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Fairy Tales Aren’t Real--The Prequel (with pictures!)

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Friday, November 26, 2010

Let me begin by saying thank you! When my “Fairy Tale” blog received a Popular Blog Post Award , I was overwhelmed! I cannot express my gratitude strongly enough or tell you how deeply I feel that Spark is home to me--a place where I am accepted and loved just as I am--a place where I belong!

There have been a couple questions concerning the use of the term obese in my tale. My weight ticker says that I weighed 117 when I started Spark in June, 2010. That is not obese--even at my height of only 4’9.5”, although it IS overweight. You see, the tale did not actually begin at 117 pounds!

And now………..

Fairy Tales Aren’t Real--The Prequel

Let’s go back in time just a bit, shall we? I’m sure you all remember the chubby little girl. Remember-- she grew into a fat teenager who grew into an obese woman? Oh, good! I thought you would remember!! If you have no idea what I am talking about, click on this link:

Now, what you don’t know about is all the life that happened in between her being a short, chubby girl and becoming the beautiful woman she is today.

In my first tale, there was the mention of a nerdy, geeky guy who carried a briefcase instead of a backpack. Many of you have asked to know more about that part of the story!! The nerdy, geeky guy was tall--6’ 1” tall to be exact! He swept the short, fat teenager off her feet while they were still in high school! The unlikely pair were married when they were only 19!

Life for the two was happy and busy! Degrees were earned. The short, fat wife was hired as a teacher while her tall husband ran the family business . A home was purchased, a baby was born, a bigger home was purchased. The three laughed and played and traveled!!

The short, overweight young woman in our story was happy! She took an extended leave from school to stay home and raise her son. She was living a real-life fairy tale!!! All the while, she ate and ate and ate and ate!

Her husband’s job required that she entertain several times a year. She hired caterers who came to their home and served scrumptious appetizers, soups, main courses, and sinfully delicious desserts on silver platters! ( I told you she was living a fairy tale!) She ate and ate and ate and ate some more!

Our young heroine was getting so fat, she didn’t want to take walks with her young son. It was hard for her to keep up. She would break out in a sweat when it was 65*! Her fat thighs would rub together!

This all made her very sad indeed, so she ate and ate and ate and ate some more. She thought that would make her feel better, but it didn’t.

She had become obese! She weighed 160 pounds. Remember how petite she was? This is what she looked like in 1994:

Then, as sometimes happens in fairly tales, a horrible tragedy struck! In 1995, the tall, handsome husband in our tale passed away very, very suddenly. The obese woman and her 13 year old son were left alone. She was so very, very sad that she did not eat. She ate so little over the next months that she lost almost half her body weight! Yes, it’s true!

She weighed less than 90 pounds. She looked emaciated. Her family and friends were worried! She was taken to doctors, tests were run. She was literally dying of a broken heart. The doctors gave her medicines to make her feel better.

Slowly, but surely, she healed. Oh, it took years before she felt like her old self again. Feeling better brought back some very, very bad habits. She gained weight steadily until she found herself becoming bigger and bigger.

In 2007, the heroine of our story met another sweet, wonderful man who made her smile and laugh! The happier she became, the more weight she put on. It was for this man that she was searching the internet for ground beef recipes when, if you recall, she stumbled upon that strange land called Spark People!

This is what she looks like today, thanks to Spark:

This beautiful, fit woman married the sweet, wonderful man whom she met in 2007! In fact, their 2nd anniversary is this New Year’s Eve!! This hangs in her home today:

And now, you know the rest of the story!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MOMWANTSNOWAIST 12/31/2010 11:41AM

    emoticon ,beautiful blog! emoticon --Betsy

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ANDASI 12/30/2010 1:13PM

    This brought tears to my eyes.

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STRUMERCAT 12/30/2010 11:18AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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CHEF4RENT 12/29/2010 11:27PM

    A sad happy fabulous story. Thanks for sharing.

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KLONG8 12/29/2010 4:51PM

    Love this, thanks for sharing. Lots of living and loving in life, isn't there?

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LALA0123 12/29/2010 12:07PM


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KIN59VARA 12/29/2010 12:01PM

    Great story.

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CJANSEN40 12/7/2010 7:47AM

    Yes Happily ever after does exist!

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WALKOFFWIN 11/30/2010 5:36PM

    It's good to know that it's possible to recover from such a terrible tragedy like losing the Love of your Life, and even find a new Love of your Life. And also inspiring to know that even when we lose our way, if we work hard enough, we can still find the way back to health and happiness.

The before and after pictures are quite amazing. But most of all, it's great to see you as you are now... Beautiful, healthy and happy - and a living testament to the positive possibilities of a life transformed by Spark.

Thanks so much for sharing,


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DONNAJZ4241 11/29/2010 9:10PM

    Your fairytale was very heartwarming. I'm so sorry you lost the first love of you life, but am so happy you found a second one. You look great! Keep up the positive attitude! emoticon

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FLOOSIEMAGOO 11/29/2010 6:03PM

    You are lovely indeed!

Spark Baby!

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NANHBH 11/29/2010 2:54PM

    And what a fabulous story it is! There's still hope for me!!!

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JANNIEWANNIE 11/28/2010 11:10AM

    I have sure enjoyed your fairy tale. Thank you ever so much for sharing. Hugs from Janet in central Illinois.

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FREES1 11/28/2010 10:03AM

    what a fairy tale! what awesome turns of events - I am glad they brought you to us!

