Thursday, October 07, 2010
I'm writing this blog for all my dear friends who have had their minds seduced by the super slick media campaigns which only want to profit, at their expense.
I'm writing this blog for young women, like I once was, who have somehow lost sight of who and what they are and have allowed themselves to be defined by others opinions of them, instead of by truth.
I'm writing this for the millions of anorexic, bulimic and/or otherwise very at risk females who engage daily, in painfully self-destructive things such as cutting, over-eating, starvation, depression, etc...
I'm writing this blog because these things are at an epidemic level in our country...our girls are in big trouble. The media is seducing them into believing they are nothing but sexual beings, even tricking them into becoming sexual before they have matured enough to know the consequences of their actions.
I'm writing this blog, because not all of us are ready to be skinny, and if you're not ready, you could end up just exchanging one kind of obsession for another. I'm not speaking to all my friends. Some of you are so secure in who you are, but others...perhaps you are still being duped into thinking you are solely defined by what you look like on the outside. The Bible has a lot to say about this issue but one of the most powerful is the following:
"But the Lord said to Samuel....'The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.'” I Sam 16:7b
The media is asking us: Are you sexy enough?
Frankly, I'm darned tired and turned off by the expression:
Because sexy says, "I need you to want me."
Beautiful says, "I don't need anything from you."
Sexy says, "Please love me."
Beautiful says, "I am already loved...by God and by myself..and that is enough."
Sexy says, "I'll die if I can't have you...I'll die if you ever leave me."
Beautiful says, "I will never let a human being have that much of my power."
Sexy says, "Oh please look at me...and be attracted to me."
Beautiful says, "I am not defined by your opinion of me...I am fine the way I am."
Sexy says, "it's all about me pleasing you."
Beautiful says, "It's all about relationships...and they are never one-sided."
Sexy says, "I'll manipulate you into my life, because I don't believe I can have you any other way."
Beautiful says, "I'll wait and see what happens, holding back the best parts of me for someone who really deserves what I have to offer."
To the degree that we allow ourselves to be defined by anything other than the truth, we are all at risk.
Are you truly ready to be skinny? If not, please use this time, while you are on your way, to invest in yourself. Unresolved issues need dealt with...
fears need faced...
and lies you've been believing about yourself and others need to be confronted and refuted,...
so that you can truly begin to live a life of freedom. Above all, you must begin to reach out for the help that you will need in doing this... You are not alone and you can't face really difficult things without support. Isolation is a big enemy of change, healing and growth. If you don't think you're ready to be skinny, I pray you will find the help you need to start getting ready!
This is your time to get well, to get a healthy self image, to shine, and to spread that shine to others.
For those of you who commented and feel so strongly about the things I've said, I'm begging you to share this post with your friends. Unfortunately, it's not gotten too many responses. If you think it is worthwhile, would you consider sharing it with your friend list, or facebook friends or just email addresses of young girls in your circle of influence. Thanks again for reading and for blogging me!