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Tuesday, August 31, 2010

I love my boyfriend. He is my "partner" in crime. We have been together for almost 7 years and have two children. I hate to blame my weight on anyone else so I'm not going to even try to pass the buck on him. No one tied me up and forced me to eat and not exercise. Just what do you do when the people you love are even more inactive than you are and have no concern about their eating habits? I've tried to tell him all the things he's eating that are not good for him. I've tried giving him a smaller portion and even a smaller plate in the hopes that he wouldn't notice. I feel like I'm his mother more than his girlfriend and I hate that. Nothing has worked so I just came to the conclusion that I can't make him change. He has to do that for himself. His bad habits however affect me. It's kind of hard to keep focused on my goals when he brings home french toast from IHOP. I know that he loves me but these things aren't helping.
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    Keep up your healthy habits for yourself as well. After 7 years change will take time. I like the fresh peach suggestion, one day you may find a nice bag of apples on the counter instead of IHOP.

    My boyfriend used to always offer me soda, and loved me at my 195 weight. Now he's getting used to the differences in me and also got used to just offering me water. I quit soda years ago and took the habit up again because he almost lives on soda and coffee. It's always at his mothers house and every visit I'd have a glass, it started as an 'okay just a glass as a treat' and months later I'm drinking 5 glasses a week!! Now every time we visit his mother, he only offers me water:D

    Changes in his lifestyle will come from him, you're right about that. I believe that your healthy habits can rub off on him just as unhealthy habits rub off on you. Seeing your progress may turn into an inspiration for him:D

    Good luck and never give up on your goals. Make every day a new day to be successful.


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    2757 days ago
  • AURIE821
    Thanks Barb. The walk after dinner sounds great and I think he might actually go for that.
    2760 days ago
  • BOOCH6
    Can you maybe suggest a walk after dinner ? Tell him you want to enjoy the last nice nights of summer. As far as the "treats", that's a tough one, but maybe tell him just as you said it in your blog, "I love you and it's so sweet of you, but I'm working on feeling better. Next time you're near a grocery store a fresh peach would be terrific ". Corny, I know, but it might get the point across.
    Otherwise, enjoy him. He sounds like a great guy !
    - Barb
    2760 days ago
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