Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Oh, this has been a week! And I am beginning to wonder now, is there ever a calm week in my life?
Saturday, my husband and I were scheduled to fly down to spend three days relaxing in mild San Diego weather, enjoying my dad's company. We were in the security line at 6:30 a.m. when my brother called to tell me Dad was in the ER with chest pain, brought in by paramedics...by 2:00 p.m. all cardiac issues were ruled out, but his back pain was severe...Seems instead of having an epidural as suggested by his back surgeon (who did major surgery on his back 3 1/2 years ago...) he opted to see (in my opinion a quack!) a chiropracter who told him he needed 3 adjustments a week for a year, and wanted him to sign a contract...stating if he did, he would give him a discount in price! Appears this "quack" did more damage than good (and yes, I will be calling the chiropractic board for an investigation) and now my dad can hardly walk. So he consented to have the epidural today, and promised not to go back to the chiropracter....
So I am literally giving him 1:1 nursing care. Sent hubby home and I am now staying til Friday when my niece comes down to relieve me. We are having home health start on Monday....and next month when I come down, are going to look at assisted living facilities. At age 88, and living alone, worrying about my mom, and trying to maintain the house...too much.
In the meantime, my mom has taken a very bad turn. She hardly recognizes me. Has tremors, and has lost 15 pounds in the past 3 months. She cannot feed herself, nor make eye contact. Appears heavily sedated. Duh...too much medication? So I am working with the facility staff, and the doctor to do a drug taper, and to add nutritional supplements. Also to arrange out patient surgery to remove the huge skin cancer on her arm...
It feels like today I made great progress, especially in providing reassurance to my dad that he doesn't have to worry about my mom. That I found "placement" for his dog (who he can't care for at this point) since my brother coincidentally had to put his 14 year old dog down yesterday. AND the house is clean, the shopping is done, and I have a few meals already frozen for him.
I am holding up well. Despite all. And I have stayed 100% on track with my eating! It is pouring rain (The 70 degree sunny weather report the day before we left was clearly wrong...) I hit ROSS for a couple of sweaters, since all I had was short sleeves and a pair of levis and a pair of capris. Got a couple of really cute (cheap) tops THREE SIZES LESS than the last time I was there!
Off to finish a movie with my dad...and God willing to get some sleep tonight. Between the full moon on its way, and the loudest thunder I have ever heard, and worry, I haven't gotten much the past few days!