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His Love Lives On

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Rising from her bed, she stared out the window and tried desperately to shake the feelings of loneliness and despair. Once again, a day without her beloved, a day without the love of her life by her side. For eleven months she lived as if she were a shell of a woman, carrying on for her son and her two beautiful granddaughters. Some days were more difficult than others. Some days she could barely get dressed to go to work. Some days she just COULD NOT. His birthday was very difficult five months ago. But she threw a birthday "party" for him anyways, inviting their families, their friends to come and remember the man he was. Then soon after, it was their thirty-sixth-year anniversary. It was torment for her. Yet, she painfully made her way to his resting place and placed roses by his headstone; in silence she told him that she missed him, needed him and asked him why he had to go so soon.

She was dreading the approaching holidays. They were always the most wonderful times...he was a force to be reckoned with during this time of the year. He believed that the holidays were a time of giving, of oneself, to those he loved around him and also to the less fortunate. It was nothing for him to take extra shifts at work to be able to buy a chosen needy family a tree, gifts to put under it and a holiday meal. Donning his "Santa" clothes, he would make his rounds in the neighborhood on Christmas Eve and his boisterous "ho-ho-hos" filled the air. This year no one would hear them.

This year, a family would miss out on his bigger-than-life heart and soul.

But she knew she must start preparing for the ones who were still here. She had already bought gifts for her two grandgirls and decided, since she had the day off, to gather up the wrapping supplies from the garage. With one forced foot in front of the other, she made her way to the shelves where the wrapping paper and the bows were always stored. Sitting the bag down on the table while she turned to replace the other items she had moved, she heard a small clunk. Wondering what could make that sound in a bag of paper, she dug inside and found a small box. Wrapped intricately in white paper and ribbon, she sat it aside as she noticed a card in an envelope with her name on it.

"Dearest Rita,

You have always been the love of my life. I want to remind you that you are still the beautiful girl I fell in love with so many years ago. You are still the woman who makes me smile, who makes my heart race when I see your wondrous face.

Merry Christmas, darling... I will love you for eternity.


Clutching the card to her chest, she picked up the small box and felt its ridges, its curves underneath the carefully wrapped paper. Slowly opening it, placing the wrapping aside untorn, she opened the box and inside was the most beautiful ring she had ever seen. Intricately set stones glistened in the light coming from the window. She suddenly realized that her husband had not abandoned her at all and his heart was STILL giving to this very day. With a smile, she slipped the ring on her finger and could almost feel his loving embrace as she allowed the tears of joy to stream from her face. She was not alone. She never was. And she never will be...even in death her husband had made sure that she knew how much he loved her. That's just the kind of man he was.

These are events that transpired this morning, November16th, 2010.

Her husband is my brother.

Make sure you treat each day as a gift with the man/woman you love. We are not guaranteed tomorrow. All you have is NOW.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SHERLYN-WILL 1/7/2011 11:56PM

    WHAT a beautiful remembrance of your precious brother! I hurt for his wife to be without him! HE knew she would find that ring one day.. what a planner he was to be thinking if her like that!

THANK you so much for sharing this story!

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KRITTERKEEPERS 12/17/2010 11:44PM

    What an amazing man your brother, Steve, was! Thank you for sharing such a touching story of love.

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CARTOONB 11/21/2010 12:15AM

    Our loved ones will always find a way to let us know how much we mean to them. Thanks for sharing such a great story.

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JUNIAATROME 11/20/2010 2:10AM

    This is an amazing story...

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ANNAMARIE1958 11/18/2010 11:01PM

    Wow how touching.....Life is so short you never know what will happen tomorrow....Tell your love ones how much you love them. Michelle my heart goes out to you and your family during this time of year....GOD be with you..

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HLTHYETER 11/18/2010 9:44AM

    Wonderfully told and a wonderful story. Thanks so much for being willing to share. We should all treasure each and every day we have on this earth and treasure those with whom we are close.

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KAILYNSTAR 11/17/2010 6:46PM

    How beautiful and sweet.

It's so much more than a touch to the heart and soul. That was powerful.

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STAYCXL-NOMORE 11/17/2010 1:35PM

    Wonderful Story , thanks for sharing , really touched my heart !!

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BWCAGRL 11/17/2010 10:10AM

    I share the sentiments of many others who have already commented. I will be praying for you this holiday season. You have helped his love continue on and spread light by sharing your story...keep letting your light, and his, shine!

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JAMER123 11/16/2010 11:43PM

    Michelle, you have written the most touching blog I think I have ever read. I believe that my sister-in-law is this lady as my brother passed away (unexpectedly) 8 weeks ago and they had just this type of relationship. Thank you for this wonderful story. If alright with you, may I keep this and some day share with my SIL (when she is ready to read). My heart goes out to you as I know what you are also feeling. I shed tears for both of us. God bless and keep the writings going.

