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Friday, December 10, 2010

Frankly, I would have given up a long time ago. If I was dependent on the encouragement I get from others around me, things would be empty indeed. Its hard to imagine drawing strength for a sometimes insanely difficult journey from people I have never met. Sometimes I have to ask myself why in the heck do I put myself through this? I have devoted the last 2 1/2 years of my life to doing the impossible. Transforming myself from a see-food-eat-it kind of guy to someone who has faith, passion, and the will to see this change to its conclusion. Where did that strength ever come from?

Where were the people that were so "concerned" about my health and well being? they had plenty to say before, well, where are you now? My drive doesn't come from them, as far as I am concerned, they don't even exist. I quit telling my friends about what I am doing, I love 'em I guess, but we are not on the same page.

What would my life be without Sparkpeople, these goals of mine, and you? I seriously believe I would be the same, self-centered, stuck in a rut, middle aged washout that I was before. No vision, no passion, no drive. Just going from one good time to another.

With Sparkpeople, my running / fitness goals and you, I am proving to myself that it isn't too late to do something real that I can be proud of. I don't have to be what I was, the die is not cast, I can indeed change. That I am not 41 and set in my ways but I am capable of doing something big, drastic, aggressive, daring to be a little out of place for the average Blue Collar shift worker. I would hate to think that at 41 I am unable to dream big, reach for something a little radical, and show the world what I am made of. What a sad life it would be indeed if my life revolved around just making it through another shift in one piece.

Losing weight and remaking your life is not for cowards. It has taken all that I have and demanded more. To make it this far and to go further, it has to be more than a part time affair of convenience. There are days I DO NOT WANT TO WORKOUT!!! Thats when I'll get a note from a Sparkbuddy or a text message, something encouraging or a positive comment. Then I get out of the rut and do something and that momentum is what I need.

I am rambling but thats ok, its my blog.

I dont have alot of face to face support so I rely heavily on Sparkpeople. My family is on board and thats a HUGE plus but you will never rise higher than the company you keep. I need people that are stronger than I to keep me reaching and thats what I get here.
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    Thank you for saying "You will never rise higher than the company you keep". I have thought the same thing, but not in those words.

    It is hard to not have the support of others. Sparkpeople is indeed great that way. However, it has become clear that I do best with "real" people I can see face-to-face. Currently I am on the lookout for them. This doesn't mean I don't need Sparkpeople too. I hope to have both, if at all possible.

    I saw a more recent blog of yours where you mention going through a time of blah and non-motivation. I may be off base, but in the fall, at least where I live, the daylight hours shrink and it affects the mood of many people. I use a full-spectrum "SAD" light every day from October to March. It helps lift my mood. Something to consider.

    This too shall pass. I wish you all the best :)
    1710 days ago
    Nice congrats on the weight loss! I understand what you're saying it's like our own little community & we all want to do well & get healthy!
    1785 days ago
    Great post! So glad you were able to share what it seems many of us are feeling. I was struggling with going for a run today...and you helped me see that I have to be my own advocate, I can't let anyone else decide for me.
    1921 days ago
    Great encouragement! Change is hard!!! Thanks for the nudge to keep at it.
    1928 days ago
    your preaching to the choir, brother. Thanks for the inspiration.
    1945 days ago
  • v LADYZH
    Way to go! A very inspiring story and I can truly relate to your dilemma. Keep up the good work and stay positive!!

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    1946 days ago
    nice inspiring blog. staying determined and motivated takes alot of work!
    1947 days ago
    This has to be the best blog I've read in a long time. You've practically described my story as well. No passion, no drive, no support... then SP enters the picture and WOW! I'm a whole new me! You're very encouraging. Keep writing the positive messages like this one.

