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Getting it togeather

Thursday, February 10, 2011

OK I thought when I retired I would get it all togeather, plan meals, get organized, get rid of stuff, sort, clean, go to classes, have time, do things I wanted to do. Now I'm retired, for almost two weeks and it hasn't happened, this week I'm having trouble thinking reasons to even get up. If I didn't have to pee, I probably wouldn't. Then the cat is hungry and I need to feed the dog, and my sugar is low so it's time to start feeding me. But I'm not sure what I want to eat, not like I have a big choice, I hate shopping and am living off of what my husband, who has passed, bought before he had a stroke, in November of 09. Lots of canned goods, Seems like I would lose, just because. Well I do the meal thing but most of my calories must be after lunch as I do my Spark first thing. I have go to get it togeather, meloncoly, moodieness, lonesomeness, all reasons to eat, not get up, not get out, not. Lord help me get it all togeather.
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ANAMORPHOSIS 3/15/2014 12:34PM

    So sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers.

You've been retired for only two weeks, please give yourself time to settle into it and take it easy. Walking with friends is a great idea. Taking baby steps is all you need to make things change.

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IMAVISION 3/15/2014 12:23AM

    I believe (from observing my own dear MrV --- he took early retirement almost four years back) retirement brings a whole new set of emotions & even as much as one has looked forward to retiring, it does takes time to adjust to the changes. Give yourself time & before you know it your days will be filled from the moment you awake to the time you drift off to sleep.

One simple thing to do --- invite others who live alone over for morning coffee or for an afternoon of visiting over a game or two of cards. Then, when it gets warm enough, invite those folks to become your walking buddies. Those things would be a start to enriching your days.

I am rootin' for you!

God bless!

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REBBUL67 4/24/2011 10:28PM

    Mom-
I am happy that you are going to classes now. You have a knack for writing & you will get it together, with everything else. Keep making small strides toward your goals & you will surely see improvement along the way. I love you so much! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARAHAB 2/27/2011 6:24PM

    Oh, sorry for your husband's loss. It does take time to adjust to something that traumatic!

After my mother's death, I found it hard to get motivated for at least 4 weeks and then I thought of how she had coped with my father's death. It took her quite some time, but then it was spring and she started planting flowers and she slowly returned to her positive self.

So, too, once I got the seeds started as she always had, I honored all the wonderful things she had taught me!

I'm praying for you and hope you keep reaching out to sparkfriends and to other friends. We're in this together.

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SAGARINO 2/16/2011 7:26PM

    Well now, most of your reasons for getting up are just about the same as mine--except I only have a part-time dog (my daughter's when ever she goes away)plus I have fish & 3 cats not one. I had quit working to look after my DH (I couldn't afford to pay for a full time person to stay with him when he was home from the hospital.) His care/drugs wiped out our savings so my daughter bought me a little house close to her & I pay a token rent. I'm working part-time (about 10-15 hrs a week) mostly just to get out of the house.

I had to get rid of a lot of things while my hubby was ill--his wheelchair wouldn't go through the doorway so got rid of sofa/chairs/bookcases/dining room set/etc etc to make room for hospital bed/lift commodes/wheelchairs etc. I packed a lot of things which are still packed & someday I'll go through them--pictures/knickknacks and so on. But still can't face the memories they will bring on so they wait!

He passed Oct 19/08 & still have a hard time so don't beat yourself up--it takes time--I kind-of say it's like AA just take one day at a time.
Take care-Sandi
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