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A Dose Of Reality


Sunday, July 25, 2010

The other day, I was so depressed. I didn't feel as if I were doing enough to help my health or my goals for weight loss. I felt as if it was all for not and maybe I should just give up. I realized that this wasn't a healthy thing to feel and went to bed to meditate on the reality of why I was feeling this way and just why I was setting myself up for failure with those thoughts.

Maxx (my significant other, otherwise known as Dreygan) realized there was something going on with me and crawled into bed to comfort me. When I poured out my emotions to him... He was extremely supportive and he opened my eyes to just what was really happening with me. He asked me one simple question. 'How much weight have you lost in these two weeks?' I answered him with honesty. I told him that I had lost 10 lbs.

The room was quiet for a long time before he spoke. There was a smile in his voice as he said to me: "In two weeks you have lost 10 lbs. Do you realize just how amazing that is? Obviously, there is something in your own mind telling you that it's not good enough. That you're not good enough. But I want you to know that I love you. I want you to know that I am proud of you."

A smile started to creep back on my face as he continued. "So, 10 lbs in two weeks is 20 lbs a month. You want to lose 140 lbs in over a year. So, if you keep going at this rate... You will have lost 280 lbs in the time that you want to lose this weight. Hunny, you'll be NEGATIVE 10 lbs! You're going to waste away to nothing."

I should tell you that Maxx is a very logical thinker. He opened my eyes to the fact that not only am I doing well but I'm ahead of schedule with my goals. Just because *I* feel like crap about what is happening to my body doesn't mean that I am doing poorly. It just means that I am expecting too much from my own self. I'm expecting perfection when there is no way in hell I will ever be able to achieve that perfection and be healthy at the same time.
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LAURELSPARK 9/25/2010 5:58PM

    Keep up the good work. It might seem like you have just scratched the surface but you are working on developing good habits, and that's what will make the difference in the long run.

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TRACYDUKA 7/31/2010 4:21PM

    You're doing great! And you have such an awesome fella who can be supportive of you and is able to pull you from your doldrums. 10lbs in 2 weeks. *L* And here I was EXCITED over my 4.3lb loss for the month! *L* I'd say that you're doing everything right. Good going to you for your efforts and good going to your Maxx for his loving and wise way. :)

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FIZZYBALL 7/31/2010 3:10PM

    10 pds in 2 weeks is incredible....it has taking well over one month to lose 10 pds....keep up the good work and we will be at ur goal weight before you know it... emoticon

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CASI_MARIPOSA 7/26/2010 9:14AM

    What a sweetheart :) I'm glad he helped you feel better. I know sometimes it's hard to pay attention to how far you've come when all you can think about is how far you have to go, but that's when the support of our partners, families and friends will help pull us through. Keep thinking positive!

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LOSE4GOODMN 7/26/2010 2:57AM

    Great blog! Very inspirational!! I am so glad that someone was able to talk to you and help you to see how well you were doing. So often, we are our own worst enemy when we allow those types of thoughts to dwell in our mind. We can't afford to give those thoughts any place in our life right now. And I am so glad that you were able to fight them off with the help of someone else!! Way to go!!

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LOU1DAY 7/25/2010 7:00PM

    10 pounds in two weeks is definitely good news!

And, as a variation on the old comment goes, "How much would you have lost in two weeks if you weren't here on Spark?" You've lost the pounds because you've made a dedicated effort! Keep it up!

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JMCADE 7/25/2010 6:24PM

    Great job by your Maxx. You should be really pleased with your progress and happier still that you have so much support. You can do this.

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BELLALUCIA 7/25/2010 6:17PM

    Hey doll! 10lbs in 2 weeks is awesome! Good for you! I wanna lose nearly 200lbs in 16mths or less.

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SUNSHYNDREAMER 7/25/2010 5:35PM

    I'm so glad you have someone so supportive to lean on in these moments. I too have been struggling these past couple of weeks and at times just feel like I have given up. But then something like this happens and I too realize that I am not doing so bad, and I can do this. You are doing great! Keep up the good work, we can accomplish anything we put our minds to!

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NEWSTART127 7/25/2010 5:33PM

    Gabby, I'm really glad that Maxx made you open your eyes to ALL you have accomplished in a VERY short amount of time. You're doing awesome! And those 10 pounds MAKE a difference!

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AIMEEKIWI 7/25/2010 4:52PM

    Gabby this is amazing. Thank you for sharing it with us here in the interwebs. You're doing so well. It's inspiring. It's awesome that you have someone there to support you through everything like that. Never give up! And, lighten up on yourself a little. I know, I'm one to talk there, but still. 10 pounds in 2 weeks is AMAZING! You are amazing.

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BARBARASDIET 7/25/2010 4:49PM

    You are very fortunate to have that kind of support! Hold onto that boy. And 10 pounds in two weeks is much faster than you need to go--but it is amazing!

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