Monday, July 12, 2010
How to start.... When I was young, I was told I was a pessimist, but I have come to realize I am a realist. I don't look for the bad I truly hope for the good in all situations.
There are things we can avoid and things that will cause us distress no matter what we do.
Last night I received a phone call from my husband telling me he had just lost his job. I saw this coming and no amount of talking to him could avoid it. I knew he was having problems at work, he has been stressed for months. 5-6 days a week 12 hour days third shift. He got on the wrong side of someone and isn't sure what he did. He's very good at his job. (Let me back a bit up for anyone who might be reading) 10 years ago I talked him into coming off the road he traveled 6 out of 7 days a week for 11 years. The kids were growing up and never saw him. With the boys getting older I thought maybe they needed him more. he was tired of traveling and missing all the family fun. He got a great job with a company who was just bought out by a National brand. The first big meeting they told all the employees they had a five year plan. Things were going great we saved and it was great having him home. Two years later we bought our first house, somewhere to have the kids come home to when they had children of their own. Everything seemed to have fallen into place. I had been home schooling our 3 children (Best thing I ever did). Three years later.... The plant moved everything out and no offer of following. CRASH! He has always had job offers and a job came quick ($5 and hour less and no over time) but doable. We tightened our belts and settled in again. 8 months later laid off. New job ($6 dollars more lost). We tried but couldn't keep up and we filed for bankruptcy and lost the house and both cars. I can't imagine that all this has done his ego much good.
A friend who was able to help purchased a trailer for us to help us get on our feet. Of course we are paying her for it. Same payments with the storage and lot rent were were paying for a rental after we lost our house. Two years it is paid off and I only have to deal with lot rent. The plan was to start saving again, sell the trailer and get our own place again.
Well the job market isn't very good now days so he is seeing his prospects as bleak. I am figuring that maybe this is telling him to work for himself. He is going to apply for unemployment and look for a job.
I have a business that I have been holding back on because when we lost the cars we purchased two old beat up cars and it seems one is usually broke down. I do Home parties for women and I can't go if one of the cars is down. So I have just been doing them on the weekends when he will be home.
So my plan is to Amp up my business and hope that we make it. But it seems when I do get my momentum going he gets needy, and I hate saying this but it drags me down. I am not sure what to do with it.
I think I need to give it more thought.