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Fairy Tales Aren’t Real or How I Quit Feeling Sorry For Myself, Got Off the Couch, and Made My Own!

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Sunday, November 21, 2010

Once upon a time there was a chubby little girl who was the shortest person in her class. Everyone liked her. She was a great friend to others and had a terrific sense of humor.

Time passed. The little girl grew into a chubby, short teenager, as often happens with chubby little girls. Her childhood friends had grown into taller, slimmer young teenagers who lived lives of partying, dating, being homecoming queens, cheerleaders, and class officers.
Oh, the chubby, short teenager had her share of parties, dates, and accolades. But something was changing….

The short, chubby teenager seemed different somehow. She had fewer smiles, less funny stories, and instead of being in the center of activities with her “friends”, she just stayed off to the side. Still part of the “popular crowd”, she was invited to fewer parties, left out of after-game trips to the pizza parlor, went shopping less and less with her girl friends. Her phone rang less often. Friday and Saturday date nights still occurred, but more often she went out on only one of those nights…not both.

The short, chubby teenager was sad. Was something wrong with her? Did she smell funny? No..she sniffed to be sure. She smelled just fine! Did she have bad breath? Just to make sure, she used mouth-wash and carried gum or mints everywhere she went.

Time passed. The short, chubby teenager grew into a short, fat young woman. She graduated from college. She didn’t live in the dorm like the other girls. She still lived at home so no one would have to see her in the shower.

She HAD found love. She married the nerdy, geeky guy who carried a briefcase instead of a backpack, but that’s another tale for another time.

The short, fat woman continued to be the shortest person in her class..only this time, she was the teacher! Other teachers would fuss at her to “get back in class”. They were embarrassed when they realized she wasn’t a student. She got fatter and fatter.

She had a baby. More fat. She was a fabulous hostess. More fat. She felt ugly. She felt worthless. She was lonely. She was miserable. She was obese.

Time passed. In the spring of 2010, the short obese woman was doing an internet search for “ground beef” recipes when she accidentally stumbled upon this strange place from another world--Spark People!!!

What is this? There were more fat, obese, lonely, miserable people out there in the world? She was not alone? There were steps she could take to eat better, learn to exercise, and there were actually people who would help her along the way??

Well, this she had to see! She had to join this amazing, free site. So she did. At first, she spent hours and hours on her computer joining teams, making friends, setting goals. Oh, yes! This was the place to be! At Spark People everyone liked the short, unhappy, obese woman! She belonged here! She got fatter!

What??? She got fatter? But this was where she was supposed to magically turn into a tall, slim young woman!! Oh, that only happens in fairy tales, doesn’t it? This was the real world. A world where there is no Fairy Godmother with a magic wand. A world where Prince Charming could not save her----not even from herself!

So, the short, unhappy, obese woman quit some of her teams. She made commitments--real commitments to just a couple teams. She set some real goals. Little ones. She bought a treadmill and actually used it for something other than a place to store stuff that didn’t have anywhere else to go! She stocked her kitchen with good, clean, healthy food! She read articles! Boy, did she read articles!!! She talked to other people on Spark who were just like her! She learned about calories, fat, carbs, protein, fiber, and more! She walked, and walked. She even ran, a little, but mostly she walked! She did yoga, strength training, she stretched, she worked out with Coach Nicole’s dvds!

She smiled more and more and more and more! She quickly moved from obese to overweight to normal weight! Remember, she is very petite---so she could do that with as little as 5 pounds. Remember, though, she can move back to overweight and obese just as quickly! She is not only petite---she is “petite-petite”!! Yes, all you normal-height folks--that is a REAL category!!!

Well, the short, chubby girl who had grown into a short, chubby teenager, who grew into a fat, overweight, obese adult woke up one Sunday morning, hopped on the scale, and there it was! She had FINALLY met her goal weight!!! (It was tough the last few weeks, but she eliminated all processed foods, which eliminated a ton of salt!)

The short, healthy, energetic, active woman is pleased with herself! She is smiling at this very second! She knows that maintaining this new weight will require a lot of hard work and a lifelong commitment.

She is not afraid because she is not alone. She has an entire world out there..this land called Spark People!!!! She will continue to set goals, stay active on her teams, and be a great friend to others.

Thank you, Chris Downie, for changing the lives of so many people! Thank you, MIH, for believing in me, inspiring me, and challenging me! I must end my story now. The outside beckons me to get out and walk!!!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TEENY_BIKINI 11/22/2010 3:25PM

    Your goal weight!!!!

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You rock!

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3CHIHUAHUA 11/21/2010 11:19PM


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JKTENTATIVE 11/21/2010 11:07PM

    What a great story...especially the ending!
- This should be voted most popular blog so everyone out in SP land can read it!!

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BOBF15 11/21/2010 10:34PM

    Thank you for the view of the Inner Spark, we all need stories like this.

It gives us an idea of whether we are on the right road or not by seeing "mile markers" and signs along the way. If we are on the same road, then we will then too eventually end up at the same place as you.

I love this quote and use it over and over.
"The right road leads out to the right place."


