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A Year on SP: What I have learned

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Thursday, November 25, 2010

What a year! If you had told me one year ago all the changes that would happen in the next 365 days, I wouldn't have believed you. I'd have asked what pharmaceutical you were using. And maybe where I could get some of the same.

Or I might have gone back to bed, and not gotten up for a year, too. It's a good thing Life happens one day at a time. Sime changes were great and some were tough.

I lost:
- my entire family,
- my life partner (that hurt even worse)
- my beloved Manx cat of 18 years (if you are an animal lover, you know this can be worse than loss of a person)
- my job
- use of my right ankle and left knee for periods of time
-sense of security with various cancer-related issues occurring

But... I also gained:
- freedom from a set of toxic, abusive people (ain't nuthin' better than that!)
- faith in myself to carry on, no matter what the outlook or odds
-faith in my ability to think quickly and act creatively (and FAST!)
- a healthy lifestyle to keep my weight and health under control, in spite of *everything* (now, that's freedom)

I learned:

-it's never too late to start a new chapter. Be who you always wanted to be. As long as you have a pulse, you can keep learning and start something new.

- Anything good you have been given is yours forever, even if the "anything/anyone good" has to leave physical form.... for now. They are in your heart forever.

- Making lemonade out of lemons can be really fun, and can lead you on new pathways if you have a creative and daring spirit. (Apparently, I have exercised one of those into being... and pretty glad about that.)

- And the converse: It's exhausting making lemon after lemon after lemon into lemonade. It would tax any sane human (fortunately, I am crazy). . But the alternative (sitting around moping) isn't very useful and won't manifest the life you want. So get a little crazy.

- Exercise does help when you are anxious. It helps when you aren't, too.

-I can exercise through nearly anything. I just have to modify a few things when this or that limb does not work.

-I can start every single day with oatmeal and blueberries. Really. They're good!

-Water is the coolest chemical compund on Earth - or anywhere else. It has the coolest properties that nothing else can compare with, and that's why we have life on Earth. Drink lots of it. It is pretty amazing!

-Make Spark Friends! There are some awesome people here!

- Some people will be there for you when things are down. There are some folks who will even hold your hand, let you cry, and .... sit in silence with you. Treasure them. They are gems!

- Some people will celebrate your successes with you, with absolutely no jealousy at all. They are jewels, too!!

-Some people will be both of the above. Hang on tight to these folks, and nurture them, too,, because they are rarer than unicorns!

-Have faith that you can reach a goal. This isn't a race. There is no time limit.

-Feel free to modify your goals. It's your life!

-There's no One, True, and Only Way to live Life. Trust the way that works for you. We're all different, and that is fabulous! It's ok to be different - you might just inspire someone else to be daring and creative.

-Enjoy your life. It's the only thing you truly possess, and it is yours for a short time.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KIJO0607 12/31/2010 8:18PM

    Thank you for sharing this blog. It's really powerful and I think it is something we can all relate to!

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JANIEWWJD 12/5/2010 7:43PM

    WOW!!! May the good Lord bless and keep you in good health. You have overcome many obstacles this past year. May the new year bring many, many blessings!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CBACH71 12/5/2010 3:34AM

    That attitude will get you wherever you want to go in this life! Keep up the great work and never stop believing in yourself. emoticon

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RHONDA_11 12/4/2010 9:50AM

    Wow, that just put some things in perspective for me. I have been spending a lot of time feeling sorry for myself lately. My husband is toxic and I have been a stay at home wife and mother for years and am looking for a job for the first time in years, I am scared, and it goes on and on. You are so brave. You give me someone to look to for an example and count my blessings instead of all things that are wrong. Thank you. Rhonda

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LATVIAN_SANDY 12/1/2010 1:22PM

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4MOM77 12/1/2010 12:53AM

  WOW. I made a copy of this do that I can use what you said as inspirational mantras. Thank you for opening up a very personal part of your life to us. Sometimes many years of life's hardships can get packed into one year, I know because it has happened to me. Good luck and stay strong.

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KELLY40222 11/30/2010 8:11PM

    Thank you for this wonderful blog!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 11/30/2010 3:49PM


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(. (. (.`♥Victoria!

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ANISMENDOZA81 11/30/2010 2:29PM

    This blog brought tears to my eyes. Simply put together with so much punch. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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SASSYSAX 11/30/2010 1:38PM

    What a beautiful blog. Your attitude is so good especially after all of your losses. You are an incredible lady. emoticon

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M77355 11/30/2010 1:30PM

    Thank you so much for posting this.

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TKAYSMILES 11/30/2010 1:09PM

    Great blog!! Congrats to your one year, that is awesome!!

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TEENY_BIKINI 11/30/2010 12:45PM

    I just love it when you are happy :)

Go rock star!

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DOODIE59 11/30/2010 12:39PM

    Thank you so much for the wise advice. You have a remarkable attitude. I hope I can learn from it! emoticon

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YAMINOKODOMO 11/30/2010 12:33PM

    Im sorry I missed this blog before!

I am super proud of you! emoticon emoticon

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SMYLESX4 11/29/2010 11:13PM

    what great inspiration for all of us....thanks and how true!!!! emoticon

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SCOTTYDOG76 11/29/2010 9:30PM

    YOU, my dear -- are an amazing person! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOSE4LIFE10 11/29/2010 9:06PM

  well done :)

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MYOWNHERO 11/29/2010 8:52PM

    Life has taught you so much, thanks for sharing!

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SUSIEWHITE1109 11/29/2010 8:29PM

    Terrific blog! I can relate to so many of your experiences, but most of all, I applaud your terrific you said, as long as we have a pulse, it's not too late to create the life we want to live!

I've added you as a Spark Friend, because I think you're one of the terrific people out there, and would be honored to do the journey with you!



