Thursday, January 13, 2011
You're either in or your out. Otherwise, you're making excuses. If you want something strongly enough, then you will do whatever it takes to achieve it, and if you don't, it's because you didn't do what you need to do, so stop making excuses.
I was the queen of making excuses. "I'm not going to go to the gym today because I'm tired." "I'm not going to go for my run today because my legs are feeling sore/tired." "I'm not going to do my paperwork today because I have other more important stuff to do." (Like sit on the couch and watch a movie). Any time I didn't accomplish a goal it wasn't because I was incapable of doing so, it was because I slacked off and made excuses - I didn't give 100%.
I'm a different person now, and I'm happy about that. If I don't accomplish something I'd like to, or I don't do something as well as I like, I no longer throw myself a pity party and make excuses. "Well, I didn't do as well as I could have because there was a frog crossing the road and he was in my way." No, not anymore. I accept the fact that if things didn't go my way, I didn't put in 100% and I work on that for the next time. There's no more "I didn't succeed because (insert something that is someone else's fault here)." It's my fault, and I accept responsibility.
If I don't make time, it's my fault. It's not because there isn't enough time. If I opt to stay in the house instead of head to the gym, that's my fault. It's not because I'm incapable of leaving my house. And, in the event that I am incapable of leaving my house, why not work out at home? If I eat that delicious looking piece of chocolate, or I inhale an entire half gallon of ice cream, that's my fault. The ice cream was not taunting me from the freezer and the piece of chocolate did not jump from the box into my mouth and force it's way down my throat.
I think that everyone has days when they make excuses, but some definitely do it more than others. I've noticed it in other people now. Once I decided that I was going to either be all in or all out, and if I failed it was on me, I started noticing how everyone makes excuses for everything. "I couldn't make it to the gym last night because..." "I couldn't eat a healthy dinner last night because...". If you want it, you'll do it. Simple as that.
Another pet peeve I have is people who complain about their situation and don't do anything about it. If you have something that you are unhappy about, do something about it. You can. There's no such thing as "I can't", it's only "I won't.", and if you're choosing not to, then don't complain about it. It's your decision - live with it.
I'll get off my soap box now. Just don't give me any excuses as to why you can't do something anymore...