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Befuddled about balance - help!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Aaargh. i have been working a lot lately. i'm happy about it since i'm getting really nice feedback from the teachers. BUT my spark & exercise has gone right out the window. i can tell i've put on a pound or two...and the body aches are back. so today they called me for work and i said "no". that's the beauty of substitute teaching: it's flexible and i can take the hours i want. SO WHY DO I FEEL GUILTY FOR SAYING NO????

i decided when i woke up, that this is the day that i get my butt back to the gym. i just feel so torn about turning down work. i worked 4 days last week, and my house went to hell. (hubby doesn't do laundry or cleaning...aaargh - a blog for another day...). so, how the heck do people find balance? and what do i say to this guilty voice? i'm trying to take care of me, the kids, the house, AND help a little with the bills.....can someone please offer some of their wisdom & insight?


thanks!
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MARTHA-ANN 11/13/2010 5:47AM

    I learnt that saying 'no' reaps it's own rewards emoticon don't feel guilty about taking time for yourself, you deserve it emoticon

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AUGUST_SUN 10/29/2010 4:29PM

    Ask yourself how long you're going to last keeping up this pace. I used to do the guilt thing too, and am now a walking (or hobbling) example why you need to take time to take care of yourself.

Put on your own life jacket first. That way you will be able to help those you love.

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TEAWONDERFUL 10/27/2010 2:06PM

    Balance is the hardest part for me. Don't worry, you'll find it.

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ONESPOTLEFT 10/27/2010 6:24AM

    Always make time for me time and do what you must with it; without the guilt, put your self aside a sliver of time to gather and compose yourself.
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MEADSBAY 10/26/2010 10:12PM

    Never feel guilty for meeting your own needs first!
You deserve it.
You must take care of your health, first and then your family.

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PLAYBLUES22 10/26/2010 9:34AM

    Sweetie, don't you dare feel guilty, sometimes you just have to listen to your body too emoticon

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CANDACE28 10/26/2010 7:23AM

    Sometimes, no matter how guilty we feel, saying no is still the right thing. You need to step back and think that you want to help yourself as much as you would want to help someone else.
Just learn to listen to yourself and what you need!

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PARKERB2 10/26/2010 7:16AM

    Don't feel guilty about saying no. The more your able to say it the easier it will get. Gradually encourage the hubby to take over some of the responsibilities of the home and children. This will really help you. Be sure to take time for yourself. And, Keep Sparking. emoticon

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