you say curvy, i say fat

Friday, August 20, 2010

It’s not really a puh-TEY-toh/puh-TAH-toh situation. It’s not different ways of saying the same thing. I was chatting with some friends today, and someone mentioned Scarlett Johansson, calling her a curvy girl, which she is. And noting that it’s great to see curvy girls represented, which it is. I said that I can’t wait to exit ‘fat’ and enter ‘curvy’. And then I got the nasty look. And then I got the head shake and tongue click. And then I was told that real women ‘have meat’. Seriously? If you’re a Scarlett-size 5’4” tall and you’re busty and wear a size 4-6 like her, sure, you’re curvy. But if you’re 5’4” and a size 16, you’re not curvy, you’re fat.

And I realize I might get criticized for saying it here. Doesn’t make it not true. I’m not going to lie (to myself) and say I’m curvy. I mean, I’ve got curves, but in more places than just the right ones. E.g. the curves on my stomach which, if I keep adding to them, make me a prime target for heart disease. I’m not going to hide behind this Curvy Girl moniker so I don’t hurt my own feelings, or so I don’t have to deal with something that is a true and important issue.

I don’t understand this. Celebrating obesity under the guise of being a ‘real woman’ is just plain silly, not to mention potentially deadly. Does that make anyone that maintains a naturally lower weight a fake woman? And if I was truly eating healthily, hovering around the calories my body actually needs, I might be overweight, but I wouldn’t be obese. What’s wrong with admitting I’m fat?

I’m not putting myself down when I say I’m fat. I’m being honest. And not in a self-defeating way. I am fat, not curvy. Sometime soon I hope to be a curvy girl. But for now I’m fat. And I said it. So there.

Maybe I’m not alone in feeling this way. I’m all for curves, but not as an excuse to stay unhealthy.
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    This discussion was very interesting and I'm proud of all the gorgeous women who spoke up. Being of various sizes and shapes, I appreciated all of you for speaking your minds in an honest manner. KUDOS!!! We all have our own idea about how we want our bodies to look and perform, so finding your ideal size for oneself and is a very good and positive thing. Don't forget.....sexy comes in all sizes.
    XO MaryAnn
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    2606 days ago
    I do 100% agree with you on the difference between fat and curves. With that said, however, I think that a lot of women who say they are curvey say it, not as an excuse to keep that weight on and continue bad lifestyle choices. I think they say it in order to retain self pride.
    In our society, super skinny women are considered sexy. Even though they look like they are 17 year old prisoner of war survivors, they are celebrated for their skinniness, even when their weight is dangerously low. There are gorgeous, obese women out there. But when people say "obese" or "fat" they automatically conjure images of lazy slobs with something wrong with them. All of us on here (and I'm 5'4 and a size 14) on here can fully understand that this is not the case, but society at large sees it differently. "Curvy" conjures images of women with large breasts and big butts but who are also beautiful (Christina Hendricks is my favorite example of this...she should probably lose some weight for health reasons, but my god! She is lovely just the way she is!)
    I think that if there is someone out there who is working hard at being healthy and not making excuses for herself, but for a sense of pride and motivation and whatever other emotional reason, needs to refer to herself as curvy instead of fat, I say she should be able to do that. Personally, I try to be honest with myself and look in the mirror and see that I am, indeed, fat, but honestly? With the right clothes and the fact that I do have an hourglass figure, I look curvy. So it is possible to be both!
    2756 days ago
    but if we keep lying to ourselves we can be lazy and eat whatever we want! oh... oh, now i see :D
    2765 days ago
    Where's the criticism coming from? Facts is facts.... and fat is fat. I think the people who criticize the stating of reality are just those who don't want to see reality. They would prefer to remain in denial and go ahead and eat those foods and live that lifestyle that keeps them fat. It's just easier that way. Changing your lifestyle, eating healthy, admitting you're fat.... that's too much work! And it might upset the people around us. After all, we can't have that, can we? So "curvy" is substituted for "fat" because it's more socially acceptable, more PC, sexier, less insulting. Actually I can see myself reacting to someone who calls me curvy. I think I'd be astounded and laugh in their face. I'm less fat than I used to be, but I'm still fat. (Of course, it doesn't help that I've gained 12 lbs in the last 3 months!) Come on now, let's call a spade a spade!

    Okay, enough spewing sarcasm emoticon

    Great, thoughtful blog! (This is why I like you! You tell it like it is and don't mess around with BS!)
    2765 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/21/2010 7:02:45 AM
    Nothing wrong with acknowledging fat and actually that's a good thing! You're not in self denial so it's a start to taking stock and knowing what you need to do and where you need to head to in order to the 'real deal curvy'. You're on the right track!

    2765 days ago
    I agree with you. "Curvy" is sometimes used as a euphemism for "fat," but to me, they're actually quite different.
    2765 days ago
    I do agree. There is a good message in that one shouldn't base all of their self worth on body image, but I feel like people are using the "real woman" line or "curvy" as a crutch to support an unhealthy lifestyle. Just keep doing what you're doing, "real women" take charge of their health! :)
    2766 days ago
  • JREA24
    Recognize and change.
    2766 days ago
    I am fat also even though not to some people. I am 60 pounds heavier than I was at 18 so I am definitely fat.
    2766 days ago
    I agree. Everyone tells me I look great, but according to BMI, I should lose 25 more pounds! I want to be normal weight, not overweight. Although I am happy to have made it out of the obese category!

    2766 days ago
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