Saturday, August 21, 2010
My youngest daughter, 3-yr-old grandson and I stopped by Chick-fil-a after I got off work yesterday for a quick meal and play time for him. We were trying to be healthy, sharing a pack of chicken nuggets and a med. fry when I noticed an extremely thin well dressed woman sit down with her purse and a magazine and a son who went immediately to play.
At first I thought she had come in to let her son play without buying anything and thought that was tacky, but eventually, a man set down with a tray of food. I'm thinking she's getting the salad because she would never eat anything fattening as skinny as she is.
He starts putting food out for the child and he lays his out and puts nothing in front on her, not even a drink. He goes and gets his son out of the play area and the child stands at the table shoveling food in his mouth so he can eat it and go play. The father is doing a pretty good amount of shoveling also and she has her back turned away from both of them reading her magazine.
So I begin to think, who is showing better eating habits? The overweight grandma and mom who are sharing a meal or the too thin mother with bony arms who isn't eating anything and the father who is shoveling down his food?
Of course I'm relaying all this to my daughter who has her back turned away from them. I make the comment that "hopefully she doesn't have any daughters that see her like that". Then I realize that boys get eating disorders also and that was a sexist remark.
I usually am not the type person to notice or make a comment about how people look. I was raised that "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" and I still practice that. When a co-worker asks did I see what someone ate that day or what they were wearing, I honestly tell them I don't notice things like that.
But that image of the woman bothered me. She looked to be about 5 ft. 8 in. and probably weighed around 100 lbs. I finally had to tell myself that maybe she had cancer and had lost a lot of weight or had some reason to be so thin and couldn't eat. But they could have still had a family meal together. They could have talked and discussed what they did during the day and she could have had something to drink with them instead of totally ignoring them.
I'll never know, but it kind of bothers me that it bothered me so much.