Thursday, January 06, 2011
Like the Roger Miller lyric I generally “Don't like to do things I don't like to do”, but not always.
A blog I read the other day reminded of when I set out to learn how to folk dance. It was 20 years ago and I thought I might meet some interesting people and single women.
The first couple of times I went I found myself sweating from nerves. I didn't know what I was doing. I couldn't follow the instructions. I couldn't move in rhythm. I felt clumsy and incompetent. I don't like to do things I don't do well.
I realized then that my whole life I had only been doing things that I could do well immediately. But I stuck at it and after a few more weeks I began to catch on. That was a big boost to my confidence.
Soon I began to really enjoy it. I did meet really interesting people, like the woman who had been a nude gourmet vegetarian chef at a California nudist resort. I even got a few dates out of it (not with her) and made some friends. Doing something I didn't like to do led to some memorable experiences and a lot of fun.
I remember that experience when I find myself doing something I don't know how to do well. Sometimes if I stick with it, I will learn to do it well and I will start to enjoy it.