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First rule of victory..know thy enemy.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

I have exactly 10 minutes to write this so I must be quick then its off for another night shift. This is something I need to get off my chest. i have been stalled in my weight loss progress for quite a while, since May to be exact. I have been searching for answers because it is pretty frustrating. finally, while really searching my own heart, i have finally found an answer....I am sick and tired of trying to lose weight. I want to be normal again. I can run a half marathon for heavens sake what more????

Sustained weight loss means that you are basically putting your body through an extended period of, well, basically trauma. we are not designed to lose weight. losing weight sends a signal to the body that all is not well. it needs stability, not deficit. I guess I have grown tired of the battle and want to lay my sword down.

That is when the answer finally came to me, the enemy of excellence is good enough. I have been travelling through the weight loss desert for a long time and have finally found an oasis. a happy place where I can eat what I want and so long as the portions are reasonable and I stay running, there is no consequence. If you have ever watched foghorn leghorn - the rooster on looney tunes cartoons way back and when, he would sneak up on the barnyard dog and give him a paddling then run away just far enough outside the leash limit and the dog would choke on his collar trying to get at him while he stands there with a smirk as cool as a cucumber. I have found where the leash limit is and play the game. i have found my comfort zone and hung out the do not disturb sign.

Unfortunately, this oasis is actually a mirage and I need to move on, taking false comfort in good enough is the undoing of many people seeking a better life for themselves. This is a lesson for me and when this is learned and mastered, I will be even better.

After this upcoming Half Marathon, I am going to painfully renew my commitment to drop more weight. change is never easy but how sweet it will be to be the guy who loses 150 lbs and runs the Marathon. I am almost there. I will be that guy....

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ERLYWA 4/20/2011 1:43PM

    Wow. Amazing blog, that's all I can say. This is one I will refer back to more than once, I'm sure. Your writing is sure a gift...

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LINDATHOME 10/26/2010 4:39PM

    Yep, you will be that guy.

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DEVORA4 10/22/2010 4:57AM

  Incredible blog Robert! I can't wait to hear about the results of your race! You are a champion! emoticon

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GLITTERMAMMA 10/22/2010 12:34AM

    You are emoticon That's all I really have to say. emoticon

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WONDERJUL 10/19/2010 3:50PM

    You WILL BE that guy! You have made such incredible progress and it is necessary from time to time to take a break and re-evaluate. You are focused and determined--there is no stopping you! I appreciate being able to celebrate your accomplishments with you and to be your friend!

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MOMMINATOR 10/18/2010 6:09PM

    How often is the enemy the one who is looking back at us in the mirror?

Great blog, as usual. Love the visual of the dog on the chain.

You are a champion, sir, and will have ultimate victory, regardless of the duration of the journey.


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DONNA2238 10/18/2010 2:32PM

    Amen Sista---oooops! I mean Brutha!
Seriously, you accomplished so much and well, I guess those stagnent times happen. Here's a HUGE WOO HOO for you seeing the issue and deciding NOT to give up!!!!!
Mix it up---change it up---go for the gusto and see what kicks your body back into losing gear, ya know what I mean? Do not grow weary! Such an amazing example and motivation you are to those around you! 96 down and JUST 96 more to go---you can do it!

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MISSTHINGALING 10/18/2010 11:51AM

    I am right there with you. I lost 40 and got complacent after running my marathon. I just couldn't get back on track but I realized I need to go back to basic especially since I have another 100 to lose. I had to realize the marathon was a mini goal to my ultimate goal.

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LIGHTNINGRUNNER 10/18/2010 11:39AM

    Your body may just need a rest and you are listening - you will lose more if you are meant to.

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KAMAPERRY 10/18/2010 11:39AM

    Awesome blog, Robert. I have been a bit complacent myself. But we are stronger than that and we can fight this! emoticon

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KARLI7707 10/18/2010 11:01AM

    Good for you! It is very hard to look in the mirror, see the flaws, and then realize what you need to do about them... but you seem to have done it with an enthusiastic and positive outlook... that's awesome! You WILL be "that guy" the one who loses 150 pounds! Sometimes, you need a little 'comfort' time for your mental health and to keep you on the road. At least in the last few months you have kept the weight you managed to lose off and didn't gain any back. You're no further behind than you were in May and that's definitely a plus! You just took a little vacation along the road, but you didn't turn back! Good luck on your journey! Keep your chin up and you legs moving! :-)

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CBAILEYC 10/18/2010 10:57AM

    You can totally rock this. There's nothing wrong with resting while on a life-long journey. You're picking back up and moving on.

You can do this!

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SHUTUPANDSMILE1 10/18/2010 10:13AM

    You once asked me how I deal with 'dieters fatigue' and i said the only thing that helped me at times like this was looking in the mirror and seeing how well I was doing. It gave me the umph I needed to continue past times that I felt like I couldn't go any farther. Honestly, I have to say that knowing the things that you mentioned in your blog helps too,as well as people telling me that I CAN do it. I know you can make it past this. You have come so far and you should be proud! It takes a strong person to keep at it even when things aren't going the way you want.When times get tough, don't quit and you WILL succeed! Good luck! emoticon emoticon

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SEABREEZE65 10/18/2010 9:33AM


I am reading a book called NUTRITION FOR PEAK PERFORMANCE. It discusses how difficult it is to eat enough to fuel running and also lose undesired weight.

