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Our "non wedding"

Sunday, November 14, 2010

A year ago I blogged about how we became engaged but didn't want or need a big or fancy wedding. For that year we discussed several scenarios: a cook out where the guests didn't know we were getting married til the JP showed up/inviting our children and parents for dinner and surprising them/eloping in Vegas/or even just sneaking down to the town hall. You get the picture. We discussed it til we were so sick of discussing it that we didn't discuss it at all any more.

No matter what we decided people were gonna be disappointed. If we invited all the people we love it couldn't be small and intimate (and inexpensive!!) and WE would be disappointed. If we invited our children and parents our brothers and sisters would be upset (I have 6 and he has 5,plus spouses). If we pretended we were having a cookout and sprung it on them the people who didn't come would say "If you told me you were getting married I would have came.'' Blah Blah,we couldn't decide. (The reason for not telling them was that we do not want or need our family and friends spending $ on us,we have everything we need and more and also because people sometimes "mean well" and try to help with arrangements and before you know it the thing escalates and it's nothing like what you had wanted in the first place.

On November 6th ( a year and a day after we got engaged) we went to Tampa,Florida on vacation. I can honestly say it was the best vacation a girl could ask for. My guy spoiled me rotten. Breakfast in bed every morning, attractions and shopping every afternoon and don't you worry about those nights,he had em covered ;) We were so happy and relaxed.

On November 10th we got up late and went shopping for a new bathing suit for me. We walked because the mall was only about a mile from our hotel and I needed some exercise. We passed at least 3 places that you could get married at. Neither one of us said a word.

We put on our suits and headed to the pool. I was thinking about the signs I had seen but we were leaving the next morning and didn't even have a license. I knew he saw them too and I was a little hurt that he didn't say anything but neither did I.

We met a couple who were about our age and they asked how long we'd been thing I knew we were in our room ripping through the phone book to get a license. I changed while he made phone calls and we hailed a cab to the city hoping to make City Hall in time (it was about 3pm) We made our way to the clerks office and filled out the required paperwork still not knowing when or where we would do it. I was trying to decide what I would wear,how would I fix my hair,where we would buy the rings,etc when the clerk asked "Do you want to do it now?" In unison we said "YES!!"

There were no flowers,guests, or rings. Just two people who truly love each other and wanted to be a family. My camera was in my purse and I didn't even ask the clerk to take our picture. I don't need one,I will never forget how he was looking at me. It was perfect. I was in flip flops without makeup with wet hair and to him I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I don't doubt that for a second. He was wearing jean shorts and a Mohegan Sun Tshirt,looking like he was about to mow the lawn and I have never loved him more.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
Y_GHAZALY 1/11/2011 12:57AM

    awwwwwww congrats! :):) this is luv really :) i think u had a very romantic sincere wedding :) may u always be happy in the years 2 come :) good ppl r so hard 2 find these days :) u know, despite any flaws my husband & i have (& some r quite serious flaws), we wouldn't trade each other 4 the world :) emoticon

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KATIE781 11/22/2010 11:11AM

    Awwwww.. congrats.. I'm thrilled you are so happy. I'm sure that "wedding" meant more to you both than anything you could have planned. I'm so happy for you both.

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NANA2THREEGIRLS 11/22/2010 11:03AM

    12 days later and we still don't have rings!! haha!! I got the best husband a woman could ask for...the rings will come in time :)

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FORTUNATEFOOL74 11/16/2010 4:03PM

    Congratulations! This is what a wedding should be about!

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TYCA41458 11/16/2010 3:04PM

    This is so completely fantastic and romantic! Congratulations to the both of you and I wish a very long, happy life together!

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BNBLYNNE 11/16/2010 2:03PM

    This gave me goose bumps. Thanks for sharing and may you live happily ever after.

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LCHADBOURNE 11/16/2010 1:43PM

    I love it! Congratulations!!! What a truly romantic story you will be able to pass on to your family. emoticon

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JUST_SIMONE 11/16/2010 1:19PM

    I absolutely love this! I got married a couple of months ago, only without the license, guests or any of it. Just me and hubby on top of a hill saying our vows. We've gone on one honeymoon already and are planning another one in the next few months. On this next honeymoon, we were thinking of actually doing the whole marriage license thing and making it official in other people's eyes (it's already official in mine).

I love non-traditional wedding stories!

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TEACHINMOM 11/16/2010 1:10PM

    LOVE IT!! emoticon

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NANA2THREEGIRLS 11/16/2010 10:36AM

    Thank you all,it was the most intimate moment of my life. We decorated our mailbox with "just married" balloons when we got home...I'm never taking them down emoticon

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DIANE2110 11/16/2010 12:16AM

    How absolutely romantic! Wishing you both all the happiness in the world!

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FRAN0426 11/15/2010 8:43PM

    Congrats on the marriage, you did it the way that was meant for the two of yoe---many, many years of happiness to the two of you.

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SOAPNUT 11/15/2010 1:43PM

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KIMBER1984 11/14/2010 10:51PM

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I totally love it!!!! All you need is each other.

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