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NANHBH 11/21/2010 10:27PM

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Congrats on making goal weight! What an inspiring story! I have to agree with Christelle - you have reached out and touched my life -- and the life of so many others. You are such an outgoing, positive, and encouraging person. I am honored to be on this journey with you!

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TRACEYMOMOF3 11/21/2010 10:13PM

    Awesome blog! very motivational! Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed it and learned some from it. Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon

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BTRTHANEVA 11/21/2010 9:13PM

    Mary, you are a phenomenal woman who inspires every individual who's paths you cross: young, old, short, tall, skinny, obese, happy, sad and everything in between. You, little miss Mary sunshine, were one of my first SP friends. The cheerful manner in which you reached out and touched me as well your team mates and friends belies your past. Everything happens for a reason. Stumbling upon SP has changed your life. You are paying it forward by changing many other lives, mine included.

Thank you for sharing this! Well done, Mary.

OK, go find an apron and get your butt into Grandma's kitchen. We've got ourselves some pies to make for the rest of the gang's arrival!


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WINWIN1 11/21/2010 9:02PM

very good story - thank you emoticon

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JMERLAU 11/21/2010 8:49PM

    Mary Mary - you INSPIRE ME - you CHALLENGE ME - you make me LAUGH - you WORK HARD - YOU are AWESOME!!

Thanks for sharing your story and THANKS for sharing this journey with me!


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MIECHI7 11/21/2010 8:07PM

    You rocked it M.C and you scored!! Congrats on making your goal!
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SWEETLIPS 11/21/2010 7:01PM

    This was so good to me. Congratulations to you.

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LOGOULD 11/21/2010 6:36PM

    emoticon story and blog - I LOVE a happy ending...but, it's not really an ending is it? Hitting your goal weight is just the start of the rest of your life. The start of a healthier and happier lifestyle, and I wish you all the emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 11/21/2010 5:45PM

  emoticon on reaching your goal!!!!! I am very proud of you and know that you will do just as well maintaining. I love this site, but you are correct in your decision to cut down on the computer time and to join fewer teams. Your time is much better spent on your own goals. You are living proof of it.
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2BEEANEWME 11/21/2010 5:22PM

    emoticon great story! Thanks for sharing. Congrats.

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GEMINISUE 11/21/2010 1:40PM

    OMG- I just read your blog- after sending you an e-mail- I am so proud of you, for reaching your goal weight. I feel so good, for you. Hugs Linda

Yes, we have people, on the team, know who are in maintenance so would still be happy to have you back!


I reached my goal in Summer and Fall Challenge, and feel great about that, also, just wanted to share with you!

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ONEGREATCAT 11/21/2010 12:49PM

    Thanks for the inspiration. I'm also a petite, petite, at least in height!!

As you said, it is so easy to move into overweight and obese when you're short. I'm close to getting out of the overweight area, but those pounds LOVE ME! But I'm "workin' it" and with SparkPeople like you...I'll make it!


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RHONDA_11 11/21/2010 12:38PM

    Love this blog!! emoticon

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DEBBIEKAY1 11/21/2010 12:25PM

    emoticon Loved your blog emoticon on your success
I loved the way you told your story but especially the happy ending You ROCK!

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LESLIES537 11/21/2010 12:14PM

    This was such a cute blog!! I was enthralled in every second of it! Thank you or this ''tale'' and the chance to have an insight into your story. You really should blog more! You are a very talented writer and are truly an inspiration to us all!

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PUDLECRAZY 11/21/2010 12:10PM

    Great story! I loved your blog because it was so human and so true. Congratulations on cutting back computer time, and renewing your commitment to yourself. And most of all for reaching your goals!

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RENA1965 11/21/2010 11:57AM

    Great story you will have to tell the one about the nerdy geeky guy with the brief case lol emoticon

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CHRISTYFG 11/21/2010 11:47AM

    I'm SO proud of you!!! Great story, chick. I know how hard you've been working for this & am thrilled for you, for having reached your goal. There really is no place like Spark & the people that light it up every day.

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LUCKYDOGFARM 11/21/2010 11:15AM

    MCS, I am so glad that you found us all at SparkPeople! Yippee!!

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LMB-ESQ 11/21/2010 11:13AM

    Wow!!! What a great tale! No "fairy" about it! Thank you so much for sharing it! There is one thing I have learned over the year and a half I've been on Spark... the support we get here is so much different from any support we get anywhere else. My friends here don't stand in any judgment of me. It isn't that people in my real life WANT to stand in judgment; I think that sometimes they just don't realize what they're doing. But I also know that whatever is going on in my life, whether good or bad, I can come here and share it and I will always find somebody who's got my back. Not always true in real life.

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SUNNY238 11/21/2010 11:02AM

    I LOVE this story!! I was laughing and I was crying as I realized you were also telling my story. This is so motivational, especially since you have a happy ending. I know I'll reach my goals, and THANK YOU for such a motivational story. I'm glad you found sparkpeople, and I hope you continue to remain such a witty, positive, motivational person. Thanks for this blog, I needed it today!!

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