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    1971 days ago
    emoticon Your post says it all, SP rocks when it comes to support. Personally I am lucky enough to have support from my family, but the extra support from SP friends makes all the difference in the world!
    1974 days ago
    GREAT Post..I am still looking for my motivation, but every post, every blog I read is nudge for me. I am slowly accumulating my plan, my videos. Some days I think the reason I keep putting it off is because somewhere deep down I dont truly deserve to make myself FIRST in my life. I am so glad to know that you have found the way!
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    1979 days ago
    Okay, NOW I know why I missed this blog of yours back in December. Because December 10 was the day/night I was cramming before taking my personal trainer's certification test with ACE the next day! LOL

    Again, a huge congratulations, Robert. You have a gift for making people FEEL good about themselves.
    1984 days ago
    Great post! I agree and also know without Spark I'd have given up long ago on losing those last 5 frisky pounds. Discovered how much I love walking and how important those 8 glasses of water a day truly are. Thank you!
    1990 days ago
    I have been with Sparkpeople since October of 2010 and I find
    them to be very encouraging with the articles, exercises, and
    emails they post on their pages.

    But whatever path you decide to take I wish you the best in
    whatever you do. But just a bit of advice that I learned
    from others. While you are still in gear and haven't had
    haven't had that chance to unwind after a days work. Before
    doing that take at least a minute walk or exercise jog be-
    fore calling it a day. They say some exercise is better
    than none.

    1991 days ago
    May whatever path you take or choose be the right one
    for you. I commend Sparkpeople for all the articles,
    emails, and exercise videos they have posted on their

    I realize after a days work you do not feel like exer-
    cising or going to a gym to a workout. But just a bit
    of advice. While you are still in gear and up and about
    take at least a 5 minute walk before you decide to call
    it a day to unwind. They say 5 minutes is just as good
    as 10 or 15 minutes.

    1991 days ago
  • v HCARTZ1964
    May your path to a healthier you continue to be blessed.
    1991 days ago
    thank you for sharing this!
    1994 days ago
  • v BELLA044
    I agree, Spark is an amazing place! Congratulations on your success!! You look great!
    1995 days ago
    You've lost over 100 pounds - quite a lot to be proud of! emoticon emoticon

    Thanks for the blog post. I haven't been here too long but have found so much encouragement and support. And, (one of my fears), since I'm fairly anonymous, if I don't succeed for a week or two with my goals, no one is sitting around watching every bite I put in my mouth or every decision I make to sit instead of go exercise and then commenting on it. I've had that in the past and found it very inhibiting. Oh, and by the way, I'm retired from the USAFR - go blue!
    1996 days ago
    Hurrah for you, and you didn't ramble at all. Very much to the point.

    "Losing weight and remaking your life is not for cowards. It has taken all that I have and demanded more. To make it this far and to go further, it has to be more than a part time affair of convenience." Well said!

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    1996 days ago
    LOVE your attitude!!!!! emoticon
    1996 days ago
    keep it up!! you are definitly a motivation for me right nowwww!! thanks for the inspiration and keep in mind that we, your sparkfriends, will always be here for one another, thats what sparkfriends are for!! and also keep in mind that God never gives us more than we can handle :)
    1997 days ago
    Keep working at it. It is a great journey that is worth the pain.
    1997 days ago
  • v ALGALL7
    this is a great blog. i feel the same. i need the encouragement and motivation that SP gives me. i always hated exercising except i do love to walk. but now i am excersing and started using the treadmill yesterday. good luck to you on your journey in losing weight. we are all here for you!!!