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TENACIOUSTIGER 11/28/2010 9:09AM

    thanks for sharing you just go to prove that everyone can live their own fairytale, thanks for sharing your life congrats on an amazing life

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KARENE10 11/27/2010 8:52PM

    You deserve a Happily ever after! Thank you for sharing:)

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RAINBOWANGEL99 11/27/2010 8:05PM

    emoticon blogs! Thanks for sharing your very interesting and inspiring story. Glad your hard work resulted in your very own 'happily ever after' emoticon emoticon

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LAGREBE 11/27/2010 7:26PM

    What a wonderfully sweet story! Thanks for sharing!

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    thanks for sharing your story with everyone mary. you have come thru a lot and you are proof that everyone can overcome anything. i'm so glad you found another prince to make all your dreams come true together. you deserve your happy ever after !!!!!

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TEENY_BIKINI 11/27/2010 7:04PM

    Love it.


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ABSOLUTZER0 11/27/2010 2:57PM

    Thanks for sharing with us! This is a great story and one that we can take many lessons from. Thanks again! You are truly amazing!

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KALISWALKER 11/27/2010 2:35PM

    I am going around visiting my Spark Friends today and catching up. I am so glad I did. I read some of your recent ones. Congratulations on Popular Blog! Enjoy the weekend!

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CALIOKIGRL 11/27/2010 2:26PM

    So happy that you were able to find such wonderful happiness, not once, but twice and even better, now you are enjoying it while being healthy too.

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BTWCOACH 11/27/2010 12:04PM

    Thanks for sharing, Mary! You are awesome!!!

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CHRYS13 11/27/2010 7:55AM

    ...just read both of your "Fairy Tale" blogs! Thanks for sharing and emoticon on your successes!

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MIECHI7 11/27/2010 7:55AM

    Here is to Happily Ever Afters! Cheers to you! emoticon

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YOGIMARIE 11/27/2010 3:15AM

    It's people like you that makes Spark such a great place to be!Your story really touched me and I'm glad for the happy ending.
Thanks for sharing with us.

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EMSSBEARS 11/27/2010 1:06AM

    What a great story. Congratulations on Most Popular Blog.

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JULIE_MAY 11/27/2010 12:45AM

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. I'm so happy for you!

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CYCLINGRJ 11/26/2010 9:09PM

    Very impressive Mary - great stry of success - and you did it ;)

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ONEGREATCAT 11/26/2010 8:09PM

    Thank you for sharing your life with everyone. I think we've bonded because a small portion of your life resembles mine. (Unfortunately, not the "fairy tale" part).

I am so glad you found the strength to get through tragedy and am "super happy" you found SparkPeople as a means for additional strength and knowledge, the ability for you to reach out to others, and the opportunity to know you "virtually". It's people like you that inspire me more than you can know!


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LUCKYDOGFARM 11/26/2010 8:05PM

    God is good, especially when we least expect it. Big Hugs SparkSister!

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TRACEYMOMOF3 11/26/2010 7:45PM

    I cried too! Thanks for sharing and being such a good sport about the whole thing! That is an awesome story of courage and strength! I'm so happy we asked and you shared it! You are a beautiful woman (and I'm sure always have been) on the inside and out! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
Thanks again for sharing that wonderful story!

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LESLIES537 11/26/2010 7:19PM

    I've got chills up and down my arms and tears in my eyes! You are such huge inspiration! I just love that saying, "It's never to late to live happily ever after." emoticon

You look amazing! Congratulations on your happy ending! emoticon

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BOBF15 11/26/2010 6:54PM

    Spark is all about people and their stories, food is so intertwined with our life and what we go through on our journey is marked by food.

Food is there in our good times and in our bad, so sharing your life is like sharing your food with us.

Thank you for having us in for a little coffee and snack.

God bless and keep soaring,
Bob emoticon

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JKTENTATIVE 11/26/2010 5:59PM

    Thanks for filling in the rest. I KNEW you would get most popular blog!! And, I voted for you. Congrats!!

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JMERLAU 11/26/2010 5:53PM

    VERY NICE story Mary!!

Proud of ya kiddo!

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46SHADOW 11/26/2010 5:52PM

    happy for you!

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DUSTYGIRL25 11/26/2010 5:46PM

    Yay, (clap, clap, clap). I just love a happy ending. You have been through so much and persevered. It shows we can all do anything if we just put our minds to it. emoticon

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JLPEASE 11/26/2010 5:36PM

    Congratulations on your upcoming wedding anniversary. I'm glad you were able to find your "happily ever after." Thanks for your inspirational post!

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LMB-ESQ 11/26/2010 5:33PM

    The fairy tale has a "happily ever after" ending emoticon

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ERIN4771 11/26/2010 5:04PM

    thank you for sharing this, i am so happy you were able to find love again!!!! you honestly look like a different person!!! so happy we are sparkfriends!!!!

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GEMINISUE 11/26/2010 4:59PM

    I am amazed at the difference, in the two pictures, you look so much younger now!

Congratulations, dear!

So proud of you, I know it is possible!

Thank You

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LOVINGMYSELF101 11/26/2010 4:53PM

    I loved the first blog, and this one too! I am so happy for you, and yes, it is never too late to have your happily ever after.

Congratulations, and in case you haven't heard this in a while, I am so proud of you!

My own fairy tale reads more like Shrek, LOL! At least I found my 'prince charming', and we are happy together in our own little world. He and I both have weight issues, me moreso, but today he offered to start getting up with me in the mornings to help me with workouts. I am so happy to have my best friend.

Take Care, -Rose

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