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CHERIRIDDELL 11/16/2010 11:40PM

    That brought a tear to my eye,thank you for sharing with us.You obviously come from beautiful and hugs,Cheri

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DREAMGIRL76 11/16/2010 9:51PM

    Michelle, this is such a gift of love that I will remember for a long time to come. I am so happy for your dear sister in law to have received this gift that I know could not have come to her at a better time. Your brother was a remarkable and thoughtful, loving and caring man as you well know, and I so appreciate your sharing this deeply touching story with us.
God Bless you all throughout this holiday season, and keep the memories in your hearts and share those joys that give you comfort and feel your hearts with gladness as you have all of us who read this.
Debbie (leader of laugh a lot & be your best book club)

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SDPARTON 11/16/2010 7:31PM


That is the most beautiful heart felt blog that I have ever read! It brought cold chills all over me and tears streaming down my face. What a wonderful man God blessed you with and your sister in law! How lucky to have had such a wonderful man in your life and your families life! I can only imagine your loss and I can only imagine how hard the Holidays have to be, but he is always there with you and that special little box (ring), note has to prove that:) God be with you and your family this Holiday Season and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family too! emoticon

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AZCUPCAKE 11/16/2010 6:31PM

    Beautiful. You come from such wonderful people, no wonder you are such a treasure. Now, I am going to leave the computer and use up a box of Kleenexes. Thank you for sharing.... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MRSJERRYBUSH 11/16/2010 6:11PM

    Well, I've got goose bumpa now!

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MINDYJ1 11/16/2010 5:46PM

    emoticon That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing!

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WILLOWWINDS 11/16/2010 5:39PM

    That was Beautiful.

Reminds me of this quote I came acrossed today.

Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality. ~Emily Dickinson

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FLEMIDG 11/16/2010 5:34PM

    Oh, Michelle, thank you for sharing that very beautiful story with us.
God bless you and your sister-in-law in your time of sorrow. May He continue to guide you and take care of you. Your brother was a very special man, and I know he will be missed. Thanks again for sharing with us. Love always.

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KATVHALE 11/16/2010 5:13PM

    It's funny but after I lost my husband, I fantasized that something like that would happen to me but it never did. God loves your brother sooo much that He allowed him to give her a gift to get her through this difficult time of year for her.

Thank you so much for sharing that with us as it just goes to show us all that God is still on His throne working miracles in the lives of His children.

God Bless your sister-in-law and her family! God Bless you too for allowing God to use you to touch our hearts!


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    Yes indeed, that was one powerful blog!
Shall I admit that you brought tears to my eyes?
I'm to tough for that,
but I did have to wait a moment
to re-check my SPelling.
Couldn't blame tears for blurring my words, could I?

Thanks again for waking us up to
make sure to cherish life
'cause we MUST live it one day at a time.

Thanks again

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CALIMAN1 11/16/2010 4:06PM

    That was absolutely heart is thankful for you sharing this. What a special man.....

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KAYDE53 11/16/2010 2:50PM

    What a beautiful testimony to your brother's life!! I can tell he was much loved!! Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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BKNOCK 11/16/2010 2:40PM

    What a beautiful experience your sister-in-law had! Thank you so much for sharing this with us! It just moves my heart beyond words!

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THAMLEY 11/16/2010 2:37PM

    I always love your blogs. Thanks for sharing, as always, beautiful! You'll not believe this, but at the beginning, I kinda thought it might be your brother. Just seeing previous things you have written, made me remember he sounded like a really special person. And, I remember how awesome it was that you did the party for him. You and He definitely came from the same mold. I know you all still miss him very much. Such a wonderful Thanksgiving message. Thanks again.

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PJSTIME 11/16/2010 2:03PM

    What a beautiful story and what a wonderful man he was and is. They had a wonderful relationship that comes from loving each other so much. Thanks for sharing this with us.

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0309COOKIE 11/16/2010 1:56PM

    Well, now I've had my cry for the day. What a beautiful story!

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BIKERBABE2BE 11/16/2010 12:55PM

    Thanks for reminding me that each day is a gift. I've been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and realize I have so much to be grateful for. Hugs, my friend, for you and your family. XOXO

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 11/16/2010 12:48PM

    That's it, it's official. This is the 2nd time you had me crying at work! You are breaking my heart but in a very good way.

This is a beautiful story. I don't want it to end!

Ok, so now, how do we help a family in his memory? What do we do to make sure his gift to all of us lives on?


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LMB-ESQ 11/16/2010 12:42PM

    Oh, my. Wow. That is one powerful message. emoticon emoticon

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LIZZYP609 11/16/2010 12:28PM

    It is not fair to make me cry! Thanks Michelle! emoticon emoticon

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