Unsuccessfully coping

Thursday, February 24, 2011

I've been having a hard time with my weight loss and workouts. I don't know what it is. I'm trying to eat healthy but sometimes I feel like eating all those sweet or fatty or salty things that are just sabotaging me. And as soon as I lose some pounds I feel like I don't have to watch out to much and gain it all back.

I feel sad a lot. I think about my Dad who passed away almost one year ago. Sometimes I just smell something or see something that reminds me of him and I start crying. Also I miss my mom so bad. She lives in Germany and I haven't seen her since last year in March before my Dad passed away. I've been trying to convince her to visit me when we move to Georgia so she can take a direct flight to Atlanta, but she's so scared to get on a plane. She's never been on one. She doesn't speak English either so she's worried about going through immigration at the airport. I hope she's going to change her mind. I need her. We lived in the same house in Germany and I was hanging out with her every day when Josh was at work. I miss having some coffee with her in the afternoons and to just do things together.

I wonder if that issues I have with my Dad's passing away and not having my mom around make me an emotinal eater.
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    It probably is all the loss you are trying to cope with. It is a very emotional time for you. Try not buying the stuff that you know you have trouble resisting. I know how you feel about your dad. Mine passed away in 2001 and I still miss him. emoticon
    2579 days ago
    I'm sure that has a lot to do with your eating right now. My father died over a year ago, and I still miss him. Same with my mother, who died seven or eight years ago. I miss her a lot. It gets easier as the years go by, but it never goes away.
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    2579 days ago
  • NINA379
    Thanks for your kind words everyone. I talk to her on Skype pretty much every day, but she doesn't have a computer so I can only hear but not see her. I'd fly over there but the flights are very expensive. For her we could use a free flight that Josh has available. We looked up tickets to visit her for Christmas, but incl. rental car we'd spend about $ 5,000.00. It's already not easy living away from your family you have over here, but having family overseas is hard.
    2579 days ago
    Too bad she can't come. Maybe you could fly over and fly back with her. Or just fly over and spend some time with her. Skype does work well, too.
    2579 days ago
    I don't think you're far off the mark wondering if you're eating a bit emotionally, at least at times. It sounds like you're still grieving for you Dad and like you're struggling with some feelings of isolation. I'm fortunate enough to have both of my parents still living, but I do know what it's like to grieve. My grandpa was one of the closest people in the world to me (I saw him every day of my life until I was 20 and moved away for college and at least once a week after that until he passed away.). He passed away in 2006, and I still have times when something will just hit me -- usually a smell -- and make me miss him more than anything in the world. And, of course, I know what it's like to be away from family (living far away, deployed husband). Isolation and the food issues that come with it are things I struggle with daily. Things like Skype and frequent phone calls help, but it doesn't always fill the void of not having that person next to you. Sometimes, you just need a friend or loved one. I wish I had some magic advice to help you cope a little more successfully, but all I've figured out for myself is that it all boils to down individual decisions every day. Just know that if you end up in my part of the state when you move, you already have a friend.
    2579 days ago
    I know it's not the same but can you set up skype so you can talk and see your mother at the same time? It's free and all you need is the web cam.
    Stay strong and don't give in to your temptations. emoticon emoticon
    2579 days ago
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