Why I'm sober as of Day 59 and a WARNING for all ladies out there!!

Monday, December 20, 2010

So Day 58 was NOT a good day! Actually it was a complete nightmare! For all the ladies out there please listen to this and please be cautious when you are out and about especially over this holiday weekend......

It started out nice enough, woke up early with my little man, took him shopping for some last minute christmas gifts and some food for the party that DH and I where attending later in the evening and spent the whole morn. just running errands and spending time with him. In the afternoon the DH took him to my moms house while I got ready for the party and than we attended some close friends first annual christmas party, it was actually very relaxing and nice just to hang out with friends and relax. After the party a few of us decided to head out the the bar and hang out a little since DH and I had a sitter we figured Why not! My sister in law and her man where there and so was DH and my brother in law, everything was nice and I really enjoyed myself... and that's where the happy ends!
Flash forward Sunday morning, I wake up on my brother in laws couch and my body is throbbing. I rolled over and saw my brother in law sitting on the other couch and I'm like why am I so sore and he says you dont remember last night? You dont remember being in the emergency room or me caring you out of the bar? WOW! Stop right there now I'm really freaked out at this point, I have bruises all over my arms and my legs what the hell! So to make a long story short someone put something in my drink at the bar. After my husband left someone must have thought that I was alone and saw a chance when I went to the bathroom and bam my ass is down! If it wasn't for my brother in law being there with me I dont know what would have happened and I spent all Sunday morning crying hysterically just thinking about it! What kind of person does this to someone? My brother in law said that he had to carry me out of the bar and since I'm bigger than he is it was extremely hard and so I spent alot of the time on the sidewalk and I even hit my head when I passed out in the bar. Everyone thought I was wasted but I knew that I wasn't, when I woke up in the morning I kept saying I wasn't drunk I wasn't drunk and when I checked my tab from the bar it was only ten dollars. Now I drink alot and I know that ten dollars worth of beer will not make me pass out and lose time like that. My DH took me to the ER and they confirmed it. Please ladies take this as a warning that this can happen to anyone! I am in some huge pain as I still am bruised all over and it feels like I took a beating but DH said that I pretty much did from all the falling down. I felt like such an asshole that my brother in law had to deal with all that but I am so grateful that he was there and that no one took me off somewhere! DH said that it was like I was unconscious but with my eyes open and looking at him. I couldnt talk and I barely remember being in the ER and the doctor trying to talk to me, I threw up a few times while I was unconscious and DH had to sit me up so I wouldnt choke and die! My brother in law had to carry me in his house and they had to help me to take a shower and wash my hair because I had fallen on the cement so many times and gotten sick.
Apparently from what my brother in law tells me(everything went black for me and I dont remember anything past when my DH left) the bar tenders just thought I was wasted and wanted to call the cops on me because I was passed out in the middle of the bar, lucky for me he knows the bouncers and so one of them helped him to get me outside where I proceeded to fall on the cement a few more times while he struggled to hold me up (in the rain btw) until DH got there. At that point they took me to their moms house (my mother in law) where her husband looked at me (hes a retired sheriff) and said that I needed to be taken to the hospital ASAP because I started foaming at the mouth and I my breathing was irregular.

SO needless to say I am still in alot of pain this AM but am very grateful that I am only dealing with bruises and not something worse! It makes me so mad to think that someone would do this to a complete stranger! I spent most of yesterday crying because I couldnt believe what had happened. I asked my brother in law over and over if I was ever alone or gone for a long period of time but he says that I wasn't so that makes me feel a little bit better. I never left my drink alone but for a second to go to the bathroom and even still my brother in law was right there with it except when he would go to take his shot at the pool table.

This whole experience has really but perspective on alot of things for me. This is why I have decided that I will not have another sip of alcohol and If I do it wont be until May for my birthday. I am a control freak and the fact that I had no control over anything that I did that night scares the hell out of me. I know I wasn't drunk and I know that it wasn't my fault but just something about it makes me not want to drink anymore. I will def. not be going out by myself (actually without a man I can trust) again. Please just use my story as a warning and please be careful when your out there.

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    scary thought what could have happened.

    Glad that you are able to share this with us. Take Care. emoticon
    2583 days ago
    Thanks so much for this warning.
    2583 days ago
    I am so sorry this happen to you. I know this must be so hard on you emotionally. Please come back to our team very soon. My thoughts and prays are with you.

