unable to. You have a loving husband when many out there are so lonely and wishing for companionship. You have a job, albeit maybe not what your dream job is, but you are employed and bringing in income, no matter how meager it may be. You are being very productive at being a mother, wife, employee, and thousands of more titles.
So IT HAPPENS that we all fall off the wagon! It happens!!!!! And many people who fall off NEVER CARE TO GET BACK ON AGAIN! You WANT TO! That is SO POSITIVE IN ITSELF!
Enlist your husband to nag you to work out, or use him as a workout buddy. Take a photo of yourself and post it up, and look at it every time you don't feel like exercising. And start SMALL! Tell yourself, "I won't let myself go outside the house today until I do 15 minutes on the treadmill" and without thinking, just DO IT. After a while it will become a habit and you will look forward to it.
In summary, DONT BEAT UP YOURSELF ABOUT THIS! DOn't let this mar the other positive things that you have going in your life! Things could be sooooooo much worse! You will find your step again, just start with small steps!
2571 days ago
Listen to that 145lb girl. She is correct & still inside of you waiting to come back out. Love yourself for who you STILL are. Live life Day by Day & celebrate the smallest changes that get you back there.
2573 days ago
You've been struggling so much lately, I just feel terrible for you. I don't even know what kind of advice to give you either. Are there any small things that you can change to get you out of this depression? Maybe drinking your water, getting more veggies, working out 2 times a week with your Turbo Jam??
Please know that you are still a strong woman, you just have to grab control of your choices and make this work for you.
2573 days ago
Go back to the beginning. Make one change and stick with it. Then another...etc. Don't look at the whole elephant and beat yourself up. Take it one step at a time.
You can do it! Love yourself!!!
2573 days ago
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