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brocolli and the psychologist

Monday, September 06, 2010

well here I am exposing the most inner parts of who I am. Im using my down time to try to figure out some of how I can overcome this weight issue. I decided to see a "Professional" thinking this would help. I figure everyone needs a bit of help.I have had health issues and hate brocolli and am losing the battle on multiple ways in which to try to love the stuff. So I trotted on down to see said therapist. Im stressed. I relay to her that ive lost 15 lbs and she replies well "Im glad you did something about this because , you dont want to be a fattie" Let me tell you I did not expect this. I was expecting horns, confetti falling from the ceiling..bells, whitsles, handshakes and a heck of a lot more.Im beginning to think Ive wasted my time and hers because she wants me to go out and get a lapband. Of course I have a dear friend who struggles with hers and the picture is not all as it seems. She is still struggling to overcome her issues. I am what mom would call plump, not morbid but according to the docs chart I need to do some work fast, so Im back and it works if you work it.Ive made an major overhaul, ive taken to measuring everything which I thought was absurd when I first started.And the most ironic thing is I had an eating disorder 15 years ago and know what its like to be on the other side of things when I am stressed.Too much, too soon..and its all over for me.So there is power in words. Choose the words you say about others and yourself carefully. I no longer look to others for my self esteem, this chick does not have a clue to what I have been through and never will.Be proud of who you are at whatever stage you are in, in the birthday suit you were given. We only have one life. many friends here at Sparks and they are all here for support. Yes I want to be healthy...thats all I want. Im proud to say Ive got a family who laughs at my effort to change the ways in which we eat.I got an 87 year old man to finally eat yogurt this week, How cool is that.Stay healthy, laugh and most of all be proud of who you are. I am.
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    whoa, excuse me? Definitely get another therapist. One who doesn't resort to name-calling. And--congratulations on the lifestyle changes and the good results. emoticon
    2750 days ago
    As a therapist myself, my advice is to get a new therapist! That woman was totally out of line. A good therapist would understand that lapband surgery does nothing to address the underlying issues that led you to gain weight in the first place, or to keep the weight on. A therapist is not always going to pat you on the back for your achievements, but also should not be judgmental of you. People like that embarrass me.

    Congrats on your accomplishments!
    2750 days ago
    I loved "sandiegojohn's" response! :) I would definitely switch to a new therapist. That is terribly a unprofessional and unethical thing to say.

    You've done so great, I was looking at your Spark page. Remember it is a "mental switch" that you need to make in order to make healthy are not exercising to lose weight but because it is a healthy activity everyone should do every day. Even when you are stressed, feeling in control of how you treat yourself (both physically and mentally) will help you feel good about that part of who you are.

    You can jump right back on board...I just did myself today! emoticon
    2750 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/6/2010 5:53:42 PM

    You've lost 15 pounds!!!


    Celebrate your victory!
    2750 days ago
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    2750 days ago
    The psychologist may have thought he/she was giving you "tough love", or a shot of reality. Losing 15 lbs. is something to celebrate -- and, yes, you deserve a pat on the back for it!

    But there is also the other side of the coin: accepting the reality of my own responsibility for the weight and size that I am, and taking ownership of it and doing the appropriate thing about it.

    There needs to be a BALANCE between the confetti, bells, whistles and the slap on the wrist and "wake-up call". The psychologist over-did that side of it. I'm glad you're proud of who and what you are, MrsMagoo03 -- we're proud of you, too, and will continue to cheer you on as you DO take ownership and move toward success!!!

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    2750 days ago
    "Im glad you did something about this because , you dont want to be a fattie"

    What a completely rude and inappropriate thing to say to you. I suppose you could have responded with, "there are worse things than being fat, though, like being a non-supportive b*tch."

    Sorry, but this stuff riles me up. It is SO easy to help someone along with encouraging words, yet this person chooses this to say to you. Unbelievable.

    Here's the response you deserved to get:

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    2750 days ago
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