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The Single Life


Monday, February 07, 2011

Last Wednesday my boyfriend of 5 years and I broke up, amicably. At the very least, we will remain friends which is important to me since he was such a big part of my life. But, man is it tough. Especially when he's going out with his 23 year old coworker with in 3 days. For the record she asked him. I don't know why it hurts so much, we split because neither of us were what the other wanted. I can name the things we had in common on one hand, but it still chokes me up when he's getting ready to go on a date with her. I should mention that we are still living together (separate rooms) since we have 6 more months on our lease. Maybe its because he moved on so quickly and I'm hurt for purely selfish reasons. When we were together I felt stifled in our relationship and that I couldn't go do what I wanted to do for fear of hurting him. The freedom is amazing, but also scary. I turned 27 a few months ago and know that I want a family someday. Since I don't want to wait until I'm 36, like my mom, that means my time is running out. But on the other hand, I can be me, I can figure out what I want to do and do it. I'm not being held back (figuratively not literally) any more and I'm definitely better off for having known him. I just hope that our friendship (which was much stronger than our "relationship") will stay strong.
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SYMONEB 2/8/2011 3:48PM

    Thanks for the encouragement! It makes it better knowing that it will get easier! emoticon

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CHIQUENS 2/8/2011 12:14AM

    I'm 36 and at 25 my ex and I got divorced. He's one of my best friends, but when he started dating right away, it was awful. Thing is, here I am 11 years later, and I'm SOOO much happier than I was, and I think than I would have been, had I stayed in the relationship. It killed me when he started dating other people. I constantly wondered if I had done the right thing. But looking back, it's awesome. I love my life, I love where I am, having the freedom to do what I want, when I want, without having to explain or justify anything to anyone. And our friendship did remain strong. I helped his new bride get into her wedding dress at their wedding a few years ago, since she didn't have any attendants.

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NOMORESTALLING 2/7/2011 9:18PM

    yes breaking up is a hard thing to do but you know what like you said the freedom is great. It was a life experience that changed you. take that experience and turn it into the positive now. Focus on who is most imprtant YOU. Go get what you want now without any inhibitions.
Start with making a list of your goals.
Remember
A person who wants something will find a way.. A person who doesn't will find an excuse...

I want happiness.
I want to jog, maybe even run one day
I want to feel pretty/attractive/sexy;
I want connfidence;
I want to wear the smaller jeans I have hanging in my closet
I want to be a success story
I want to make my hubby proud;
I want to be healthy
I want to motivate others with my story
I want this to become habit, routine;
I want to look forward to exercising, everyday;
I want my mind to be quiet, to quit picking on myself;
I want peace;
I want comfort;
I want stability;
I want to be strong
I want to be muscular instead of soft
I want to not be judged
I want to go into a store and pick out any piece of clothing
I want to be able to shop in the regualar sizes even petite sizes
I want to be proud of my weight and clothes size
I want to be optimistic;
I want to look in the mirror and like what I see
I want to admire myself
I want to love myself;
I want to love myself more
I want to make myself proud
I want my outer body; appearance to match my inner mind and spirit.
You owe this to yourself.

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KM336511 2/7/2011 2:26PM

  I know exactly how you feel. I was 27 when I got divorced and my ex is already remarried to a girl he was dating right after we split. There are good things and bad things about being single and sometimes I miss having "someone" I always tell myself that I am glad I am availible when the right person comes along though. I am 29 now and I promise it will get easier!!

Kristen
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KM336511 2/7/2011 2:26PM

  I know exactly how you feel. I was 27 when I got divorced and my ex is already remarried to a girl he was dating right after we split. There are good things and bad things about being single and sometimes I miss having "someone" I always tell myself that I am glad I am availible when the right person comes along though. I am 29 now and I promise it will get easier!!

Kristen
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