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Bad Choices

Thursday, July 08, 2010

Making bad food choices wasn’t my only issue; I historically made bad choices when it came to relationships. I seemed to gravitate towards men with “issues”. Of course, no matter how long these relationships lasted (or didn’t last); they were obviously just as unhealthy for me as the bad food choices I was making. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, I chose these relationships so that I could focus on their issues and avoid mine. Typically, this made my problems worse, as my self-esteem plummeted and my weight soared.

It has been one year since the last relationship I was in ended; I haven’t even been out a on a date since. This certainly isn’t by choice; I simply have not been afforded the opportunity. It is much harder the older you get and being almost 50, there is less and less of opportunity out there. But as I make better choices with food and my spare time, I know that this knowledge will carry over with other things in my life. I work each day to make myself stronger, both physically and mentally. Some days this is quite easy; other days it is a lonely struggle. I would love to have someone to share my new life with; but each day I face this rebuilding of me as a single person, I become a better person for that relationship that I hope is out there for me.
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    Well said and spot-on. As my icon Ru-Paul says, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?"

    Figuring out YOU is the most important task you have in life - when you know yourself, you can more easily love and help others. You can also more easily spot those who will use and abuse and should be left behind.

    2812 days ago
    It is out there. Just take it slow and before you know it there it is. Giving yourself some time off from bad relationships is a good idea. The right one will come along and you will have this new healthy body and lifestyle to go with it.
    2814 days ago
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