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Already cried, and it's going to get worse

Thursday, November 25, 2010

So my boyfriend decides to tell me at noon that we're leaving soon to go to Thanksgiving lunch at his parents. LUNCH!? This whole time I've been acting like it's dinnner and he never corrected me. It's even on my calendar in the kitchen 3pm - Thanksgiving dinner.

I hadn't started cooking my vegan dish, and now I'm rushing to finish it. That's not why I was crying though. I thought it was dinner but asked anyhow if maybe we could stop at my sister's house after since they really wanted to see us and he said probably wouldn't be time. His parents do live about an hour away so I figure it's ok, we see my family all the time anyhow it's only Thanksgiving.

But how do we not have time to stop by if we're having lunch at his parents? He's either lazy and doesn't want to drive an extra fifteenn minutes, doesn't care that I get to see my family, was hoping I'd decide to go to theirs without him so I wouldn't be at his, or doesn't like my family period. I'm not sure what's worse.

And now I have to spend the whole DAY with his family, knowing what a better time I'd be having if I was just with my sister, parents and nephews. But he doesn't care. Wont' apologize for not telling me when "dinner" was either.
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    Sure hope the day got better. Holidays are tricky - not always what we hope. Hang in there.
    2669 days ago
    Just calm down, finish your dish and when it's all over (like tomorrow) talk to him honestly about how he feels. Don't start out blaming him or venting to him. Make it so that he doesn't feel cornered or pressured. He may be trying and testing his limits with you and seeing how you react. Today isn't the day to bring it up.

    Smile, enjoy yourself and maybe he'll decide there is enough time to visit with your family. I agree it's a lousy thing for him to do, but men have a different way of seeing things than we do. Just be sure to be nice and empathetic. If he feels like you are being a pill just because he'll hold it against you. If you are pleasant, there's nothing he can say or do that says you made the visit awful. Give it a try and have a happy Thanksgiving!
    2670 days ago
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