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The value of touch

Saturday, October 30, 2010

I love massages, I love hugs, I love holding hands, I love human touch. Today i realized how as our lives change, we can find ourselves with fewer and fewer opportunities to enjoy the simple pleasure of connecting physically with another person. We are in St. Louis visiting DH's family- whom I love. We went to visit his uncle who is in a nursing home. He will be 90 on Novemeber 16th and is in failing health and quite hard of hearing. Conversation is possible, but somethings don't come across the same when they are shouted. At one point, I noticed how dry the skin on the top of his hands was. I found some lotion and spent quite a bit of time applying it and then gently rubbing it in. At one point, he reached his other hand over and placed on top of mine and said very quietly, "That feels so good." From the light in his eyes, I realized that much more the lotion being applied was happening for both of us. Take time each day to share a hug, a hand shake, a pat on the back with someone who is missing touch in their lives. You will be amazed what it does for you!
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  • TEJAS1291
    You are soooo right CarolJean.My father in law was at the Cancer Treatment Center in Tulsa,and hubby and I were staying with him.He was dying from lung cancer and had gone there as..I guess a last attempt. I noticed how dry his feet were,the skin was breaking open too as he was having some swelling. I had the nurse bring in some lotion and this began a ritual between him and I.I would sit on the floor at his feet each night and he would soak up the attention and I think he found comfort too during these massages.He would tell me stories of his life.He lived for a couple of months after this.But the massages continued until the night before he passed.I will always remember the smell of the lotion and the sound of his voice as he talked,and I know that we connected on a level that many never experience.
    2670 days ago
    So true!

    I find it difficult to let other people close to me, I should make an effort to be more "touchy" :)
    2671 days ago
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