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Complete randomness -- what I've been up to, and what's with men?


Sunday, February 13, 2011

I haven't blogged in a while. I tend to only blog when I have something major or profound (to me) to share, but I've got lot's of stuff rattling around so here goes.

First, I'm feeling kind of cruddy again. I was sick for a day about a week ago and thought I'd fought it off, but my dad (first) then my mom have been sick this week with the crud and today I woke up feeling achy and tight in my chest. I've taken Ibuprofen and hopefully will again fight it off.

Last night I went to a trivia night. I was invited by my brother and his fiancé. It was hosted by their church. I am kind of a loner, basically shy and am uncomfortable around a bunch of people I don't know, but I've been trying to spread my wings and expand my horizons, so I went. It was fun. There were probably a hundred people there and we were in tables of 10 or so. My brother and his fiancé were the only people I knew. I had a good time and would do it again.

Today it was actually beautiful out and I was determined to go for a run even though I was feeling puny. I talked my 15 yr old into running with me (well not with me --- at the same time). He runs a lot faster and I just told him to run for 30 minutes and turn around and I'd do the same and we'd meet back at the car. It was wonderful. Outside in the sunshine was amazing! I even took pics of my sweaty self when I got back to the car. I like them even though my hair is a mess and I'm all sweaty.



When we got home, I made a smoothie. It was good! Sounds terrible (according to my son). It had a cup of lowfat soymilk, a scoop of chocolate protein powder, a tbl of spirulina powder, a scoop (tsp?) of dehydrated acai berry, some splenda (I know, not the best) a cup of frozen sliced strawberries, a 1/2 cup of mixed berries frozen (blueberries, blackberries, raspberries) mixed together in the blender until it is a frozen frothy milkshake consistency. It was yummy! DS wouldn't try it because the spirulina powder is green and smells like the inside of a fish tank, but thankfully you can't taste it when it's mixed with everything else. Otherwise I could never stomach it. When I was eating it my son said "who would have ever thought you'd have turned into one of those "health nuts" we used to laugh at. It's true. I am getting more and more interested in health and being healthy every day.

After my smoothie we went to Barnes and Noble to get a new book. I had to spring for it because my library didn't carry it. "The New Rules for Lifting for Women". I can't wait to read it. Some of the awesome ladies on SP have mentioned reading it and I'm excited to read it. I'm really enjoying the new strength training I'm doing and can already feel results in my upper body.

This month I've been taking swimming lessons twice a week. I've wanted to learn to lap swim and its been great. I could never figure out the breathing. I've learned the freestyle (crawl), the back stroke, and last week the breast stroke. I've gotten the first two down fairly well, but not the breast stroke. I can't figure out the kick. Maybe this week I'll get it down too. It's amazing how you can have stamina in one type of workout, but not in another. I can run several miles at a time, but swimming kicks my butt. In addition to the swimming lessons, my instructor teaches a class called aqua kick on Saturday mornings. I've taken it the last two Saturdays. It's awesome! For 50 minutes you wear fins and use a kick board and do laps. She puts a workout on the board and challenges you and times you. You do different kicks on your front, on your side and on your back. You end the class by doing a timed vertical kick in the deep end. Basically you tread water (with your fins) while raising your hands above your head. HARD! The class is a great workout! Afterward I stayed and swam laps. I just need to build my stamina. It's exhausting. But I'm loving it.

Ok on to my final topic... whats with men? I'm signed up on a couple dating websites. Not really pursuing anything, but just spreading my wings so to speak. If any of you remember, I went on a couple dates last fall and when I wouldn't hop into bed with the guy I'd spent about 3 hours total with, he never called again.

Well, a couple weeks ago, I was contacted by a fella that kinda seemed interesting to me, so I responded. We emailed a couple times and he asked if he could text me. I said yes. We began texting. They were very general -- good morning. How are you. Good night. What are you doing. That kind of thing. Very few of any substance. This went on for more than two weeks. Finally last Thursday he sent me a text with a pic of a rose. I texted back thank you. Then he said you're welcome. I'd like to meet you soon. I said that would be nice. That was all we said. A couple hours later, when I was walking into the gym for my swim lesson I got another text. I expected it to be asking me on a date. Instead ......

