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Hoarder vs Over Eater

Friday, January 21, 2011

I was watching a show on hoarders the other day. My heart went out to this woman who valued her "things" more than her relationship with her husband (which was ready to leave her if she didn't get rid of the stuff) Then something hit me......aren't I that way with food? Doesn't this extra weight keep my relationship with my husband at a distance? Do I really want him to touch me the way I should be touched? NO WAY! I'm embarrassed when he feels my rolls and bulges. So, becomes more important than relationships. It's so sad. I'm glad I saw it for what it is, though. I don't want food to come between me and my husband, my health, my vitality for life, my self esteem or the energy I need to play with my grandchildren. Enough is enough. I want to learn to eat to live not live to eat.

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PAMELAINIDAHO 1/31/2011 3:54PM

  I LOVE the comments! I thought people would just think I was nuts! LOL Good for you ladies who have lost weight, chosen a healthier lifestyle and are making CHANGE! WhoooHooooo!!!

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EBEAMS 1/31/2011 3:21PM

    Isn't it odd how food can't love you back but we can use it as a substitute for love? Good for you! Congratulations on your "AH-HA" moment! You can do it! PS ~ love that you're from Idaho too ...

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HEALTHYASHLEY 1/31/2011 2:53PM

    That was why I stopped overeating. I decided to pick me and my relationships over lying and eating. It is hard but it is possible. You can do it!

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    Good thoughts and so true! I have chosen food over people in my life for a long time without even realizing I was doing that. I'm glad I have chosen to get healthy instead, and as a result, I am enjoying my loved ones so much more. Visited my 17-month old and almost 5-year old grandkids this weekend. I had a ball with them, I got down on the floor and actually played with them. I haven't been able to do that for a very long time (like 30 years--long before they were born!), and it was wonderful! I'm glad I made the choice to lose the weight, part of my motivation was so that I would be around awhile longer to enjoy those grandkids, and ENJOY them I did!!!

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PAMELAINIDAHO 1/21/2011 7:35PM

  Thank you for your comments everyone. I'm glad I didn't sound like a complete lunatic! :-) I'm getting excited about the possibility of being "ok" with my husband seeing me with no clothes on. Right now it is just plain humiliating. I can't wait!!!! I sure wish there was a magic way, but there is only discipline and hard work ahead so onward hoe......

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PANSYLADY2 1/21/2011 3:17PM

    Interesting connection. I watch the "Hoarders" show, and it's like watching a train wreck. And you're absolutely right;some of us use food as a "protection" against intimacy. I know I used to do that. Now, there is no intimacy. Not feeling sorry for myself, just being real; hubby passed away, and I do miss his hugs. Maybe someday . . .

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MOLLYBROWN55 1/21/2011 12:44AM

    Great observation!


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SLIMMERJESSE 1/21/2011 12:24AM

    Welcome to SP! Best wishes for success.

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KISSIMMEE 1/21/2011 12:16AM

    That is a very interesting way of showing what is happening with our relationship with food! Thanks! emoticon

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