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ELLEBE725 11/29/2010 7:57PM

    Great blog!! You have a great attitude and outlook!!! Thanks for sharing with all of us!!!

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SWEETMOMMY41 11/29/2010 7:53PM

  what an inspiring and great blog! you are doing so well and you have been through so much. have a terrific day!

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TEACHDIANN78 11/29/2010 7:24PM

    That is a lot to learn and go through in a year! It's true...what doesn't kill us, just makes us stronger!

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BASTEAT46 11/29/2010 6:31PM

    You are truly an amazing person. Congratulations on your year with SP that is wonderful. All of your losses were major ones. This year is going to be a better year. You make me realize my problems are not so big. Thanks for sharing this. emoticon emoticon

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BASTEAT46 11/29/2010 6:30PM

    You are truly an amazing person. Congratulations on your year with SP that is wonderful. All of your losses were major ones. This year is going to be a better year. You make me realize my problems are not so big. Thanks for sharing this. emoticon emoticon

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BASTEAT46 11/29/2010 6:30PM

    You are truly an amazing person. Congratulations on your year with SP that is wonderful. All of your losses were major ones. This year is going to be a better year. You make me realize my problems are not so big. Thanks for sharing this. emoticon emoticon

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JANLUCY 11/29/2010 3:25PM

  Terrific blog. I really enjoyed reading about your successes! Sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. Yes, I've loved a few animals that much.Sounds like the rest of them -- you're better off without!
Keep on Sparking!


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KARENE10 11/29/2010 2:28PM

    You have such a great attitude. Stay positive! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ELB1209 11/29/2010 1:14PM

    Thank you for writing this. What a great, positive attitude you have towards life, despite all your hardships. It's amazing the things we can overcome and even grow from when we allow ourselves to, and just change our mindset. You are truly an inspiration to all of us! Keep up the good work, and please keep writing and sharing. Your words are helpful not only for you, but also for the rest of us trying to achieve the same goals or similar goals as you.

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DELLASOL 11/29/2010 1:07PM

    Very insipiring! Thank you for sharing your story.

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JAMIEJOYNER 11/29/2010 12:39PM

    I thought I already commented on your blog but I guess i didn't so I am doing it now.

I love what you had to say! It's wonderful that you have so many things happen to you and you are still able to fight and kick your way through it. What a strong person. When my dad had quintuple bypass surgery in October (it was a surprise and an emergency) I sort of forgot how to live. I couldn't remember what day it was or even if I had ate or when I slept. It was so weird once he came out of it ok and started getting back to semi normal I realized I did not remember if I was dieting or exercising. It was scary that my dad was going through that but it was pretty scary that I could not even remember doing basic simple life things.

You are so strong! keep going and pressing on!

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JGINTX 11/29/2010 12:30PM

    This morning, I woke up to find that my little dog, Molly, had passed away in her sleep last night. She was with us 17 years. I think the Lord led me to this blog just now - as sad as I am and as well as I know "this too shall pass", your blog has given me some added strength today.

Bless you, SparkFriend!!

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ALLI429 11/29/2010 11:58AM

    You have learned really good things in very hard circumstances. Thanks for being open!


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NINNY165 11/29/2010 11:56AM

    Stay strong emoticon emoticon

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SANDYMISA 11/29/2010 11:45AM

    Thank you for sharing - I am impressed by your continuing commitment to yourself in the face of so many challenges. Great job!


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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 11/29/2010 11:39AM

    Great post....
Stay Positive

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LINDABENEDICT 11/29/2010 11:15AM

    Oh wow ! What an awesome blog from a really incredible person. All the best to you !!!!!!! Thanks sooo much for sharing your story.

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MUSIKGIRL 11/29/2010 10:56AM

  Great attitude...keep it up!

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LRSILVER 11/29/2010 9:28AM

    Wow. You have a wonderful attitude. I don't know if I could have kept going. You have a lot to be proud of. Keep it up. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SHANNONSTILLS 11/29/2010 9:12AM

You are strong, you are good, YOU ARE

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HEIDE69 11/29/2010 7:51AM

    What a year! Good luck on the rest of your journey!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 11/29/2010 7:14AM

    Wow, just wow. emoticon

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ABNTRPRSWIFE 11/29/2010 7:12AM

    When you can triumph over tragedy, that is when you can truely say you have accomplished something great in your life. Congratulations on all your triumphs and know that you are now inspiring others (like me) to stick with the plan. Through you we see a light at the end of the tunnel that doesn't have anything to do with a number on the scale, but something far greater...self-love. Thank you.

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MASE72 11/29/2010 7:02AM

    Thanks for sharing ! emoticon emoticon

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COMPUCATHY 11/29/2010 6:32AM

    Amen and amen. You have been through so much this year. But you are doing great. Your attitude is right. You're learning how to cope with it all and you are not just eating it all under. That's amazing and noteworthy. I wish you the best as you journey on. I'm so glad you are here on SP. Embrace the support that is available. You have a great future ahead. Keep sparking! emoticon emoticon

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KHELMAN 11/29/2010 2:22AM

    you are truly inspirational thank you for sharing emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SARCHRIS 11/29/2010 2:15AM

  Keep y our chin up and on to new and better things in your life emoticon

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MOMOF3NEWYORK 11/28/2010 5:07PM

    Did you realize you've also become a philosopher on life? What a year you've had. Keep on keepin' on!! and THANK YOU for sharing!! emoticon

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LINDA5758 11/28/2010 2:40PM

    You have been truly an inspiration. My heart goes out to you in all your trouble . I don't know how you kept going. I'm sure allot of us would have gave up. May God be with you and bring you all the best in the future. Keep up the good work. I know you will be able to accomplish anything else that will come your way. We all love you even though we may not know you personally.
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