IT WAS PORN!!!!!

(warning TMI)

It was a photo of a naked couple with the woman in a backbend etc. and the text said. This is called 79. Like a 69 but with 10 extra points for difficulty.

Ok.... is it just me or is it improper to send porn to someone you've never met?

I was so astounded! What was the point of that? To see if I was willing to do that? Beats me.

I fretted about it all through class and when i got home I texted him and told him I didn't appreciate it. That while I believe a wonderful sex life is important to two people who love each other, I didn't feel it was right to send porn to someone you've never met. That I didn't want to hear from him anymore.

The text I got in return....

OK.

ARRGGHHH!!!!!

I think I portray myself as a fairly classy lady. I mention on my profile I say that my relationship with God is the most important thing to me and I state when i text or talk that I attend church every week, so WHAT THE HECK!!!!

Anyway, this may seem very silly, but I am proud of myself for kicking him straight to the curb. I deserve sooo much better than that junk. I don't have to take whoever shows me any interest. I'd rather be alone.

So friends, if you've made it through this rambling blog. Thank you, you all are awesome!!!!!

Love ya
Susan
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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GOIN4GR8 4/9/2011 10:11AM

    You look BEAUTIFUL in the photo from your car after the run, and I'm not just saying that--you have the glow of feeling strong and healthy and good about what you've accomplished, plus you're just plain pretty, so that all makes you look even prettier! Good for you.

And OMG to the porn guy--that's just unreal. Would have given me the creeps, too; you handled it perfectly.

Have a great weekend! emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/14/2011 10:53PM

    I take Airborne when a cold is coming on and it helps me.

The trivia night sounded fun.

I love exercising outdoors and love bookstores.

I used to teach adult swim lessons. I taught both my parents. LOL.

OMG, the guy was such a creep!! Ugh!!

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CHRISTURTLE 3/7/2011 5:34AM

    Congratulations on replying the way you did to that guy - well, we know why HE is still single, don't we? You don't need anyone with the opinion that that was a romantic thing to send to someone he had never met, or to think it was a joke. It may well be, may be ok between two guy friends, although not being a guy I am only guessing at that, lol. You deserve far better than him, and I'm glad you made it clear what you thought of his 'communication'.
As my friend's mother used to say, you have to eat a heck of a lot of oysters before you find a pearl. Your own particular 'pearl' will appear in your life when the time is right.

Loved the running photos, you are definitely doing well, and it shows! Your smoothie sounds wonderful, and my daughter (the one in the Army who is a fitness fanatic) said much the same to me about my healthier lifestyle - that I used to laugh at people who ate what I do, said they must have a really sad life to find enjoyment in eating those foods.... wow, was I wrong about that!

Thanks too, for the comment on my blog about reaching my revised goal weight, which certainly doesn't mean I won't be Sparking every day as usual. No way could I keep this lifestyle going without constant contact with my Spark friends!

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PIANOMOMOFTHREE 2/25/2011 11:57PM

    I applaud you for sticking to your morals and not succombing to every ridiculous attempt to get you into bed! And yes, it's totally wrong to send porn to someone you've never met!! And yes, there are some great guys out there! Just takes time to find the roses in the bed of weeds!

Congrats on your running excursion, too!!

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MRNOTABOUTFACE 2/25/2011 10:19PM

    Congrats on the progress you're making in so many areas of your life. All I can say about that guy is that at least he made it easy for you to weed him out. On to the next guy - we're not all bad!

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JHARTSCOM 2/25/2011 9:50PM

    Hello Susan,

It does seem like there's a lot of players out there... you just need to be patient, and the right one will come along, and don't put up with guys like that. Good job kicking porn-boy to the curb. In my experience, it seems like the online dating sites tend to attract players like that. Keep up the great work you're doing a great job.