I know you can do this. Stalled does not last forever.

You have accomplished so much in these last months. Do NOT give up or give in.

Make a plan.
Stick with it.
Adjust the plan.
Stick with it.
Continue on....for HEALTH AND WELLBEING

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DRB13_1 10/18/2010 8:45AM

    you hit a lot of nails on the head with this blog...
the image I have after reading it is that new doors are about to open up to you.
I'd compare it to clothes...your feel comfortable in these (and running a half marathon is a FOR REAL, NO JOKE ACCOMPLISHMENT!) and they are better than the big baggie ones you used to wear, but oh! how you will enjoy the tailored, fitted ones that are in store for you emoticon
For me, I just have to keep reminding myself that in order to SEE change, I have to DO things that push me OUT of that comfort zone from the regular routine...and in the process, I am continually amazed at how much more my body is capable of, more than I gave it credit for.
Looking forward to hearing you've signed up for, then completed, that marathon! It's gonna happen.
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ON2VICTORY 10/18/2010 8:29AM

    actually, i should clarify. Having lost 96 lbs or so, I am still pretty overweight. I am about +/- 292 lbs. feeling good does not really apply here when you are still 70-80 lbs overweight. its the having lost 96 lbs that has me in a pickle. some people lose 40 lbs and they are good to go. i lose almost 100 lbs and I am just getting warmed up. oh well, the bigger the challenge, the bigger the woo hoo!

just need to get my second wind and lets bring it!

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GAELENEC 10/18/2010 8:19AM

    Great thoughts! I agree with wonderwoman; sometimes our bodies just get tired of the battle, and we need to regroup before we can renew the offensive. ???

But you DO need to get back in the game; you aren't where you want to be yet.

It'll come together. This is such a long road for many of us, but it will come together.

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MOMOF6BOYS 10/18/2010 7:34AM

    Well...I needed this about a month ago!!! But after reading this today, it put my summer in perspective!!! I know I was being driven CRAZY...but now I know I was normal :)

Thank you for this great BLOG!!! And, BTW, foghorn leghorn reference is FANTASTIC! I haven't heard them mentioned for awhile. That is one of my hubby's favorites, which is not on any ranks up there pretty close with Tom & Jerry :)

Thanks again...and you keep on going!!! YOU WILL BE THAT GUY!!!!

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CARROT143 10/18/2010 7:24AM

    I'm excited for you because this is the direction I know you are ready to go in so that you can achieve more. But the lesson learned here is that you can maintain weight loss which I believe is going to be the bigger battle for me once I get to my goal. The body might not like losing weight, and yet it doesn't seem to fight me very hard when I start gaining.

I too wanna be "normal" this weekend I had my salt and vinegar potato chips - half the single serving bag on Friday and the other half on Saturday. I gained a little this weekend but it wasn't the chips, I actually ate my old way most of the day on Saturday. I'm back down a smidge this morning but its hard to realize it takes so many more days to lose than it does to gain.

I'm proud of you for making this realization and even better making he commitment to break free of your comfort zone. YOU CAN DO IT! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MEGA_MILES 10/18/2010 5:10AM

    Great insight. Don't over do it or you will sabotage your sucess. Take it a day at a time, be realistic, and you'll get there. (OOPS, I think I was talking to me)

Hang in there, you're on the right track. emoticon

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MARCYNA 10/18/2010 4:19AM

    How do you feel in your body? I guess excellence is when WE feel at best - whatever the scale, measuring tape or our friends may say. emoticon

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ELAOPET 10/18/2010 4:06AM

    I belive you will be! emoticon

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MINNA72 10/18/2010 1:39AM

    Well now. Did that ever hit home. A bit too close for comfort, actually. I need to think a little.

However, i have no doubt that you will do it. You CAN do it. And you WILL.

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TYKXBOY 10/18/2010 1:20AM

    What you are learning is something we all struggle with. We want to relax and be comfortable, but losing weight and staying healthy is not about relaxing and staying comfortable. It's about pushing ourselves and being happy, but not being content to flow with the river. Because we all know where going with the flow got us...

The second rule... "No plan survives first contact with the enemy."

The third rule... "Never engage the same enemy for too long or he will adapt to your tactics"

And if I learned anything from some important people in my life, it's this:

"The biggest room in everyone's house is the room for improvement."

“Good, better, best. Never let it rest 'til your good is better and your better is best.”

You WILL be that guy....

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WONDERWOMAN 10/18/2010 12:59AM

    Yes Robert, I have no doubt you WILL be that guy!

Just don't beat yourself up. Often a period of maintenance in the middle of a huge weight loss is actually a good thing. You are right, your body has gone through trauma and just as we need rest between our running days, our bodies need rest from the weight loss regimine. Hang in there. Regroup. Reenergize. Refocus.

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