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Trusting Myself

Friday, November 19, 2010


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ANEPANALIPTI 11/22/2010 6:49PM

    Oh, I can so relate. ABSOLUTELY its about the "not trusting MYSELF".... YUP YUP YUP.

Thank you for telling me something really important... that its not going to happen automatically. We have to practice.

Wow, "so somebody will affirm me" I could be saying these words... Gosh.

GREAT VLOG emoticon , we're going to do this... I know it.

I hope you can come to Chicago this December!!!!!

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RECIPE4ME 11/20/2010 8:15PM

    WOW that is so me! I need to learn how to trust too!

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HDHAWK 11/20/2010 11:29AM

    People pleaser, yes. Learning to trust and is it difficult, yes again! You always know just what I need to hear.
Enjoy your weekend!

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JPRICE217 11/20/2010 9:03AM

    John you are worth it !!!!! This blog realy hit home . It could be me. You gave me so much to think about. emoticon

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MARCYNA 11/19/2010 3:34PM

    I am not a control freak but I know what it means to be one...Anyway, you're doing perfectly and helping us all, you're as trustworthy as can be emoticon

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BTINTERNET 11/19/2010 12:41PM

    Thanks much for this insightful (as always) vlog. One of the things I have been facing working with Dr. T (my trainer) is getting around the head-game of trusting that I can do it (lift this, do one more set, etc.) It's the reverse of the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak - in this case the flesh can do amazing things if only the spirit would give it the chance.

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LUVMYK9S 11/19/2010 12:37PM

    Seems like I have some of the same issues as you John. I too am a people pleaser and somewhat of a control freak. I enjoyed the alarm clock analogy, I generally wake up before the alarm clock goes off and then just toss and turn watching the clock until it does ~ is it because I don't trust it to actually go off, or is it because I don't trust myself to wake up on time? Thank you for the enlightening vlog, I realize now that I need to practice trusting myself to be successful.

Have a most wonderful weekend with your family!

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MSCOCOPUFFS01 11/19/2010 11:36AM

    Heard you talking about Chicago and Milwaukee. We are moving to that area in a few months. Probably closer to the Milwaukee area. I trust you have been there b4. Anything good or bad points you could tell me about it? Is it family and kid friendly? Also looking at the Beloit area if you ahve been there. :)

I get that whole control freak because you don't trust thing. I think that describes me too. I have issues trusting my alarm clock but my issues are, I set it but then think what if I didn't turn it on, so I check.. then I check again..and again.. it's obsessive almost. You always make so much sense and things just click in my head. Thank you!

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2BEATIT1 11/19/2010 11:08AM

Your blogs are so refreshing. I like the video because it gives us a chance to really hear your heart beat (not literally).
You give us so much to think about as you are working through your journey.
I guess in some ways, you made me realize I am also a control freak....maybe not in a big way but in little ways. I need to know everything is under control.
Thanks once again for sharing your heart, and I hope you have a wonderful weekend as you celebrate with your sister.
God bless you and have a safe trip.

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SARAWALKS 11/19/2010 9:52AM

    Hi John, I haven't seen your vlog in a long time (just busy busies) but I wanted to tell you, YOU LOOK FANTASTIC! the whole air about you is more vibrant and alive, you are smiling and you seem to have dropped a whole pile of weight, and I don't just mean pounds! It is a delight to see you doing well.

I am a control freak too...began to realize & work with it in the 90s...and in the late 90s God plopped me down in a church, working with volunteers, where there was just NO WAY I could control things. So I had to learn to deal with me and to TRUST me and to trust God to be in control.

And whaddya know, it happened. I resigned as general manager of the universe. (also had to learn I couldn't please everybody).

so hang in there, it will take a while, but I have a feeling you are not going to sleep through it! Have a good journey and a good party with your sister! emoticon

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EMTFF376 11/19/2010 9:39AM

    I'm so glad that my sparkfriends let me know when they aren't going to be around. I am a natural born worrier and I'm good at what I do! LOL

Have fun at the party! Happy birthday baby sis!

Trust is very hard. I am a control freak, but I have the opposite problem you do. I guess maybe control freak isn't the appropriate term. I'm a perfectionist and I am anal retentive and I do like to be in control. I like things done a certain way. However, I trust everyone... and I have been burned numerous times (most notably by my exhusband and my "friend" who were cheating on me). I will tell a complete stranger my life story, I treat everyone like my best friend. Will it bite me in the butt? yep, but I can't not trust. Without trust, you have nothing.

I listened to all the things you need to work on. Please don't keep reflecting on all of them at once. You may overwhelm yourself and not accomplish any of them. Set yourself small goals and work towards them. One of my goals on my psyche side is to accept compliments. That has been the hardest for me. I was always the fat, nerdy kid. I'm still the nerdy kid, LOL, but I have the mental image of that fat kid still. I embrace my geekdom, but cannot embrace the fact that I am at a healthy weight. I guess that's my trust issue with myself.

Sounds like we both have things to work on, but I believe that we are in the right place (here at Sparkpeople) to do that.

Have a wonderful weekend with your sister. I will be on the ambulance all weekend.


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