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Obligation Food...


Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Typically, the fact that I have a gluten intolerance makes it very easy to wriggle my way out of eating "obligation foods," which we eat to be polite. Your friend made cookies? Not a problem! "Oh, those look sooooo delicious, but I can't eat any! Too bad!"
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However, this can definitely backfire when someone makes something specially *for you*. For her birthday, my coworkers and I planned to surprise my boss with her favorite things: wine and brownies. Since I don't like wine and can't eat brownies, I brought a snack for myself, thinking I was safe. Little did I know that my coworker had prepared special flourless brownies just for me.... Ohhhh... uh, thank you, coworker....

In case you don't know: "flourless" = "big old pile of butter and chocolate."

I couldn't refuse outright, and since there were only five of us there, I couldn't take one bite and hide the rest. I ate 2/3 of a brownie, thinking that would be safe, and begged for the recipe ("This is sooooo good! You HAVE to give me the recipe!") so I could analyze it on SP later.

Each one of those obligation brownies? 383 calories! And it's not like they were huge either. This means I consumed 256 calories out of social obligation.

I almost cried when I entered it onto my food tracker (and am honestly feeling a little weepy about it right now). It isn't like I haven't gone over my calorie range before, but those were conscious decisions. *I* was making the choice to splurge, and only when I really *really* wanted to. But to be forced into it just made me feel a little helpless...

How do I deal with this the next time it comes up (and this IS the second time that it has...)?
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REVSERENA 11/5/2010 2:03PM

    I've run into that. It is hard. When I was going through a job transition the people at my old job were throwing parties for me, and the people at my new job were throwing parties for me. It really took me off track. How do you turn down food that literally "has your name on it"!
RADBUNNY is right. Honesty is the best policy. I've done the one bite thing. I've also eaten a tiny sliver, told them that that is all my program allows for now, and asked if they would mind if I packed away the rest for later.
We really are in charge of what we eat. Social pressure is a pain, but it isn't actually a gun against our head. If people know that we are being very careful about our eating ahead of time, it does make the social faux pas theirs rather than ours.

Hang in there!

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REVSERENA 11/5/2010 2:03PM

    I've run into that. It is hard. When I was going through a job transition the people at my old job were throwing parties for me, and the people at my new job were throwing parties for me. It really took me off track. How do you turn down food that literally "has your name on it"!
RADBUNNY is right. Honesty is the best policy. I've done the one bite thing. I've also eaten a tiny sliver, told them that that is all my program allows for now, and asked if they would mind if I packed away the rest for later.
We really are in charge of what we eat. Social pressure is a pain, but it isn't actually a gun against our head. If people know that we are being very careful about our eating ahead of time, it does make the social faux pas theirs rather than ours.

Hang in there!

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REVSERENA 11/5/2010 2:02PM

    I've run into that. It is hard. When I was going through a job transition the people at my old job were throwing parties for me, and the people at my new job were throwing parties for me. It really took me off track. How do you turn down food that literally "has your name on it"!
RADBUNNY is right. Honesty is the best policy. I've done the one bite thing. I've also eaten a tiny sliver, told them that that is all my program allows for now, and asked if they would mind if I packed away the rest for later.
We really are in charge of what we eat. Social pressure is a pain, but it isn't actually a gun against our head. If people know that we are being very careful about our eating ahead of time, it does make the social faux pas theirs rather than ours.

Hang in there!

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RADBUNNY 10/28/2010 12:56AM

    Have your mentioned to your coworkers that you are trying to loss weight and count your calories or is it a secret? Seems like your coworkers are thoughfull enough to care about you ( she made your gluten free brownies! so sweet!) I think that if they know about your commitment to your body that maybe thay would be caring in that department to. I made it well known at my job that I was doing the program and it was a little hard at first but now when they begin to offer me something not on the program, I stop and tell me "oh no Sorry! You don't want this do you" and they take it out of my sight. So helpful with the want to sucomb. Sometimes they eveb look up calories for me before they even offer! This is no small feat since I work in the medical field and the drug reps constntly bring goodies.

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