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It's gettin, it's gettin, it's gettin kinda hectic

Wednesday, December 01, 2010

Sheesh, where do I begin. I feel like so much is piled on to do and just not enough hours in the day. It's way too early in the month to be stressin. I just have to make a list and put things in priority order. Do what I can today, then just keep checking things off the list. The list is long. I just keep telling myself, one thing at a time, slow down, breathe, all things will fall into place.

It's all about priorities, hoping I can take my own advice and just do a little at the time.

How do my fellow SP buddies handle stress? I need a magic formula QUICK.
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DGIBSON02 12/1/2010 5:20PM

    I just think will it matter in 1000 years? If not, don't stress about it.

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SLIMLILA 12/1/2010 4:27PM

    I needed to share the positive thoughts sent your way... thank you for sharing... My problem is not just too much to do, it's a very nasty co-worker who makes my life difficult! Some good ideas here, hope they help!

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NATPLUMMER 12/1/2010 2:38PM

    I try to make a list in order of priority. It looks like you do the same.
I make sure I get some exercise in everyday because that really helps me with the stress and makes me more productive (today I didn't exercise this morning and I can tell because I'm having a harder time getting things done.. I will make sure to exercise this afternoon and do it tomorrow morning).

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KNIT1PURL2LOSE3 12/1/2010 12:54PM

    Make sure you have reasonable goals and expectations of yourself. Does it ALL absolutely HAVE to be done? What can be let go of? Are you doing too much because of trying to please others or live up to others expectations, or because of genuine NEED to accomplish everything?

If you can't get everything done you thing you really should get done, then give yourself a break. Recruit help. Figure out alternatives.

This was the most challenging part of being disabled for me. It took a long time before I realized that I really couldn't live up to the expectations and standards I used to have. So, I made adjustments. My partner made adjustments, and pitched in a little more. And we simply learned to live with fewer expectations, because they are just no longer possible.

Breaking things down into smaller, bite-sized pieces helps, too. some days I have to set a timer--15 minutes of cleanup and 45 minutes of rest/read/computer time. Rinse. Repeat. As long as it takes to get it done. Or until I just can't push myself any more.

HTH. emoticon

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RANDOMKINDNESS 12/1/2010 12:37PM

  I know what you mean - mine started in 1980 with going back to school plus a family plus a full time job and you know what?? I found out that 'it' doesn't let up until YOU decide you've had enough and YOU take control of your life -- Unless you can afford to pay people to take care of all of the things that need to get taken care of this is what my experience taught me:

1. Write down a realistic schedule and include down time for you to recharge (it's NOT a luxury - it prevents total burn-out!) sometimes it helps to think of time as money and make yourself budget time just as closely. I used to use a 15 minute Daytimer/planner for every day, even my days off since those are the days that I tended to 'dump' all of the extra things that my family or church or friends wanted me to do or participate in. I felt exhausted all the time.
2. Most important if you're going to do number 1--Refuse to buy into any guilty feelings when you say 'no'. Tell yourself that you can't possibly be all and do all and that you have to take care of yourself. If that doesn't help the feelings and the guilt is overwhelming look at their source (you may need professional help for that) since the origins of feeling guilty are usually based on non-realistic goals like trying to please others (family/friends/church/coworkers/bo
ss/etc), fear of rejection, or an unbalanced sense of 'duty' or a 'woman's role'. For me, I just kept reminding myself that I was doing the best that I could, I was only one person with 24 hours a day, I could not do it all and refused to beat myself up. I repeated that to myself whenever those self-judgments popped into my head (not doing enough, not being a good wife, mother, worker...whatever) It was those thoughts of beating myself up that was making me feel guilty.
3. I agree totally with stopping and taking a breath. I learned how to meditate, visualize, and do deep relaxation exercises
4. Take time to physically exercise, even if it's just a 30 minute walk everyday. This is known to reduce the stress related chemicals in our bodies.

5 - last but the most important of all - treat yourself the way you'd treat your best friend. Speak to yourself the way you'd speak to your best friend. Be compassionate and kind when you feel low. Be a cheerleader (no putting yourself down to motivate yourself) when you need encouragement. Always be patient.



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TDMABRY 12/1/2010 12:27PM

    Well you lured me in with your (awesome?? annoying?? catchy??) title to this blog. Lol! Haven't had that tune in my head for quite some time.

I hear you on being busy and it doesn't seem it will eve really slow down. We buried my MIL after she passed away last Christmas Eve. The last thing I want to be is a downer, but....when I get like that I look back at that time and realize at the age of 60 what she was so worried about before she got sick and how absolutely none of it mattered as she laid there in her last day. I mean honestly...it's changed how I live a little bit. We are always going to get hung up on the details and as a teacher I can't just say "Ah shoot....I'll just throw those papers out that need to be graded." There is a reality to what we have to get done, but occasionally I hit a spot where I realize what matters and it at least takes the edge off for a while.

Good luck with everything!! Especially the stuff you have no choice, but to get done!

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JLITT62 12/1/2010 12:22PM

    I take little breaks (cause I'm sure feeling the stress myself at the moment). 15 minutes to read a magazine. Half an hour of sparkin'. 5 minutes of meditation. And so on . . .

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