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My New Motivation

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

I have newly invigorated motivation.

I have been worrying over the last 14 months how I could lose a lot of weight before December 3, 2011. That's when my daughter gets married. I really shouldn't say I was "worried" because I wasn't doing anything about it. I would think of my plight, sigh, and take another treat to eat. That made me feel better until the next time I thought about how fat I am, how I can't fit into mother-of-the-bride clothes and how I will be so embarrassed to be seen this way at the wedding.

But my daughter told me 2 days ago that they would like me to have a larger role in the wedding. I am so excited! I get a real job! Instantly I had motivation overflowing!

I know some friends would tell me that getting thinner for an event is not the kind of thing which lasts. Next day, they say, I will be off my eating plan will start to regain. I don't think so. My only successful diets were 1) when I thought of arriving at college and being fat -- yuck, 2) when I was engaged and kept thinking of having fat wedding photos for the rest of my life, 3) when I was given the warning by my doc that I was close to becoming diabetic unless I lost 10% of my body weight very soon. All 3 times I lost a significant amount of weight. The first 2 times were about my pride, because I wanted to look better. The 3rd time was because of health concerns. I have had general health concerns for years, but they were not specific enough to motivate me. Now I have both motivations, and I feel certain I will stay on my lifetime eating plan after Dec. 3rd. After all, my son will probably get married in a few years....

I wonder if I should change my blog to private so no one can rain on my parade, but very few people read my blog. If you do, please don't leave a comment telling me that this will not work for me, or I'll arrange for the goddess of pounds to wave her wand and magically send all my lost pounds to find you! At least my sense of humor is still in tact and I've already lost 2 pounds which may be looking for a new home!
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KERRIEH2 2/18/2011 3:06AM

    Congratulations on your new role in the wedding. how wonderful is that. I felt left out of my sons wedding last year and I am feeling the same about the wedding of my number 3 sons coming up in July.
as for motivation what ever works because as you know we are all our worst enemy's when it comes to self-criticism, so good on you.
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KA_JUN 2/15/2011 11:11PM

    Go forward, make it happen!

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SUSANSLIFE 2/15/2011 11:02PM

    Thanks, EWESTCOTT, Becky, Susie and Jo -- I appreciate your kind comments!

Susie, I had just been unable to dig deep down and come up with the pluck to tell myself NO, and I couldn't get back into tracking and all, so I stopped reading spark emails or even come to the site But now I am so happy and excited, and though I forgot to mention it above, I always need to be happy for my eating to fall within my own guidelines. My role in the wedding is rather unbelievable -- I had never heard of this. I knew the happy couple was not going to have any religious persons perform the ceremony, since my daughter is Protestant and her fiancee is Catholic. So I figured they would use a JP. My daughter then told me about a month ago that they were going to have an "officiant" marry them: this is a person who has made it a career to go around the country marrying couples. I said to her "Is that even legal???" She explained that yes, all states allow it, you just have to look up the regulations for your state and county. So I said, very logically, why don't you let ME be the officiant which would save you money? I suggested that the 2 moms could do it jointly. My daughter said she'd talk it over with her fiancee, but she thought that her future mother-in-law's health would not permit it. And I could tell that she thought her fiancee might nix the idea. Well, on Sunday she called and asked if I was still interested because they were 90% decided to take me up on my offer and were enlisting her fiancee's dad to join me. This sounded fabulous to me and I said I would read up on it again, and they could let me know when they definitely decide, for me to make the arrangements. So I will be the one who actually says "Do you take..." etc.!!!!!!!!!!! Isn't that cool? To me it is the ultimate way for a parent to give their blessing on the marriage, the penultimate way to show my love for both of them. I am so excited. Oh, I keep saying that.... And yes, it is completely legal, as long as I register with the county and say the Do you take... words and mail in the completed wedding certificate to the town clerk after the ceremony. Far out! To think we can go from giving birth to truly marrying them off! What a roller coaster ride!
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JOSEPHINE1231 2/15/2011 10:30PM

    Good for you and you sense of humor. And hey, what ever motivation works for you, go for it. I think a wedding is pretty decent motivation myself, and you do have "enough" time to make a real difference in your weight.

Jo

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NURSESUSIE51 2/15/2011 12:37PM

    You know darn well I'm NOT going to rain on your parade!! I think both my girls are probably going to get married within the next year so I have the same motivation. Let's DO this! emoticon

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PS: I'm glad to see you back on here. I missed you! And what's your role in the wedding??

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BECKYI39 2/15/2011 12:16PM

    Glad to hear you have motivation that excites you! GO WITH IT!!!! emoticon

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MEADSBAY 2/15/2011 11:54AM

    Hey- no-one should be judging what works for you.
There are a thousand and one paths.
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