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A fine line...

Friday, January 28, 2011

There is a fine line between dedication to a goal and being too stubborn to quit. I took a hard look at where I am at with training for this upcoming Spring Marathon and i am not ready at all. The biggest hinderance is the weather where I am at. You can only do so much on a treadmill. You need serious road time to properly train and due to injuries and illness, I would be stupid to try.

The Marathon is in May and about late March would be the earliest I could expect to hit the bricks. Add in recovering (still) from asthmatic bronchitus and there is just no way.

I am not upset about this. Rehab is expensive and big bills await those who are ego driven. Fortunately I am not driven by ego. I would rather run a powerful Half Marathon and walk away with victory or I can limp through a Marathon, collect my "survivors medal" and spend the next 3 months trying to recover. You cant fix stupid. A man has to know his limitations.

Rather, I am looking to take on this challenge in the Fall. It is up in the air whether I will run the Chicago Marathon or go back home to Rochester NY to run the Rochester Marathon. I havent seen my family since my mom passed away 10 years ago....I think its time to go home.

Actually this is a no brainer. Rochester it is. My Dad passed away when I was in my mid 20's and my mom passed away when I was 29. They kept her alive on life support just so I could fly in and have a chance to say goodbye. I still remember signing the authorization to pull the plug. It was a painful experience. The one person who embodied unconditional love, gone. All that is left of my immediate family is my sister. I am very familiar with the high cost of poor health and a lack of fitness.

For those that know me or care to know me, I work an insane schedule and am always too busy. Life doesnt stop and offer a coffee break. I need to make myself take the time or I will be the loser.
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    Sounds like the plan is B. You'll be glad for your choice. You are right, I'd much rather make a smarter athletic decision instead of a stupid one.

    Spark On!
    2000 days ago
  • v ERICA071678
    2001 days ago
    This is sensible and sane. So you are not only inspiring (that amazing video): you're really taking care of yourself in a way that works.
    2002 days ago
  • v SURYAH
    Congratulations on passing your certification. I lost my father to a massive heart attack
    at the ripe old age of 47 years. But thankfully I still have my mother who is going on 76 years.
    Keep doing what you are doing. I use to care for a little Jewish lady. Her entire family including
    parents died extremely young and lived fast wreck-less lives. She told me and I quote; I quit
    believing it was in my genes to die young after I passed the age of 80. She lived to be 99 years
    of age. emoticon
    2002 days ago
  • v DARLENEK04
    Sorry for the loss of your parents. Is your sister in NY?

    My daughter is having an Asthma incident right now, and I think her dr. waited too long
    to put her on antibiotics, now she thinks she has pneumonia. So I can sympathize with

    I don't know how old you are, but getting in shape is one of the best things you can do
    for yourself. But as to the working yourself into the ground...well, that is what you are
    doing, so you need to lighten up and slow down just a little and take some time for you
    to enjoy your life....spend time with the sister.....sad to say, my son and daughter do not
    get on together, and rarely talk...

    Take care of you,
    2002 days ago
    So sorry for your losses but you have it right on point! You have to be the master of your own reality and it sounds like you are on point! Go with your gut and take care of yourself. Keep on Sparking!
    2003 days ago
    It a wonderful thing to put yourself first and it's not a selfish thing to do. You're a smart man to see the reality of the situation and set new goals. Sometimes we have to do that and it doesn't mean we're a failure. Only you know what you're capable of. Stay strong and keep taking good care of yourself because the world is definitely better with you in it.

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    2003 days ago

    Wise words and choices my friend. Maybe when you come to Rochester we can say hi midway...and we will both be fitter and healthier.
    2003 days ago
    That's all part of our healthy lifestyle, right? Being wise about what your body can and cannot do is a very important lesson we all need to learn. It's much better to learn it BEFORE we hurt ourselves!

    Keep on keepin' on!
    2003 days ago
    You are so wise! emoticon
    2003 days ago
    You will do great! It is good that you are able to see that maybe waiting for a later one will be okay. I wish you the best of luck and know that you will train the best you can for the time being.
    2003 days ago
    I think Rochester is going to be a memorable event for you - it will bring out many different emotions. Better to run a marathon with meaning than to do one just to do it and then be injured.
    2003 days ago
    emoticon decisions like this can be so hard to make. You are right to be realistic and set achievable goals.

    2003 days ago
    I am so glad you have made these decisions! I am proud of you and happy that you are going to run a STRONG marathon in the fall AT HOME. No matter where we live, where we grew up with our parents is home. Good for you!

    GSARTOR and I were foiled again with crazy bad weather. No 5k outside for us today. I understand your frustration about not being able to get out and run outside....argh! We have decided to give up on the outdoor runs until spring and try to build better times in the gym on the treadmill.

    A man who knows his limitations is a wise man indeed!


