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"Do I Need A Mentor?" It Just Might Help

Monday, October 04, 2010

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JPRICE217 10/8/2010 7:42AM

    John thank you for the great blog. You are right we all do need a mentor and we need to be a mentor.

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MARCYNA 10/6/2010 9:53AM

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IZZYAGGY2009 10/5/2010 10:08PM

    Really some great wisdom, in that advice. Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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REJ7777 10/4/2010 11:30PM

    It's always saddened me when people become inactive on SP, especially when they had become SP motivators. It makes you wonder where they are now.

I have a good mentor. She encourages me when I need support, but she's not afraid to give me a swift kick in the rear end when I need one! I wouldn't be where I am without her support! emoticon

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SPARKENISTA 10/4/2010 6:18PM

    John-- emoticon for your comment on my blog. I'm sure you know that it's always easier to take care of someone else than it is to take care of yourself. As a professional counselor, you know that your objectivity is the most important tool in your arsenal.

Having said that, I must say that I had never thought of my parenting in exactly the way you did. Of course, I had to problem-solve to make sure that all the pieces of my son's life were in place. However, I never thought of it as problem-solving. I thought of them as life. I thought of them as not negotiable.

I have to say that you are more of an expert at parenting than I--you have eight times more practice. So you would know.

Isn't it funny (not the ha-ha kind) that I never thought that way about the pieces of my life. In that regard, I am sure I am Everywoman/man. But that doesn't mean it's okay. Part of this exercise called life is becoming increasingly self-aware which also makes you more other-aware.

I think it's also very interesting that in this blog, while you throw out a valuable thought/tool you are also self-protective in asking people not to ask you to be a mentor by telling them that you are a professional who gets paid for that and that you are already doing it gratis for some people on the site.

In any case, I am up and running for the 90- (now 89-day) Push. I am glad to be back in your sphere of influence. We'll keep each other in our radar and see how to project that forward to a successful goal--to be followed by another goal?



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ANEPANALIPTI 10/4/2010 2:31PM

    I've looked through mine and thought the SAME thing about how a lot of them are gone.

SO agreed on the "she'll let me eat the cookie" and having friends who would be like: "uh, don't really see why that would be an issue/problem/hard for you"

and I JUST realized it, it took me a few moments but YUP you remind me of tom hanks a bit. :-)


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STORMTMB 10/4/2010 2:22PM

    While I don't have a mentor here, I have one in life and he's the absolute best. We've had this relationship for 23 years, so I totally agree with what you're saying. It's so nice to have someone for advice who has already been through it all. And, darn it, he's always right - especially when it's not what I want to hear.

I just made a spreadsheet to keep track of my next 89 days!!! I'm gonna push to the end of the year. Looking forward to it.

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ISHIIGIRL 10/4/2010 2:20PM

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Its very true you get better results if you are supported and a mentor is a great support system. It should be a secret of success!

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KATRIONAH 10/4/2010 2:16PM

    John, This is a great idea! A person who can have your back..... is in the program so know the ups and downs....and someone who can objectively listen and help. I know there are days I could really use one. Thank you for the idea.....and I hope you have a joy-filled day....Share your smile, Karen emoticon

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