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The rose colored glasses

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Once upon a time, there was a woman who wore rose colored glasses. They made the world a beautiful, hazy place where things were bright, happy, and wonderful. She loved those glasses and wore them every day. They took the harsh edges off the sometimes cruel world and changed the reality to something she wanted to see.

One day she forgot to put her glasses on and she went about her day. She began to see things as they really were, and not the sunny, distorted place she wanted to see. So many things began to appear before her that she found interesting and not as bad as she thought they might be. Until she found herself gazing at her image in the mirror.

There, the reality was unkind. She was not "fluffy", she was fat. She was not "Bigger" she was huge. SHe was not "sturdy", she was obese. She stared at her image and it burned into her brain.

As she went back to her castle that day, she couldn't wait to get her glasses back on. But those images of her bothered her and by the time she got back to the safety of her glasses, she knew.
She knew she had to change, to try to get that "real" image closer to the image from the rose colored glasses.

So she began. She joined Sparkpeople, tracked her food, began to excercise and gradually, her shape began to change. She met many fair maidens and noble knights who encouraged her along her way. She kept those rose colored glasses in her night stand and did not put them on.

She missed those glasses, though. Sometimes the glare of the real world was too much and she longed to put the glasses on and soften the edges. But she was different now and she was trying to learn to live without them. The journey was a hard one at times.Sometimes people didn't understand that she was sad. She clearly saw the sadness and struggles that happened to people she knew and loved.

She was a naturally optomistic lady but sometimes it was a bit too difficult to remember to enjoy the sunshine, rainbows and unicorns when the clouds and thunderstorms hit.

One day, she put the glasses on again. She was having a bad day and needed a break from the life that was now hers. As she looked at her castle, her world, her self, she realized that she wanted to see the world in a clear light, she wanted to see the real her. She realized that those glasses had not simply softened the edges, they had indeed altered the reality. There had to be a balance! Perhaps a lighter shade of pink? A less intense shade?

So she did some tinkering and came up with the right combination. It allowed her to remain optomistic, to see the world in a palatable way that she could manage, yet showed her the reality and the beauty in what actually IS.

A friend reminded her to count her blessings and she would get through the challenges ahead and now she can have her glasses and also have the real world,too. It is not as scary as she thought and she finds that she can manage just fine. Although she still has a way to go to get where she wants to be, she can smile while she gets there.
Plus, she looks fantastic with and without her glasses and so does the rest of the world.

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THREEE 3/11/2011 10:51PM

    oh man, i was sorely missing in my position as PIMP(pretty important managing person?)...if i had been more timely i could have pushed this one...it is beautiful...
one of your biggest fans...

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BBGYRL4 2/22/2011 12:24PM

    Jan, this was an absolutely amazing blog. I LOVED it!!

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LILLYPILLY24 2/22/2011 7:45AM

    Oh, I love this - what a privilege to read it!

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ATREAT4ME 2/22/2011 7:10AM

    You're so creative, Jan. What a great post.

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BAYBELIEVER 2/20/2011 10:36PM

    This is amazing! Thanks for this. Truly.

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BMINE73 2/20/2011 10:24PM

    Amazing blog! I added you as a friend...hope ok emoticon

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JLYNNEW5 2/20/2011 8:40PM

  amazing blog. brought tears to my eyes. "She was a naturally optomistic lady but sometimes it was a bit too difficult to remember to enjoy the sunshine, rainbows and unicorns when the clouds and thunderstorms hit."

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ROBINTRACKS 2/20/2011 8:16PM

    Thanks Jan! Nicely done as always!

From this Fair Maiden,

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SARAWALKS 2/20/2011 3:58PM

    emoticon Just exactly the right degree of rose! emoticon

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RACHGLAZE 2/20/2011 8:33AM

    I think we should all have our own brand of rose colored glasses. Seeing the world and ourselves as it really is but remaining positive and able to function is also important.

Great way to word it!

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KAMAPERRY 2/20/2011 12:02AM

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PHOENIXK26 2/19/2011 10:55PM

    What a wonderful blog! I love the way you painted such a beautiful and touching story with words. Thanks for sharing it!

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STARFISH619 2/19/2011 9:35PM

    That was a great story - and great way of wording self awareness.

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BIGMAMAT 2/19/2011 8:39PM

    I love it!! Wonderfully written. I loved it except for that dang "O" word. lol. haha xoxoxo Tricia emoticon

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 2/19/2011 8:38PM

    Beautiful Jan! You always have a way with words.
ps - thanks for the comment on my pic! I couldn't do it without the support of my sparkies!

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CELLISTA1 2/19/2011 2:04PM

    We naturally crave comfort and safety. The "real" world requires bravery. Negotiating a place for ourselves with "the right combination" of glasses on/glasses off is a very personal journey. Thank-you, Jan, for this wonderful metaphor. You bring such truth and authenticity to the table. Oops - bad metaphor!
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RIGBY31 2/19/2011 12:56PM

    And she lived happily ever after! Beautifully written.

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BUTEAFULL 2/19/2011 12:12PM

    I can't wait for a new chapter
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DAISY443 2/19/2011 10:59AM

    Can I borrow those rose colored glasses you put away, just for a day or two??
Great blog!

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GRACEISENUF 2/19/2011 10:18AM

    Okay you are a great storyteller Jan, love this.


I woke up at 5:30 to take my son to work...therefore I need these dark glasses!

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