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COULDA, SHOULDA, WOULDA

Saturday, February 05, 2011

I read Nancy Howard’s blog, EXCUSES GIVE US PERMISSION TO FAIL, and as I promised in my comment, I copied her blog to save to my computer and inserted my own excuses / permissions to fail that did indeed lead to “failure” (NAY! Setbacks that I have learned from!) this week:

1. Lunch w/ a friend from 1:00 -5:00 on Monday! It was great; I had not eaten much at all and had a great time with my friend! Then I ate way too much for supper and afterward! I COULDA had a great day! Instead, I blew it with SELF-INDULGENCE, thinking I could have a free-for-all with my calorie allotment the rest of the evening! LESSON: SHOULDA eaten a healthy meal to end the day and been happy for the satisfaction of emotional hunger’s being more than satisfied with friendship (instead of celebrating with so much food)!

2. Merry Maids on Tuesday. I resent their TIME at my house when I want to be alone. LESSON: SHOULDA been more THANKFUL for the work they do that I cannot do! SHOULDA been more flexible with “my time!” SHOULDA remembered that time is not mine! SHOULDA not eaten out of frustration because my schedule had been interrupted.

3. Dinner at Chili’s on Wednesday. What a menu to choose something low-calorie / healthy from! However, I COULDA had a salad! I COULDA eaten HALF of the burger and fries! I made a wrong choice. I made several wrong choices from the time I did not eat enough at lunch and left home hungry. I chose to eat a package of crackers before I got out of our subdivision. My next wrong choice was at Starbucks. I ordered vanilla scones for my granddaughter (Yeah!) and ate one before I arrived at the traffic light! By the time I ordered dinner, I had already eaten two things I “SHOULDA not” eaten. That was NO REASON! It was a very poor excuse to order poorly at Chili’s. I SHOULDA remembered Beth’s words and ORDERED SMALL! It COULDA been done! I COULDA rescued the day! LESSON: I need to remember that NOW IS THE TIME TO order small / eat right, no matter what wrong choices I have made earlier!

4. Another excuse I’ve used all week is my sleep deprivation which has been due to several different things, some avoidable, some not. I’ve learned that sleep deprivation is a major trigger for my overeating. I COULDA gotten more sleep! LESSON: Be disciplined about getting to bed before 11:00PM!

I’m paying for my “excuses” with a gain today. My heart COULD be singing with the excitement of success and the self-respect that is a result of self-discipline / self-control. It SHOULDA been! LESSON: FOCUS more on my goals; make a VISION STATEMENT; LEARN from these mistakes and don’t make them again! Remember that SMALL THINGS DONE CONSISTENTLY LEAD TO BIG CHANGES! Give myself CREDIT for doing some things right, e.g., thinking on these things and determining to learn from my mistakes and keep heading toward my goals. This is the time in my efforts to change my lifestyle that I usually decide I’m destined to be fat. That is a lie I am not going to accept anymore! I am working to see myself as a thin, healthy, energetic old woman! I am also determined to drink MORE WATER – even if it does seem that it WOULD be more efficient to pour it straight into the toilet!

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MICHAELAL33 4/19/2011 8:18PM

    I still go out to eat a lot. I have printed copies of the menus from all my favorite restaurants, that way i make the decision before i get there. At starbucks (I go every day) I order the skinny versions of three drinks, carmel macciato, vanilla latte, or cinnamon dolche. Those have about 120 cal for a grande. If I really want a treat I order the light frappichinos, 140 cal in a grande. Make sure you get enough sleep it's easier to stay on track that way.

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CHATTIEGIRL 4/11/2011 8:31PM

    Hi Barbara;

It is hard to get started but you can do it and you are learning from your mistakes. I use a dessert plate to eat instead of a dinner plate and put 1 spoon full of each item, veggie, meat, starch. No seconds and I have lost weight doing this. I eat brown rice and sweet potatoes for starch. A lot of veggies and fruit and plenty of water. Once you get you mind around I AM GONG TO DO THIS AND NOT FAIL you will win. I go to lunch with my friend and bring more then half of it home and have 2 meals out of it and because I am taking home no desserts. You can do things that are your ideals that can help you so go for it dear.

Continue to be focused on your healthy living and reach your goals. God bless and watch over you. Learn from Spark people every day.

Joyce

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NEVERORNOW 2/15/2011 9:07PM

    emoticon blog!! You've learned from your mistakes. That in itself is progress. And you are still here and more determined than ever. Breaking those habits can take a long time, but I know you (and I) are going to do it and be those feisty old women we are aiming to be. emoticon

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BIPOLARBEAR68 2/7/2011 12:59AM

    I REALLY LIKE YOUR BLOG. YOU STOPPED BY MY PAGE AND LEFT ME A NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT AND TOLD ME THAT YOU USED TO LIVE NEAR BY WHERE I LIVE NOW.

MY COULDA, WOULDA, SHOULDA LIST IS VERY LONG ALSO BUT I AGREE WITH THE OTHERS THAT HAVE COMMENTED ON YOUR BLOG THAT WE HAVE TO GET THERE ONE STEP AT A TIME AND THAT WE CAN AND WILL BEAT THIS. I AM GOING TO TRY TO DO YOUR SUGGESTION OF LOOKING AT IT AS JUST DOING 10 MINUTES AT A TIME. I HAVE AN EXERCISE BIKE IN MY SISTERS ROOM AND I HAVE FULL PERMISSION TO USE IT SO, I AM GOING TO START USING IT EVEN IF IT IS FOR JUST 10 MINUTES AT A TIME.

THANK YOU FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT

CAMI

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MOUNTAINS2CLIMB 2/6/2011 12:13AM

    This is a great blog, thank you for sharing! I think many of us can identify, I know I certainly can. It seems I am always at odds with myself - my desire is one thing, yet I still do the opposite. We will beat this and we will get there. You can do it!!!
Kristi

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MALEXANDER4 2/5/2011 5:33PM

    Love this blog. I know for me the coulda, woulda, shoulda, list is long. I say one thing and most generally i'm fighting myself because i'm doing something else. we will get there one step at a time.

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