    2584 days ago
  • DRB13_1
    even more important this time of year... y'all be safe out there, and even without the added drugs, remember alcohol is a sedative and THE drug most associated with date rape and poor decisions. Glad you had someone there. emoticon
    2584 days ago
    Thanks for sharing your experience had to be a very hard decision to share one never knows what some crazy is going to do It is pretty scary out there - those drugs have been around for a very long time I remember way back in my own life. emoticon
    2584 days ago
    I am so glad you are okay!! It is so sad that this type of thing is happening more and more in our society. I pray you will completely heal physically and mentally and that your sharing this will help others to realize that , "yes" this can happen to anyone of us. Gentle hugs!!
    2586 days ago
  • HICIM705
    Thank you for writing this blog. It's a scary world out there ... I'm going to let my DD read this blog - maybe it will help her out someday. It's just fortunate that you were not alone - or I can't even imagine what COULD have happened.

    Glad that you are safe - once again. . .thanks for sharing.
    2587 days ago
  • HICIM705
    Thank you for writing this blog. It's a scary world out there ... I'm going to let my DD read this blog - maybe it will help her out someday. It's just fortunate that you were not alone - or I can't even imagine what COULD have happened.

    Glad that you are safe - once again. . .thanks for sharing.
    2587 days ago
    Thank you so much for sharing. What happened to you is so unfair, but I am so glad that you had someone there to take care of you.
    2587 days ago
  • ABB698
    I am so sorry you had to experience this, but thankfully you are okay and your BIL was there! Wow, I appreciate you sharing this, it took courage and you are a strong, brave woman to put yourself out there to warn others. Stay safe!

    Happy Holidays!
    2587 days ago


    2588 days ago
    A nasty experience, indeed. There are a lot of sickos around, more and more as the years to by.

    Many years ago the advice was going around for women not to resume a drink upon returning to the bar--order a replacement. Or ask the bartender to put it in back until you return. Or only leave the bar between an empty glass and the next full one.after If you do that, you won't have to change your social habits.
    2589 days ago
    This is TERRIBLE! I can't even think of any words to say about how outraged I am that this happened to you! Thanks goodness you were out with people who looked after you! We get careless I guess trusting that "this could never happen to me". Thanks for the warning. I will remember to always hold my drink, never leave it at the bar or table. I think this should be reported to the police - the bar also needs to be notified that this happened there so they can be on the lookout......I hope your recovery goes well - both physically and mentally.
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    2589 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/21/2010 8:39:20 PM
    I am so sorry this has happened to you. Thank goodness your BIL was there to help you and keep you safe. I am so mad that anyone would do this to someone.
    It is worthwhile to warn others that it could happen to them. I am glad you shared this with us.
    I thank God that you are safe and pray that you heal from all the bruises and emotional trauma. emoticon
    2589 days ago
  • YICHE12
    This is awful! Thank you for sharing...
    2589 days ago
  • VXWALL1942
    So sorry for the trauma and pain. PTL that you were being watched over and your BIL was there. Thank you for blogging on this subject. Most of us forget it can happen and are trusting when in a crowd. I've shared with my DD so she is aware of the perverts out there with trouble on their tiny little minds. Hope you are feeling better soon and that the love of your family will bring you through the trauma quickly.

    2589 days ago
    What a terrible thing to have happen to you, and thank goodness you had family there. Does the bar have a security camera? It would be great if the person responsible could be charged for his crime. He has probably attacked others in the same way and got away with it. Hope you get over the trauma very soon. hugs.
    2589 days ago
    I am glad that you are ok this could have been so much worse .THANKS FOR SHARING emoticon
    2589 days ago
    Thank you for sharing this....I read it with tears in my eyes and I am so grateful that you had someone there to take care of you. We hear these things but it seems easy to forget or dismiss it until you hear it from someone who has experienced it. And this is a time when we are all more likely to be out where this could happen...even if we're having soft drinks, if we leave it unattended, this could happen.
    2589 days ago
  • RACEMOM576900
    emoticon To begin, I am so sorry that this happened to you. Just reading about it really made me have a mix of emotions: pain, fear, nausea, hysteria!! This is horrible and I am so glad that you had someoone there to look after you and make sure you got the medical treatment you needed. The important thing to remember is God was watching over you and you are safe! Just to think of what could have happened is horrible and you need not go there. We all know what a cruel world it is at times. It just sucks that it has to be that way.
    2589 days ago
    emoticon To you..I'm so sorry you had to go through this..GOD was watching over you!!
    This could have been WAY WORSE.
    Thank you for putting this out there..We don't hear about it often..Even though it does happen not many women are willing to put it ALL out there like you have.
    Which I completely understand why emoticon
    God Bless you ~Christina
    2589 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/21/2010 9:30:09 AM
    I am glad that you are ok....thanks for sharing...and putting this out as a Warning to everyone... emoticon
    2589 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/21/2010 8:58:26 AM
    I am horrified to think what could have happened to you if your brother-in-law hadn't been there. I will tell my young daughters (age 21 and 22) to be very careful when they go out. I don't think someone my age has to worry (I am 45). Foaming from your mouth? It sounds horrific. I am so sorry!
    2589 days ago
    OMG how scary!!! I am so sorry you had to go through that. People are such jerks. You are lucky you didn't get hurt any worse and that your BIL was there.
    I am glad you are okay.... So sorry that happened to you!!!!

