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I know I should be happy and festive, but

Thursday, December 23, 2010

doing so while living with scrooges is NOT easy. My step-son is downstairs right now playing his guitar. He chose to not go Christmas shopping with his dad - he has plans to help out friends this afternoon with moving. Yes, he has plans. Are they selfish...? I know I think they are, but I'm sure he sees it differently.

As the kids get older, they seem to care less and less about holiday cheer and more about how expensive their presents will be. New top-of-the-line knives for one (Seeing as ONE of these knives can cost about $250-$300 dollars, I think not). Very fancy new guitar for the other (costing around $1400-$2000). Really?? We already pay the mortgage, utilities, their school fees and clothes, and more!
Am I just feeling broke? Honestly, not really. Working with teenagers every day of the week shows me how some just don't seem to give a fig about others older than them.
Am I just taking my frustration with my students out on our two kids? I hate to admit it, but I'm sure that's part of it.

What I really want are some holiday Good Vibes right now. My husband is an amazing man that hates to do anything decorative for the holidays. So I choose to decorate as much as I can - happy to have help from him while I do this. Right now he's out doing some Christmas shopping - he says he's going to get supplies to make cookies to decorate. That'll be a blast! So I see I've got them. I've got the Good Vibes around me, I just need to focus on that and not take teenager angst personally.

I'm sure I was just as bad if not more so when I was a teenager. And lookie, I survived. emoticon
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    The comments left by both of you are wonderful! (Not to mention very appreciated!!)

    We're not going to kick the teenagers out because I agree - that'd be terrible for everyone. I love the idea of simply enjoying one on one time with my awesome hubby. He's definitely worth it - thank you for that suggestion, GOETZC2!

    And I LOVE the idea of decorating cookies while we're there, Anne! I've already shared that idea with Levi, and his smile was great.

    Woo Hoo! Thank you guys AGAIN!!
    2255 days ago
    We will help with the Christmas Spirit - that's one of the great blessings of having a 4 year old! Everything is magical!

    I don't think I worried about all mom did for us when I was a teenager, either. I just wanted more more more because we didn't seem to have much. I'm sorry it's wearing off on you, though. Your family is SUPER EXCITED to see you soon, so I hope that will help. I can make Christmas cookies to frost while you're here, if that is a tradition that is important to you, sister. Just let me know!

    2255 days ago
    A note from a recently revived "teenager" LOL!

    When in highschool I was the exact same way. Teen's have a hard time thinking about family, and a very easy time thinking about friends. There comes a time when your family isn't cool but your friends are. This is a short phase though, for most. My reality check was when I moved out way too young and realized the value of money.

    My suggestion? No, don't kick them out, that just makes things worse. If they're the feeler type, calmly tell them how you feel or express it in ways that put them in your/your hubby's situation, how would they feel? Or: make the holidays fun for them too. Ask them to invite some (not a ton) friends over for a Christmas `party`, pick up some kiddy toys or games for them for gifts to remind them what things were like when they were younger, have family movie night with them... who knows. Make it low key, but fun stuff to do together. Or just ask what they would be up for doing as a family. Don`t be surprised if the ideas are going to cost a few bucks though...

    Worst case, enjoy some one on one time with the hubby and show them that you can have fun without them... Jealousy eventually kicks in and they might want to join! Either way, don`t let anyone else get you down! It`s Christmas! It only comes once a year.
    2256 days ago
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