Always remember you’re beautiful and awesome!
Judy

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EKFFAZR 2/14/2011 2:46PM

    Just keep running emoticon and having the smoothies, and the proper guy will come along when you aren't even looking, because you will be worth it.

keep the faith


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SKINNYPOWELL1 2/14/2011 1:42PM

    Like your sweaty pic, good job with keeping up your running and sounds like you are kicking up quite a splash at the pool. emoticon

I would have done the same thing as you - kick'em to the curb, you deserve sooooo much better than that.

Just keep focusing on yourself, working on the swimming, etc. and when you least expect it, that Prince Charming is going come riding in on a white horse, it always seems to take us by surprise.

You are sweet lady, and that Prince is out there, don't settle for anything less. emoticon

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JBARSTOW 2/14/2011 10:33AM

    Hi there, three items in your blog I want to touch on:

1. If you're fighting that tightness in your chest for more than a week, please go see your doctor. It could be moving into bronchitis. I made the mistake of ignoring that once, and it turned from a cold to bronchitis to walking pneumonia. Don't gamble; the stakes are too high.

2. Congrats on stepping out of your comfort zone and having fun at the trivia night. I'm an extrovert and still not always comfortable in a room full of strangers, I know it can painful for someone shy.

3. Good job kicking porn-boy to the curb. But at the same time, remember that not all men act like the ones you've put up with recently. If I had, I wouldn't have had the wonderful wife I've been blessed with for nearly 20 years. Cliches are easy and tempting, but rarely accurate across the board; don't let yourself fall into a trap of lumping all guys together at a glance. It'll make you defensive and more likely to miss the good one(s) when they show up.

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FUNFROG79 2/14/2011 8:35AM

    OMG! That guy is insane, how inappropriate! Sorry to hear! LOve your pictures, you look so cute in your band! Let me know how you like the book!

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KJDOESLIFE 2/14/2011 8:31AM

    Wow... that is definitely one for the record books. I dated a few men I met online, and I can't say any of them sent weird or inappropriate messages prior to or after meeting. Good luck! I know there are some good guys out there!

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POOHLA711 2/14/2011 8:10AM

    What a pig! Don't give up on online dating. I met my husband online. I had to weed out a few pigs before I got to him, but joining match.com was the best decision I've ever made.

Those pictures of you after running are two of the most beautiful pics I've seen of you. You have that runner's glow and the look on your face reads strong, accomplished, and at peace.

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HEALTHYASHLEY 2/14/2011 7:34AM

    Online dating is strange. Many of the men behave that way. I don't get it either. Good for you for standing up for yourself! I love the running pics!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 2/14/2011 7:21AM

    I think men have no clue. Do your best to let go of that situation, and I'll do my best to take my own advice about mine. I swear, we can only count on ourselves.

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ATREAT4ME 2/14/2011 7:15AM

    Your pictures are beautiful. You look strong and healthy! And obviously you ARE because you're easily kicking gutter trash to the side, your teenage DS just called you a health nut, you spend $$ on books about getting stronger, and you mentioned not 1, not 2, but 3 different kinds of exercises that you're doing in one post. You ROCK!

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ALOFA0509 2/14/2011 6:52AM

    Running pix are awsum!!! Your lookin soo good girl.. As for the idiot, uugghh- Soo glad you kicked him to the curb!!!! Good Riddance. Happy Running Sista, oh and Happy Valentines Day emoticon

Hugs,
Alofa

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TIMEFORTHISMAMA 2/13/2011 11:34PM

    Wow, crazy! I am glad you found out before you met him in person! What has the dating scene become? I am a bit older than you and single as well and it is difficult to meet someone, but i have not given up , Good luck to you! Happy Valentine's Day to you from one single woman to another emoticon emoticon

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SCHENPOSSIBLE 2/13/2011 10:55PM

    Wow, this guy sounds like an animal. When I was single a lot of the guys that I would meet online were just worried about sex/sexting. Not my forte at all. Hang in there. Maybe you'll be the next success vignette on the eharmony commercial. Their current commercial says it's free membership for the month. Might be an option? In any case, good luck!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 2/13/2011 10:32PM

    Love the after running photos ...
Swimming sounds like heaven. I wish there was a pool in my neighborhood that was for use.
Hmmm, the porn text, in a word - NASTY. Shame on him.

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