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My Marathon Goal...

Friday, February 04, 2011

I made up my mind... It was a toss up between Chicago IL or Rochester NY . Rochester won.

I feel the need to bring the fight to my hometown. I haven't seen my family since my mom passed away in 2000. In a way, this is a much needed leg in my journey because I have always been ashamed for letting myself go like I have and didn't want anyone to see me like that.

Now, running the marathon represents the pinnacle of what i have tried to do for the last three years. Its my graduation.

My reasons for wanting to take on the challenge of the Marathon are numerous.
If you don't define the why of a goal, you will find it harder to reach it.

My whys are these....

1) Frankly, men are designed to conquer. My obesity has basically stripped me of all pride and I need a "Mount Everest" to climb to prove that, at 41 yrs old, I'm not over the hill, I'm just getting started baby - BRING IT! I'm a man and I'm still in the fight! Ego or not, that's the way it is and how I'm put together. I need to prove it to MYSELF that I am worthy of respect, self respect can only be earned.

2) I need a big goal to keep me focused. 26.2 miles is really scary to me because I know what it is to hit the wall when running... not pretty. I will never be satisfied with where I am at until I "pass the test". A Marathon does not mean you are or are not a runner but it is a calling. I was a runner the day I ran my first race. It's the LOVE of what you do not the distance. I feel the Marathon calling me and have felt it calling since I completed my half.

3) It is my personal "graduation". While one never truly arrives in this journey, I feel like it "seals the deal" for me. I want to be immersed in this new lifestyle head to toe and never look back.

Whether I will continue to run marathons remains to be seen. I love half marathons shorter distance races simply because you can do more of them and I LOVE the atmosphere of a good, well organized event. Its like one big party with a Woo Hoo at the end. I never get tired of finish line fever, it is one of life's most affirming experiences.

I love you guys/gals, you really make a difference for me. I get really busy with a very demanding work schedule and I don't get around to all of my friends but I care alot and those that really know me will vouch for that. I love to hear from you in emails and comments. You keep me going and I hope I can return the favor.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
IMSMILEY88 2/12/2011 9:47PM

    I love your goal...and your reasons for setting it! I'm considering running my first marathon later this year,too, but we'll see! I hope your training and your race are all you hope them to be! You can DO IT!!! (from an almost-41-year-old... you are right! We are not 'over the hill'... we're just getting started!!!)

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TYKXBOY 2/10/2011 6:34PM

    After running the LV Rock N Roll Half Marathon with 30,000 of my closest friends, I am next going to run the Summerlin Half Marathon which has participation limited to just 400 entries! It will definitely be a much different experience.

It's so awesome your family with be there and can see how far you've come. Your journey and your blog and your enthusiasm never fails to inspire me. You will do awesome and I already can't wait to read your race report!

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FITFUNKYMAMA1 2/8/2011 11:32PM

    I think you are right in that you need to do this leg of your journey.You are going to rock this run!!!! You WILL CRUSH IT!!!! You are just getting started and you are doing emoticon !!!

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DONNA2238 2/8/2011 7:07AM

    What an awesome goal! I like what you said: "I want to be immersed in this new lifestyle head to toe and never look back." A NEW lifestyle---cool. One that takes over from the old one. Most of us are striving for that---replacing the old with the new. Hope you have great success conquering this! emoticon

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SURYAH 2/6/2011 11:00PM

    Thanks for sharing that you care about us. We care about you too!

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ALLISONSATTIC 2/6/2011 10:24PM

    I had just watched your video about your journey and half marathon and asked if you were going to do a marathon..then I came to this entry and see you are !! Glad to see you reaching further!!

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MINNA72 2/6/2011 3:59PM

    Glad you arrived at a decision that feels right for you, Robert! I am certain that you will will make, not only yourself, but also your family proud!


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ABSOLUTZER0 2/6/2011 1:45PM

    You go and make your family proud, bro! I am going to run a small race at home, so my family can see me do something I love to do. My Pop was present to see me finish my first half marathon and my mother will be on hand to see my complete my first marathon. GO GET IT! I guess I need to get you a graduation present. *smiles*

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OKIE_RUNNERGIRL 2/6/2011 12:06PM

    I just finished my first full marathon in November. CONGRATS!!!!!!!! It is such a great accomplishment!!! I was very humbled at how many complete strangers have full faith in you that you WILL finish. Go get em!!!!!!!!!!

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GETNHEALTHY45 2/6/2011 8:22AM

    I like what you said about defining the whys making it easier to reach a goal. That is so true. Thank you for the inspiration. emoticon

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PELESJEWEL 2/6/2011 1:06AM

    I enjoy following your journey because you are constantly setting the bar higher and I admire that! BRING IT!

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LAURIE5658 2/5/2011 9:47PM

    Robert, CONGRATULATIONS for making this momentous decision. You will train smart cuz I know you. Best wishes to you as you embark on this awesome journey.

You RAWK!!

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ACTIVE_AT_60 2/5/2011 9:23PM

    Congratulations on the decision. You will be ready for the 26.2 - you have a few friends here who will make sure you are. Can't wait to meet you as you make your way to Rochester.

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HAPPYSOUL91 2/5/2011 7:34PM

    You said " I want to be immersed in this new lifestyle head to toe and never look back", you are fully engaged in your lifestyle. You are doing it all day, every day and I wish you the very best.


