Peter started the chapter talking about reformations that developed “hardened religious arteries”. That as humans, we tend to identify with limitations and develop attractions, both of which can put us in “cages”.
To live our lives with a “theme of freedom”, he suggests we:
1. Name the cage or attachment
2. Find the door to the cage or the hold of the attachment
3. Move towards freedom in areas where we feel trapped
My Spark Cage is MY expectations of co-leadership of the Meditation and Mindfulness Team. As a co-leader I expect to alert the team to new members, send goodies to new members, participate in message boards, comment on member feeds or blogs…
You get the drift.
My attachment is MY performance as a co-leader. When I can’t alert the team to new members, send goodies, participate in message boards, or comment on member feeds or blogs, I feel like I didn’t do what I SHOULD. No one on the team is making me feel BAD; I am the only one who can do that.
The way for me to move towards freedom is to get REAL, and thankfully I am learning to do that.
May your performance meet your healthy expectations, or if not, may you find freedom in the fact that the fun is in the journey.
Namaste my friends.
from Peter Allman’s book, "Little Me Can Live a Big Life: Integrating Paradoxes for Change."