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    1997 days ago
    How well worded. There are so many of us tuning into Spark, and getting lots back from doing so. You have verbalised what many of your fellow Sparkers are feeling!!!
    1997 days ago
    That is why it is so important to support and encourage one another. Keep up the good work!
    1998 days ago
    Congratulations on your success so far!
    1998 days ago
    great job, great thinking.spark friends are the best.i have being with spark for 1 year, and i have not lost .and thats because of a lot of other isues in my life.but i can say this spark teams are always there for me and to support me.i am very disable right now due to a total knee replacement 6 months ago, now my knee has no range of motion[stiff] doctoers tell me they can't fix it or help me.i read spark to see if someone has an answer for me in how to exercise,very hard with a limp knee .anyways enough about me keep up your way of thinking and you have my support. good luck to you in all you do.right behind you,i'm not giving up.any docs out there with an answer for me and my knee. thanks
    1999 days ago
  • v MINNIME123
    so true how we find ourselves relying on strangers for a word of encouragement that seems to come at just the right time
    that time where i feel the crappiest.
    good word i appriciate your post thanx
    1999 days ago
  • v STARDUST15
    Great post! Very motivational and so true!
    1999 days ago
    Your story is encouraging. Your blog post reminds us that those who mean well with their support and concern are not always the best motivators. You must look within then survive the struggle to find your real supporters. Cheers to you and keep up the healthy life!
    1999 days ago
    I enjoyed your blog. Congratulations on your progress! emoticon emoticon
    2000 days ago
  • v MARYELLEN301
    Great insight here. We've all probably been up and down. Somehow with SP, I feel that I have indeed made a lifestyle change. I broadcast to all who will listen about what a great site SP is and how much it has helped me. Hopefully with all those eyes on me, I'll keep it up and maintain the loss for good this time.
    2001 days ago
  • v KRICKET57
    I love this blog. You have expressed perfectly the way I feel. I would have given up long ago without SP. It seems hard to imagine the support we receive from the people here. I would not change a thing about the friends I have made here and can only hope I have helped others as much as I have been helped. Thank you for putting my feelings into words.
    2001 days ago
  • v MAYBER
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts that is what we all need to do to be successful share our ups and our downs with others who really care you have transformed yourself and you should be proud of you stength dedication and determination and yes some so called friends will not support you in your journey but your Spark People friends are always just a click away on your computer and you will gather the encouragment to continue on one day at a time Dream Big Reach High
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    2001 days ago
    I have to agree with the focus on the encouragement from Sparkspeople. There is NO support in my house; thankfully I have a great friend to encourage me, but mostly I too rely on the wonderful people from Sparks! emoticon
    2002 days ago
    Nicely worded
    2002 days ago
    You may be "rambling" in your opinion but you make an awesome statement! I wasn't smart enough to start my journey until I turned 50 and you are so right, it is difficult but we can do it with help from our spark friends. Keep up the good work!
    2002 days ago
    congrats!!! and AMEN to your success :)
    2003 days ago
  • v CHARMIN608
    It's the encouragement that inspires me to keep going. Thank you so much for sharing your blog!
    2003 days ago
    Great blog, very inspirational! emoticon
    2003 days ago
  • v COOKI3123
    I cannot even begin to think what life would be without the Spark in my life. I am so grateful for spark.
    2003 days ago
    You lost 100 pounds! Congratulations! You are not just getting inspiration from your Spark People----you are also a source of inspiration to people like me. I've lost 7 pounds----in the last year. I thought I would have lost the 35 total pounds that I need to lose by now, not just 7. You are right----this is hard work. It is easier than it was a year ago and I'm doing more things right than I was a year ago, so who knows. Maybe this will be the year I lose the rest of my excess baggage! I am thrilled that you are doing so well and wish you success in meeting your goals! Keep up the good work!
    2003 days ago
    I couldn't agree more! Thanks so much for writing this!!
    2003 days ago
  • v HELEN_K
    Thanks - you said it all. Just what I needed today.
    2003 days ago
    I love what you said:

    I am rambling but thats ok, its my blog.

    2003 days ago
  • v DIANE4909
    Thank You for the words of encouragement I found in this today. I have been struggling since I have started only because I am still trying to absorb it all, not getting upset though always have been a slow starter. I like the way you laid it on the table just the way it is. Way to go and again thanks for your spark.
    2003 days ago
    I completely agree with this. Changing your life at 41 is the hardest thing ever (I am in the process of doing so now). All the encouragement received on SP is amazing. This was a wonderful blog and what I needed to read today. Thank you.
    2004 days ago
    and everybody say AMEN
    2004 days ago
    Congratulations on your wonderful success!
    2004 days ago
    WTG and Congrats on you drive, determination and success!! We are never to old to learn and grow.
    2004 days ago
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