    Thank you for sharing, because I leave my drink when I go to the bathroom. I will not be doing that anymore! It will either be empty or I take it with me.

    Be safe!
    2589 days ago
    Thanks for being brave enough to write this all down in a blog. It may help other women in the future. I'm so sorry you experienced something so hideous. It's fortunate you had family there to "rescue" you.

    2589 days ago
    I am so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience.

    Thank you for your blog.

    May God Bless You.

    Heila, Cape Town, South Africa. emoticon
    2589 days ago
  • MIPPY265
    Oh wow. That is a very scary experience. Thank you for sharing it with us. We all take for granted when we go out that things like that just dont happen.

    I am so very sorry that you had to go through all that. My heart goes out to you. Im also so glad that your BIL was there to help you. Im sorry about your pain and your loss of control. That has to be devistating. I will keep you in my prayers as you recover.

    Thanks for having the strength to share this with us. It will make us think twice before we go out.
    2589 days ago
  • JOY1918
    Wow, sorry to hear of your experience. Fortunately you are safe and ok. Thanks for giving us the warning.
    2590 days ago
    I am so sorry that happened to you. No one should ever have that happen to them.
    I am glad you are ok though .
    Thank you for sharing so others will be aware of what could happen.

    2590 days ago
    I would have never thought of that happening to someone in your situation. You were out with family and friends, not a single woman out bar hopping with strangers. Thank God you were with someone who looked out for you but I would feel scared and hurt and angry still.

    2590 days ago
    I am so glad to hear that you are okay! That is so horrible. Thank you for sharing. It is such a timely message. I will keep it in mind always.

    I appreciate your courage and thoughtfulness!
    2590 days ago
  • DBELLE39
    OMG, that was a horrific night, I am so sorry you have & are dealing with this. But I do applaud your courageousness ---you are a voice to warm many other women, thanks for your bravery.
    2590 days ago
    I am so sorry but i am happy you are ok.This happened to my friend.She woke up in a field with her pants off but she still had her underwear on in a field outisde her house.She doesnt think she was raped.We need to be careful even in places we know and we think we are safe.Lisa
    2590 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/20/2010 6:53:05 PM
    It was very courageous of you to blog about this terrible experience. Thank God your brother-in-law was there to help you. It could have happened to anyone. I hope you feel better quickly. You are a strong person and I admire you for taking the opportunity to warn others.
    Gentle hugs...
    2590 days ago
    What an awful experience you had, and how lucky that it was not worse. I am happy that things turned out with you well and safe.
    2590 days ago
  • GIVEUP30
    This tell me even if you are with someone let say for the first time be aware don't tell your eye off your drink...I don't have to worry for I have never in my life been at a bar. But still my tea or pop in those days could have been. So it's no matter what you drink.... so sorry take care.... HOPEFULLY this will be read by lot and lots of women here....don't think I could have wrote it....thank you so much for helping others ....know it could happen to them
    2590 days ago
    So sorry for what happened to you, but thank you for sharing your experience with other people so they are more careful when going out.

