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I am starting to settle....


Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Oh, this has been a week! And I am beginning to wonder now, is there ever a calm week in my life?

Saturday, my husband and I were scheduled to fly down to spend three days relaxing in mild San Diego weather, enjoying my dad's company. We were in the security line at 6:30 a.m. when my brother called to tell me Dad was in the ER with chest pain, brought in by paramedics...by 2:00 p.m. all cardiac issues were ruled out, but his back pain was severe...Seems instead of having an epidural as suggested by his back surgeon (who did major surgery on his back 3 1/2 years ago...) he opted to see (in my opinion a quack!) a chiropracter who told him he needed 3 adjustments a week for a year, and wanted him to sign a contract...stating if he did, he would give him a discount in price! Appears this "quack" did more damage than good (and yes, I will be calling the chiropractic board for an investigation) and now my dad can hardly walk. So he consented to have the epidural today, and promised not to go back to the chiropracter....

So I am literally giving him 1:1 nursing care. Sent hubby home and I am now staying til Friday when my niece comes down to relieve me. We are having home health start on Monday....and next month when I come down, are going to look at assisted living facilities. At age 88, and living alone, worrying about my mom, and trying to maintain the house...too much.

In the meantime, my mom has taken a very bad turn. She hardly recognizes me. Has tremors, and has lost 15 pounds in the past 3 months. She cannot feed herself, nor make eye contact. Appears heavily sedated. Duh...too much medication? So I am working with the facility staff, and the doctor to do a drug taper, and to add nutritional supplements. Also to arrange out patient surgery to remove the huge skin cancer on her arm...

It feels like today I made great progress, especially in providing reassurance to my dad that he doesn't have to worry about my mom. That I found "placement" for his dog (who he can't care for at this point) since my brother coincidentally had to put his 14 year old dog down yesterday. AND the house is clean, the shopping is done, and I have a few meals already frozen for him.

I am holding up well. Despite all. And I have stayed 100% on track with my eating! It is pouring rain (The 70 degree sunny weather report the day before we left was clearly wrong...) I hit ROSS for a couple of sweaters, since all I had was short sleeves and a pair of levis and a pair of capris. Got a couple of really cute (cheap) tops THREE SIZES LESS than the last time I was there!

Off to finish a movie with my dad...and God willing to get some sleep tonight. Between the full moon on its way, and the loudest thunder I have ever heard, and worry, I haven't gotten much the past few days!
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SLASALLE 10/20/2010 5:11PM

    Kathy - I'm so sorry things are so rough right now with your folks. You are truly an angel and they are so lucky (as are you) that you have and can take the time to do all of this for them.

And all with sticking to your eating plan ... W - O - W - that' all I can say.

Thinking of you. Hang in there and DO NOT forget that taking care of yourself has to be done first, otherwise, you won't have anything to give your folks.

Hugs,
Stephanie

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JILLLIGHT 10/20/2010 11:52AM

    Sorry it's been rough. Hope things get better. Good job staying on track in spite of eveything.

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BECOMINGONE 10/20/2010 9:29AM

    Kathy,
Just as our kids grow up our parents become kids again. Your parents are lucky to have you there for them. You must have some kind of willpower/momentum to keep the healthy eating going through all the chaos. Thinking of you.
Sandra

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SOKKERNUT 10/20/2010 8:32AM

    God Bless you doll, you are a very good daughter to your parents. Good Luck with everything.

emoticon on staying on track with your eating especially with everything you have to deal with.

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HEALTHY4ME 10/20/2010 8:23AM

    OH kathy I am so thankful that your dad has a nurse daoghter and as much so your mum cos yea over medicated - from a working in homes yea probably. I don't know meds so wasnt a lot of help in that area, but thankfully was able to help my mum and so far dad is okay.
HUGS to you on all your mum issues. I can just see her in my mind as I have cared for alz. people so long. Oh how I would love to meet her and care for her.
Please remember to take care of yourself and do try to sleep. HUGS HUGS and more.
Thinking of you!

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MORRISDATTER 10/20/2010 4:22AM

    You're an angel, Kathy. Sleep well tonight!

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GETDONE 10/19/2010 11:53PM

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LYNNANN43 10/19/2010 11:52PM

    Kathy, what a load on you plate! I'm so glad you can be there for both your mother and father, but make sure you continue to take care of yourself too!

I'm glad you could get some therapeutic shopping done in between everything:D

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COSMIC_ENERGY 10/19/2010 11:33PM

    Everything in life up until this point has prepared you for now. Everlasting arms of Love are beneathe, around, above--supporting and holding you up. emoticon emoticon

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B-N-ME 10/19/2010 10:45PM

    Kathy, glad you are managing, and have been able to accomplish alot in a short time!
I'm sure your family appreciates you.
Alzheimers is a hard disease to deal with-been there.
Congrats on being able to stay on track even when surrounds by chaos!
Also...thress sizes smaller!
WAY TO GO!

Wishing you the best at weigh in tomorrow.

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CASSIOEPIA 10/19/2010 10:42PM

    You are such a good daughter K. Nice job on the new sweaters in the smaller sizes, and on doing so much for your Dad while you are there.

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