    2003 days ago
  • v CELEST
    You are making a lot of sense on a lot of levels. Hope you enjoy your trip home, despite the losses.
    2003 days ago
    Such a smart man. YOu do what you feel is best. That my dear is the right decision. No doubt you will still push yourself. I know you have many goals in that head of yours. But you did have me worries there for a while or doing so much when sick. We all have to remember this is FUN right? No reason to work ourselves silly. You know we are with you no matter what.

    emoticon and of course a BIG emoticon for making smart decisions and making the best of every day!
    2003 days ago
    I think you're making a good choice by going home. I'm sure it's hard going and your parents not being there, but it sounds like you have other family members left and no one is promised tomorrow. Enjoy reminiscing about your parents, sharing stories, and making new memories. Don't forget to take your camera and take plenty of pics to remind you of the past as well to record the new memories you make. I had to pull the plug on my father about 6 years ago, and although it's not easy, you know they wouldn't want to stay here and be in the shape they're in. Keep your head up, take care of yourself so you can get better. It sounds like you've got a lot going on, but if you don't have your health, you've lost a lot. Good luck on whatever marathon you do. I know you'll do your best! You've come a long way, and this too will get better! emoticon
    2003 days ago
    Robert, it sounds like you have thought things through and have come to some solid, good-for-you decisions. I'm sorry you lost your parents so early in your life. Even though I've only run 5K's and 1 10-miler to this point, for me running a race in honor of someone/something or in memory of someone (for me, it's my mom) really raises things to another level. "Going home", literally and figuratively, is very powerful stuff. I wish you all the best in your training for your first marathon. I'm sure your parents are very proud of you, and you can be proud of how far you've come and the goals you've set for your future!
    2003 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/29/2011 5:30:42 AM
    I could not be more proud of you now! A man does not need excuses to do the right thing. A man does it and you just did. Realising that you are not ready now is not about knowing your limitations. I believe you just grew and opened your eyes to new truths. You keep building that body of yours up and the strength will come and so shall the fun of the journey. I too have to remind myself that less then 10 months ago I was morbidly obese - it is impossible to rebuild the body in such a short time, and impossible to reset your mind - it's a process and I am doing great! And so are you!
    Go. take a breather.
    2003 days ago
  • v MINNA72
    Good luck to you, Robert, whichever race you decide to do! Wishing you all the best in your recovery as well.
    2003 days ago
    Always enjoy your blogs and tonight is no exception. Love how you seemed to come to a decision as you were sharing your choices. Yes, it sounds like a good time for you to go home. And you are doing the right thing by not pushing yourself too far too soon. There are more marathons and half marathons than any of us can ever run--pick one with the timing that is best for you.
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    2003 days ago
    For what it's worth, I think you are making some very wise decisions. You have nothibg to prove to anyone by pushing yourself and risking injury which could leave you unable to run for the majority of the season or longer. There are many races to be won in life....we have to pick those that are wise for each of us given our place at that time. So far as your race later in the year, once again, I think you've made the right choice. We'd love to have you come run with us up here in Chicago, but Rochester is the more important race for yu at your time and place in life. If you should ever make it up here around Chicago though, let us know...maybe we can run together!
    2003 days ago
    Make time for the things that are important to you and make sure one of them is you! Life is just too short, fill it up with incredible things.
    2003 days ago
  • v ACTIVE_AT_60
    Robert. I think you are in a unique situation, knowing where you live, and I agree with you, you should not run any marathons in May without proper training even though you may find days UP there where you can run outdoors.

    I think one of the keys to success is careful planning of the season, and take everything into account, and I think you are doing a great job of that. I also think before you get into serious training, you need to rid yourself of the asthmatic bronchitis.

    I agree with you on the full vs. half marathons. A full marathon is not just a double half. It is a lot more than that. Yes, I have 6 full marathons under my belt since 2007, but I had my reasons, and it was not my ego. It was called charity. I don't particularly care for them for a number of reasons. However, the half marathon distance is a great distance, and I run it regularly both for training and as events.

    One thing to consider (Rochester vs Chicago) would be to be in your home town and perhaps run the event in honor of your mom and dad. It then give so much more meaning to do that distance. Just a thought.
    2003 days ago
  • v CM_GARDNER78
    I'm where you're at with being ego driven....not knowing when to say ENOUGH or NO just because I should! Great thought...I hadn't considered that before. I think it would be a wonderful thing to go home and hit it hard! What a great thing! Whatever you do - you will do the best thing for yourself.

    2003 days ago
  • v AMOHAME2
    I will admit to being somewhat ego driven. "Too stubborn to quit" pretty much describes me to a tee and I KNOW it's something I need to work on. I think you've made a wise choice! It takes a lot of strength, courage and smarts to realize when you've just bitten off a little more than you can realistically chew, and take a step back. A Fall marathon will be every bit of an achievement as a May one, and if it means running it injury-free and in your best form, it's a much bigger accomplishment!
    2003 days ago
    You are absolutely right there is a difference between being goal driven and too stubborn to know what is right for you. Not sense in hurting yourself when you it would take so much more time to get back to the thing you wanted to do in the first place. To RUN.

    And if you have to wait you may as well make it extra special and go home to do it. Keep walking the tightrope and the rest of us will try to help with the balance.
    2003 days ago
    It is great that you have that figured out. Last year I think I would have gone the other way. I know now I would make the right choice now too. Good for going to see your family as well. I wish you nothing but the best in your journey.
    2003 days ago
    We all know best, deep down and I couldn't agree more that waiting to run your marathon in the Fall is best! And going home to see your sister and other family sounds terrific!! You're going to do great! emoticon
    2003 days ago
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