    You'll be in my thoughts.
    2590 days ago
    Sweetie, that you for sharing such a personal experience and hopefully we all take heed, I am so happy other than bruises that you are alright emoticon
    2590 days ago
    What an awful experience. Thank you for sharing and bringing it to everyone's attention. All must be so cautious in public places with so many weirdos all around. Thank the Lord you are all right.
    2590 days ago
  • 2BEATIT1
    So sorry for what you had to endure but thankful you are alive and that you can warn others.
    I do not drink or go to bars and other than weddings, I never go to dances but I have watched so many people leave their drinks unattended and who knows what happens then, especially in a bar.
    I trust this will be a wake up call for others and thankful that you have learned something from this and can still go on in spite of your terrible experience.

    2590 days ago
    Thank you for sharing this horrific story. When all is said and done, you were very lucky to have had someone who cared for you nearby. Your courage is telling this may very well be a warning to others - it can happen to anyone! Your idea to stay away from drinking may be a good solution but even at that, a soda can be spiked too. I never, never leave a drink on the table and go to the dance floor, etc.
    Thank goodness a new year is almost here and it will help you can put the past behind Stay safe and happy. And again, thank you for sharing.
    2590 days ago
    OMGOSH Thanks for sharing your story. Hope you feel better soon. Sorry this has happened to you....Karen
    2590 days ago
  • JUNEBUG1944
    Oh, you poor, dear girl. I hope you recover quickly. It is so horrible there are such monsters out there. It is hard being young these days and trying to have a good time without getting into trouble. I wish you the best.
    2590 days ago
    Omg, this is horrible :( I am so so sorry to hear about this. It is a great reminder to everyone - a male friend of mine had something similar happen to him so it's not just women that need to be careful. I've heard that even bartenders sometimes slip 'roofies' into customers' drinks, so you can't trust anyone. Fortunately you weren't alone and the people you were with got you the care you needed at the hospital, who knows what could have happened - it's so scary to think about! I hope you start feeling better, your poor body :(
    2590 days ago
    Hey there - this happened to me on my 20th b-day so like 9 years ago - but same thing, I turned away from my drink, even being surrounded by 15+ friends someone still managed to put something in my drink. I went from having 2 drinks in my system prior to the bar to being literly unconcious in a matter of 20min.

    Thank god for good friends who had the sence to say 'she is acting completely differently' it was almost like someone flicked an "angry switch" because I was suddenly mouthy, violent, and actually made myself leave the bar walk 2 blocks in the snow and caught a cab. Only 1 friend (my hunny best friend) saw me book it out the door and followed me. He barely made it into the cab, and if I wasnt there the rest of my friends would have found me passed out in my frount hall. He had to carry me to the couch. He called my hunny immediatly on his phone, to tell him we were home, and safe - my guy rounded up the rest of my friends let the know what happend and talked to the manager ASAP the same night and removed all our friends from the bar.

    The next day, I woke up crying, I couldnt control my emotions, everything I ate or drank seems spolied or dirty if that makes any sence - it was a horrible expereince and the sad thing is I could never get that b-day back!

    Im sorry to hear that happened to you - Since then I always go order my own drink, from the same bartender the whole night (I never switch servers or bartenders) and I make sure then know me, and remember me. I will opt for somehting in a bottle that I can hold my thumb over the top while im out. Its a crap shoot and honestly people that do this to others should face some severe concequences.

    Take it easy, so lucky you are alright!
    2590 days ago
    I know how hard this must have been to put out there but I dont know if you will EVER know how many people you may have saved due to this blog. I do hope you will file a report. I know you dont know who did this, and most likely never will, but if there is a report they will keep tabs on this and possibly get the creep. did they do blood testing to know what was in your system?
    I'm glad it wasnt worse. Thank God for the people that were with you. Although it doesnt seem like it right now, you are so lucky..i'm glad you are ok.
    2590 days ago
    I am so sorry this happened to you.
    Thank you for sharing this story with the community.
    Sending you a virtual hug..... emoticon
    and a swift kick in the pants to the jerk that did this to you.

    God Bless
    2590 days ago
    2590 days ago
  • KASSAY25
    It is a shame that there are people out there like this mysterious person who slipped something in your drink. What is wrong with people?! So glad to hear you were in good hands though. Definitely a crazy story to hear. Glad your okay !
    2590 days ago
    DAWNO64 - most def!!! I have always been warned about leaving my drink ever since I was in highschool and I never really though much of it!! This happens, I am a mother and wife who was going out for a holiday celebration with my family I am not some young patry goer and this still happend to me so if it happend to me it could happen to anyone! Please spread the news and take my story as an example that this is real and it does happen to regular people like me!

    2590 days ago
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