Tuesday, August 31, 2010
On Saturday, Aug 21st, my sister called me from Georgia. The first thing she said was, "Now don't freak out"! How could I not panic at that?! She then proceeded to tell me that she & my other sister had my mom at the hospital emergency room. They thought she had had a stroke or possibly a heart attack. My mom is 63 years old, just retired, & she's an alcoholic. Needless to say, I freaked out!!!
I flew home to Atlanta early Sunday morning. Mom did have a heart attack, her blood alcohol content was .324 when she was admitted to the ER. Thats 4 times the legal limit! Mom has been an alcoholic for 30 years or more. We, my sisters & I, have known it forever. Mom also has some deep seeded emotional issues.
Mom was transferred to the best cardiac hospital in Atlanta & had a heart cath on that Monday. She has a large blood clot in her heart, congestive heart failure, & 30% of her heart is dead. If she weren't an alcoholic, she would be on a heart transplant list. So very sad. Mom doesn't realize quite how sick she is. She has been too emotional to be rational. She has been on lots of medication, not only for her heart, but to help with detox. The detox meds prevent seizures, help with anxiety, boost lost vitamins, etc. Today is day 10 of sobriety!!!
My sister transferred mom straight from the cardiac hospital to a rehab hospital on this past Sunday afternoon. Mom agreed to stay for 14 days. She had a meltdown yesterday & called us to come get her, she would do whatever we wanted, just get her out of there. Well, what we want is for her to stay in rehab! She is still there this morning. We know its the best place for her, & deep in her sick mind, mom knows it is too.
This is such a tough situation. I have to be strong, I am the oldest child. I have to practice tough love with my mom! Once mom is through with 14 days of rehab, she will be coming to Missouri to live with me for a while. I only work 22hrs a week, my schedule is VERY flexible. My DH or I can be here with mom all the time. I have found outpatient treatment for her to attend, AA meetings, & Al-Anon for myself!
Now, as far as eating correctly goes...... I fell off the soda wagon while I was at the hospital with mom last week. Coca-Cola is my go to comfort food. It had such a calming effect on me during such high stress moments! I still ate fairly well, but had ZERO exercise! Now that I am back home, in a somewhat regular routine, I can go back to exercising what little my body will allow.
Those of you that read this, if you are the praying type, please offer up a lil prayer for my mom & my sisters, along with myself. God is such a gracious & mighty God, He will bring us through this, its just not going to be easy from any aspect!
"I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me!" Phil 4:13