Those are 2 comments I've heard this week. Those are the FIRST comments I've heard, since starting this journey, from people who don' t know that I'm losing weight & getting fit.
The first comment came from an aquaintance at our co-op. One of the other mom's said, "have you lost weight?" When I answered, "Yes! Almost 25 pounds!" She told me she'd noticed a few weeks ago but wasn't sure, but this time she was sure I'd lost weight.
Then, today, a friend needed a ride. I've known this lady for about 18 years, though we only see each other a few times a year now. I was sitting down in the car with jeans and a t-shirt on and was shocked when she said "Wow... you've lost a lot of weight!"
What's sad is I went on & on about what I've been doing & how I've lost the weight. This lady is 'morbidly obese' and when she walked out of the house I thought, "wow! she's lost a lot of weight!" But, I just said "You look great!" when she got in the car. She started talking about my weight loss & then her husband's (he's also 'morbidly obese' - she said he lost a lot but has since gained it all back). Well, I wasn't sure what to say. I thought, won't she tell me she's lost too? Am I imagining it? Will I offend her?
When she got out of the car and walked away, I was SURE... she'd lost a lot of weight! And, now I feel bad that I didn't say anything.
So, this started as a wonderful post & led into my wondering why I didn't speak up & if I could have offended my friend...
I guess the reason I might think I could offend her was that I have been offended quite a few times. You see, my husband's grandmother is a dear, sweet lady... but every time I see her (I've been married almost 18 years), she tells me I've lost weight! Of course, most of the time she's wrong. I've often wondered just how big she expects me to be? Does she keep being surprised I'm not as big as she remembers? (We only see her 3-4 times a year.)
So, last thought... have you ever got offended by someone telling you that you look like you've lost weight when you haven't? Is it better just to tell someone you think they've lost weight & they look great? (that's why I left it as "you look great!")
Well, gotta tuck in my daughter. I hope you all had a wonderful day & have a wonderful evening & healthy day tomorrow!