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Sunday, October 24, 2010

Friends make my world go round...being an 'only..lonely' I've always surrounded myself with adopted 'sistas'...they truly are family in every sense of the word. And I think our construction business was successful because many of our customers became friends long after their jobs were complete.

If you are going to be successful, no matter what you choose to do...you need to understand that every single person on the face of the earth wants to be seen, validated, and held in esteem. That's always been fairly easy for me because by and large I'm fascinated with humanoids and what makes them tick.

Now even more so after losing our beautiful son...you can't understand how valuable a human life is until you've lost the very one that meant the entire universe to you.

I see people in a whole new light now...I see their struggles, I see their hopes and dreams and the scars they try to hide from the world. We all do the same thing...we all try to appear so much tougher than we really are. This just reinforces to me over and over that no matter WHAT we look like, no matter WHAT our heritage is...we are all SO MUCH MORE alike than we are different and it's a fabulous awakening to me!

I love to talk to all of my market friends and find out what their backgrounds are...I love to hear the stories about how hard they work and how many markets they balance throughout the season. Some actually do markets full time...traveling from good weather to good weather...they are true gypsies...disillusioned with the traditional workplace...determined to make their living THEIR way...it's pretty inspiring.

That brings us to the gallery. I told my friends a little more about it last night. Now this is a group of self-employed...mostly semi-retired individuals that have no worries about money and devote themselves to travel and volunteering and leisure activities.

Most have a healthy bank account and no financial worries...so we are definitely the odd couple out...it was a sobering fall from grace for us...at least in our social circle as we used to be the so called "leaders of the pack"...sooo....for us to have to jump back into a full time business...retail...no less...which is the hardest of the hard...in a time where the economy is so flat...is nearly impossible for them to understand...let alone support. You'd think their manners alone would encourage them to well...encourage us...but I didn't hear much of that...well...maybe a few "hope this works out for you."

But I won't let their doubts stand in our way...I've thought every thought that they have, and I've given myself every argument that this isn't the BEST of times to do this that is rattling across their minds...and I'm still pushing forward and hoping for the best possible outcome.

Sometimes you've got to believe in yourself even when your 'family' doesn't...nuff said emoticon

I'm also thinking this will be a good life lesson for me to shed all of the materialistic stuff that I've always held in such high esteem. It...to me...is like peeling an onion..little by little I'll get to the core of who I really am...and people will never see 'my stuff' before they see me...should be interesting...stay tuned for the ride! It's going to be a hairy...but FUN one! emoticon

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    I can relate to this blog so much! While living in FL and raising our children, my husband and I owned a small business - if you remember the cottage decorating industry of "Country Folk Art", that's what we did. We were self supporting for 14 years and were confronted with lots of skepticism, let me tell you, and this was in the other flat economy of the 90's. Through thick and thin my husband and I supported each other during the boom times and the bad, and it made us so strong! When we finally caved in, our experience and our confidence in our abilities propelled us to our next careers, where we are today.

    It's great that you have your talents to fall back on during the lean times - it makes you industrious and wise!

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    2675 days ago
    Considering that you and your DH own a construction business plus you are pretty successful at selling your beautiful jewelry at markets makes me believe that you tend to know what you are doing. Besides, life isn't always about playing it safe. Also, it seems that you have pretty good instincts and judgement when it comes to business so I'm sure you will do well. It may take some time for it to really get going but that means it will be successful! It's like the saying goes...Nothing ventured, Nothing Gained! I'm sorry your friends weren't more supportive but all of your Sparkie friends are rooting for you!! emoticon You have a great personality and have a great way of communicating with people which is a big bonus!! No one wants to shop @ a store where the people who own it or work there are unfriendly and don't care about the customer.


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    2675 days ago
    You are so good at making other people feel they are heard and esteemed. That is a huge asset in the retail business. With a personality like that, how can you fail?
    2676 days ago
  • RONIE11
    Sometimes life's lessons are harder to think about then to actually learn.. I know that there are some of those friends that are just scared it could happen to them.. and would they have the vision you have in how to climb back up and out of this.. I think your new venture is exciting and wonderful. I know its hard but you really do need to not worry about what they think. There are just as many who believe in you and those are the ones who count the most right now..
    I think you will like your life a bit more once you do shed the layers off.. We lived in the country for years we didn't have tv.. there weren't many homes with computers and we werent' one of them.. we got the radio in the car but not to great in the house.. we spent that time really getting to know ourselves and each other. I wouldn't trade that time for anything.. we have actually thought about selling and giving away most everything and buy a big RV when we retire.. we have so much junk its hard to realize how fast it adds up... Best of luck with your business. thanks for sharing your pictures.. Take Care.. Ronie
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  • JACKIE4019
    I'ts so important to have good friend.
    2677 days ago
    wishing you all the best Bobbi
    2677 days ago
    Good for you - stepping from the comfort zone into the unknown - you will be a tremendous success! emoticon emoticon
    2677 days ago
    If you were a starry-eyed novice to business, I might worry about you also. Your friends have either forgotten that you are a veteran of starting businesses, or they have forgotten their own entrepreneurial roots. Which is too bad! What this country needs to re-start the economy is more people who are willing to dare to step up. Small businesses fuel a good economy.

    What's the worst that could happen? As your last blog mentioned, you don't have a lot more to lose. I can tell you from personal experience that losing everything and starting over is liberating. Figuring out what comes next will keep you sharp and young. But you, my friend, will succeed. That's partly because of what others have already said...your personality will attract customers like a honeysuckle attracts bees. And partly because you're smart, have a good business head on your shoulders, and are prepared. You've thought it through. The very nature of your new business is in tune with the times.

    I'll miss you when you don't have as much time to blog, but you'll be having the time of your life! Just remember to come back and tell us about it from time to time.

    2677 days ago
  • SHERYLP461
    I really feel that you will be successful, you have the empathy for other people that makes for a wonderful place to shop and visit. I have been to many of these types of places that seem to be so unfriendly that to visit one like you are making would be just heavenly!
    2677 days ago
  • SUNNY332
    It is going to be OK, my friend. I would imagine your friends just operate on the
    more conservative side and also, the gallery does sound like "work" not play. They are just coming from a different perspective than you are right now. Hang in there and give it your best. I think it is going to be an awesome adventure and you are going to receive many blessings.

    Wish I could be there for the Grand Opening (btw - when is that?) Also, e-mail me and let me know where it is located so I can tell my friend. She does want to come meet you and wish you well. She also has that house she & her husband bought to decorate so it could be a wonderful relationship for the both of you.

    Love you,

    2677 days ago
    There are going to be doubts about starting a business in any economy but if you don't try, you don't succeed. Give it your best every day and always believe you will be successful. All the best to you. -- Lou
    2677 days ago
    i could be more supportive and I do try. I just am a big worry wart and worry about you. Foolish me as i know you can and will do whatever you set your mind to do. I look forward to seeing the store in Dec.
    2677 days ago
    It is interesting when you see the disparity of the "haves" and the "have-nots"
    and the amount of compassion displayed. It is almost like they can't understand why you would even put yourself in the position of trying to make your life better. You can't wait for life to hand you the brass ring-you have to grab it!
    This is your attempt to be better and do more. Maybe in time, they will understand. For now, they are comfortable with their lives. But if the tables were turned, I am sure they would be trying something new as well.
    Keep your happy humor and GO FOR IT! At least you can say you tried! HUGS!
    2677 days ago
    hanks for sharing :)
    2677 days ago
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