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BOILERINAZ 2/5/2011 7:27PM

    Marathons are mind over matter...your body will do whatever your mind says you can! Good Luck - you can do this!

My FAVORITE quote I got off of SP_NANCY's page is by an unknown author but its:

"There will be days when I don't know if I can run a marathon. There will be a lifetime knowing that I have."

I stuck it on my bathroom mirror while I trained for my first marathon!

Keep us posted on your training!

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GETUP-N-GOGIRL 2/5/2011 11:39AM

    Loved reading this particular blog, my friend. It takes me on your journey with you. One sentence you wrote keeps echoing in my mind: "Self-respect must be earned." I do believe this is 1,000 percent true!

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KILTGUY 2/5/2011 8:39AM

    That's an amazing goal to reach for. Good luck on your journey! To do it in your hometown is even better; I'd love to do the Detroit Marathon (or HM) for the same reasons. Best to you as you train!


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LALAFLOWERS 2/5/2011 8:14AM

    Glad you've found your race. I understand the need to have a target to work towards. Without it, I find it easy to blow off training runs, or not worry about a little gain (which often brings along a few friends... and a little gain can become a big one easily..)

Can't wait to follow your journey. I too love halfs, but and not yet ready to commit to the training required for a full. But, I know that I too will be picking MY race in the future, and working towards it. Just not sure when yet.

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ADKONKLE 2/5/2011 8:00AM

    You've got it sorted out. It is not the distance it is the pursuit something new.

We don't wonder why anymore we just know the answer is "because we can"

Keep on running and blogging Robert. The stuff you write feels like it could have come out of my head.

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CELEST 2/5/2011 8:00AM

    That me not just be a man thing my friend, sometimes woman have that same feeling. I cant wait to hear you say WOO HOO I DID IT. You go pal and keep on going cause you ARE going to taste the sweet taste of victory. Your spark name was a good choice for you.

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DRB13_1 2/5/2011 1:40AM

    emoticon Cheering you on, all the way to the finish line! emoticon

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LCORTEZ7 2/5/2011 1:06AM

    emoticon All the best Robert!

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CHICKIEMAUI 2/5/2011 12:50AM

    As always Rob you help me to see this in a different light ... You could have not said it any more perfect than with this blog!! So excited for you!! You are AMAZING!!!

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MOMMINATOR 2/4/2011 11:18PM

    Congrats on picking your race. Now that the decision is made you can concentrate on training.

Know your Sparkpeople cheerleaders are behind you all the way and look forward to encouraging you on your journey to your next triumph.

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SLPCOWGAL72 2/4/2011 10:54PM

    Best to you!!!

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HANSRICO 2/4/2011 10:45PM

    Awesome! Can't wait to get there. You'll do just fine!

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CM_GARDNER78 2/4/2011 10:31PM

    You need to close the chapter on one book, in order to start the next one. Wise choice....wise choice indeed. Can't wait to hear how you are doing in training, and how the race goes! You will be AWESOME!

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MOMONTHERUN1 2/4/2011 9:47PM

    Good for you! YOU CAN DO THIS!!! emoticon

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JEANNETTE59 2/4/2011 9:41PM

  emoticon 26.2 miles and a family reunion.

You are totally emoticon

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LOGOULD 2/4/2011 9:01PM

    You GO Robert!!! We're aching to have you run here in Chicago, but you're right Rochester is calling and you MUST answer that call. It's about so much more than just the marathon, and we understand that too. Give it your best...I know you will and you'll do emoticon .
Great tune, BTW, what was it??? Always looking for a great add to my training tunes collection!

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DARLENEK04 2/4/2011 8:10PM

    Stay go Robert.......


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ELAOPET 2/4/2011 7:14PM

    Go Rocky! Bring it home! emoticon

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LADYGWEN25 2/4/2011 6:57PM

    AWESOME goals For doing a Marathon... I have goals for doing a triatholon.. I agree..there needs to be a reason... I"m proud of you for making that leap.. GREAT JOB!!! :)

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MICHCLEARY 2/4/2011 6:37PM

    Good luck and thanks for the inspiration. I'm doing my first half on march 27th at the Dallas Rock n Roll. I can't wait.

Can't wait to read some of your training blogs!

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 2/4/2011 5:47PM

    I am so proud of you..this is GREAT!! good for you!!

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LAROSEBAUGH 2/4/2011 5:45PM

    WOO HOOOOOOO! I bet you are going to rock it! Can't wait to read about your training!

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MIZZSB 2/4/2011 5:40PM

    how inspiring!! 26 miles is a LONG run..
good luck!

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MUSCLEADDICT32 2/4/2011 5:33PM

  YAY!!! You will do great! One day I will run a marathon too..actually a bunch of them!!!! emoticon emoticon

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REMEMBER2BME 2/4/2011 5:33PM

    emoticon I know what it means to decide on a marathon. I need that goal to focus on too. I hope to make a decision too. Also, know.... really know that you may NOT be hitting any walls. I was relaxed and took my marathon easy and enjoyed it and NEVER hit a wall.

You will do great and I love your reasons. I can totally relate to self respect being earned. I feel stronger since I have run my marathon. I am on the job hunt now and it is a bit painful to say the least but I can tell I am more self confident. Running bleeds into everything else.

Again ... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KAMAPERRY 2/4/2011 5:23PM

    You are amazing, inspiring and in My book what a true male role model for others should be. Rock on, Robert! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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