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Dealing With a Big Disappointment

Saturday, December 18, 2010

O.K. so for me the best way to work through this is to talk about. So here goes, Back in September I was contacted by a magazine to do my success story about how my dogs had helped me lose 165 pounds without having surgery. Of course I was thrilled and wanted to tell everyone who would listen about my good news. I was asked to please keep it a secret until the article actually came out. So as hard as it was for me, I did as requested. Of course all my family and close friends knew what was about to happen. First I was contacted by the editor with a long list of questions to answer. Then in October I was contacted by a photographer who was assigned to take my photos. I was asked to wear certain clothes and wear make-up so I went out shopping for just the right outfit. I don't normally wear makeup so I had to get that too. I even got new coats for my dogs who would also be photographed. I met the photographer, Jim and his assistant at the dog park where my photo shoot was scheduled to take place.The shoot was so much fun and all it went very well. So then it was just time to wait until the January issue came out.
Finally the time came for the magazine to hit the news stands. I rushed out that very day to see my story in print. I flipped through it looking for my picture. I got the the last page and it wasn't there. I could not believe it so I slowly went through the magazine page by page. I am so disappointed, and embarrassed. It that moment I felt like grabbing food and lots of it. There I was right there in the store but I made a decision that I would not revert back to old habits. In the past I would deal with my problems by eating. I would eat to somehow punish myself for not being good enough. Now I know that kind of thinking got weighing over 300 pounds. So instead of turning to food, I have decided that the disappoint will pass and life will go on. I know myself that I am a success whether I am featured in a magazine or not. I am not going to turn it into a setback. I am going to continue moving forward. Thanks Sparkpeople.com for always being there for me.
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    Hi! I am sooo glad that the magazine did publish your story, and of all of the stories in that "special" issue yours was the one that I identified most with. I decided to join SparkPeople after reading it, and after I got set up I sent you a friend request. If you have any tips on how to overcome negative thinking, I could use a few. So much weight to lose!
    2451 days ago
  • MARY1313
    goodness! I know how disappointed you must have been! so glad you have grown so much in your life style change that you made good decisions!!!
    2494 days ago
    How disappointing but I am so happy you didn't let it throw you back to old habits. You are such an inspiration to me and so many others. I hope you got some copies of the pictures so you can post to your SP blog. If not, you should dress up you and the dogs and have someone take some photos so we can all see.
    2494 days ago
    How completely rude, unthoughtful and unprofessional of them to not have the common courtesy to let you know that they had chosen to go another route! YOU ARE A SUPERSTAR IN OUR BOOK....definately their loss!!!
    2495 days ago
    They should have had the courtesy of letting you know that you would not be featured in the magazine.
    You are a winner anyway, no one can take that away from you.
    It is their loss that they did not feature you.
    2495 days ago
    Good for you for staying on track. What a disappointment. But I completely agree with the other posters who suggest that maybe there's more to this than meets the eye. I'm realizing (slowly) how much of my life is driven by the "what ifs" and speculation. I spend so much time and energy trying to sort out this and that and why something has happened when in reality I don't have all of the information or am completely wrong about something. Maybe you can find out more from your contacts at the magazine to be sure that your article has been bumped? And then, even if it has been, you've already proven that it's not bringing you down!
    2495 days ago
    Aww!! I can definitely see why that would be disappointing! :S You have done an amazing job and changed your life completely!!

    Good for you for moving past this!! (Also, you never know, it might be featured next month. They might have had to move it.)

    2496 days ago
    Good for you not to let the disappointment set you back...!

    Now: might it be possible that they put your story off until the next issue...? Have you heard anything from the magazine...? After all the time & energy they put into your story I would think they would still want to move ahead with it...?!?!

    Don (crossing fingers...!)
    2496 days ago
    it's all in the attitude and yours is great
    2496 days ago
    Don't let this get you done! You still "won." emoticon
    2496 days ago
  • DRPOOH63
    Would be great if you could get copies of the photos and post them here so we could celebrate with you! Most photogs will give you copies.
    2496 days ago
    Your story may show up in a later issue. Keep your eyes open just in case.
    2496 days ago
    Sounds like it was great, up until the time the magazine came out. Your accomplishment was recognized, just not by so many as you'd hoped. But the important thing is that you did it! and that someone thought it might inspire others. Now, as to somebody's editorial taste, well, bah humbug! You know, and we know, you're better than that!
    2496 days ago
    I think the same way: if something like this happened to me, I'd wonder what I did wrong, or why i wasn't good enough. So please remember: whatever happened that got your story bumped, it had nothing to do with you. Still disappointing-heck, they could have called!-but not your problem. At any rate, your hard work was acknowledged and validated. I'm really sorry that you were bumped, but I'm super-proud of you for not eating over it. You have learned the lesson!

    2496 days ago
  • HELENA260
    That is diappointing but you are an inspiration to all of us!! Don't let that magazine destroy all of your hard work!!! Keep up the good work!!!
    2496 days ago
    Well stories do get bumped. But the big story is your response. You have won no matter that it didn't make it into print. You are the success and I congratulate you on that.
    2496 days ago
  • RENA1965
    Sorry to hear about your disappointment.. emoticon
    2496 days ago
    How dissapointing! Great attitude on how to deal with it! emoticon
    2496 days ago
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