Friday, August 20, 2010
Itís not really a puh-TEY-toh/puh-TAH-toh situation. Itís not different ways of saying the same thing. I was chatting with some friends today, and someone mentioned Scarlett Johansson, calling her a curvy girl, which she is. And noting that itís great to see curvy girls represented, which it is. I said that I canít wait to exit Ďfatí and enter Ďcurvyí. And then I got the nasty look. And then I got the head shake and tongue click. And then I was told that real women Ďhave meatí. Seriously? If youíre a Scarlett-size 5í4Ē tall and youíre busty and wear a size 4-6 like her, sure, youíre curvy. But if youíre 5í4Ē and a size 16, youíre not curvy, youíre fat.
And I realize I might get criticized for saying it here. Doesnít make it not true. Iím not going to lie (to myself) and say Iím curvy. I mean, Iíve got curves, but in more places than just the right ones. E.g. the curves on my stomach which, if I keep adding to them, make me a prime target for heart disease. Iím not going to hide behind this Curvy Girl moniker so I donít hurt my own feelings, or so I donít have to deal with something that is a true and important issue.
I donít understand this. Celebrating obesity under the guise of being a Ďreal womaní is just plain silly, not to mention potentially deadly. Does that make anyone that maintains a naturally lower weight a fake woman? And if I was truly eating healthily, hovering around the calories my body actually needs, I might be overweight, but I wouldnít be obese. Whatís wrong with admitting Iím fat?
Iím not putting myself down when I say Iím fat. Iím being honest. And not in a self-defeating way. I am fat, not curvy. Sometime soon I hope to be a curvy girl. But for now Iím fat. And I said it. So there.
Maybe Iím not alone in feeling this way. Iím all for curves, but not as an excuse to stay unhealthy.