It's a Sad Day

Monday, June 28, 2010

My (TACO) a nine year old mix died this morning. He had heart failure and seizures so there was little they could do for him. He was a gift to my daughter when he was small enough to fit in one hand, and he had attitude. Little man syndrome my husband would say. Although he was friends with Buddy the great dane and 2 boxers, he ruled the yard and couch.

Last night as I held him, I ask my husband to put him down the next day if nothing had happened. He had stopped eating or drinking and had labored breathing. His body was beginning to feel cold so we both knew something was happening. I left for my son's house and kissed him good bye. My husband called to say he had passed around 3 am. He will be buried next to my schnauzer on our farm.

Dealing with the death of anyone is difficult. We all approach it in different ways. I have always taken a few minutes to grieve, remember some special things, then let it go. I am a in the moment kind of person. If I can do nothing about a situation, I look for ways to get past it. In the same way if I can do something about a situation, I will go out of my way to fix it.

I want to know how you deal with a bad situation. What gets you through it??? Do you run and wait for someone else to be strong or do you step up to the plate so to speak.


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    Our kitties and our puppies are just as much family as our parents, children, and siblings - for some of us they are closer because they are with us every day. Take the time to grieve in your own way, but also take comfort from the knowledge that Taco is now playing like a little puppy again, free from the pain of an aging body.
    2819 days ago
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I tend to give myself time to grieve, then remind myself that they're not suffering any longer and that helps.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    2819 days ago
    I am so sorry about Taco. It almost sounds just like the way Carbon Copy was when he passed in Fed this year. Though he didn't have seizures, he had a bit of breathing trouble and looked for somewhere to go, to die I expect. But I kept him on my chest until my dad came to take me to the vet ER. CC died in my arms on the way. He had just rurned 15 yrs old the day before. I cried like hell but then I just got some pictures out to go through and remembered the time I took the pics and the situations. It made me smile and laugh sometimes. Then I just though CC is with his older brother Tequila who passed last year from Cancer. And I have Sneaky Pi here to keep me going.

    Prayers to you and your fur babies. emoticon emoticon
    2819 days ago
    I am so sorry to read about the loss of Taco. Dogs provide such wonderful unconditional love and friendship that it is always difficult to lose them but then all loss is difficult. To answer your question, I don't think there is any right or wrong way to experience grief. I do think it is important to allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling without judgement. Hopefully, your family can remember all the good times you had with Taco and know that dealing with the loss will become easier with time. I will be thinking of you. emoticon
    2819 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/28/2010 11:15:46 PM
  • IAM_HIS2
    I had to put down my special cat, Rita Louise. She helped me get through a lot of tough spots in life. It was so hard to put her down. So to get through it I buried her in the spot she loved to sit and enjoy the sun. I have a special rock and flowers to remember her.

    Taco, thank you for being a good friend to this lovely lady and her family.
    2819 days ago
  • KAYDE53
    So sorry to read of your loss. It's so hard to lose a pet; just like a member of the family!! My thoughts & prayers are with you! emoticon emoticon
    2819 days ago
    I'm so sorry about Taco....I had to let my 13 yr. old Nannie go last fall and it just about broke my heart. I still feel her love though.

    For me, there's no where to run to escape the grief. Better to honor it for me. emoticon
    2819 days ago
    Oh, it's so hard! I don't know how to tell yow how to grieve because we are all different, but don't let anyone belittle you for mourning however you see fit. It's your loss, and it's very personal, but do try to take care of yourself and try to get some exercise! It really does help your head!
    2820 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. My husband and I lost our little Chico last September. It is never easy - they are family.

    My thoughts are with you.
    2820 days ago
    I'm sorry for your loss!
    I can't really say how I deal with all situations as it depends on the situation or my state of mind over it. I deal with all situations differently. It also depends what else is going on in my life at the time.
    2820 days ago
    Again, sorry for you loss Gina. Good question about how we deal with death. I fell apart for a few days when we lost our 11 yr old cocker spaniel. I think it was harder because my boys grew up with her and my then 16 yr. old held her as she died. Broke my heart. Then last Dec. I lost my Mom who I was the main caregiver. I held her hand when she went, cried when she took her last breath and then took over getting everything in order. The funeral, the cleaning out of the house, the painting and freshening up and putting it up for sale, the legal issues of the will. My sister and I took charge and really seemed to hold the family together. I cry when I go to their graves. I cry when friends parents pass. But I know that my parents lived a full life and were lucky enough to pass without much suffering. Long winded answer...sorry.
    2820 days ago
    This is a hard time. Allow yourself to grieve, the process is healthy. Soon you will be able to smile then to laugh with your memories. emoticon
    2820 days ago
    I am very sorry for your loss!

    Stay strong and remember the joy he brought to your life.

    I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
    2820 days ago
  • SBATES63
    I'm sorry to hear you've lost a friend. Rejoice in the joy he's given you over his life.
    2820 days ago
    Losing a pet that has been part of the family can be challenging. I find comfort in great memories of all the really good times/experiences with my dog. She always made me laugh every day. I think about some of the things she used to do...and she still is making me laugh and smile right now.

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    2820 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/28/2010 2:50:50 PM
  • CRIT524
    I would take joy in remembering the good times :) Sounds like he was a character!
    2820 days ago
    Hi Gina,
    I am so sorry for your loss! When I lost my pug mix I cried for 3 days and I let myself just keep crying until I felt better. Then I tried to be strong and think that at least his suffering was past. He knew you loved him right until the last minute. Take comfort in knowing he had an extraordinary life with you and your family.
    2820 days ago
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's very cliche, but the best comfort for me when I've lost pets in the past is that they are no longer in pain and they are in a better place now. Nevertheless I am so sorry for your loss. emoticon
    2820 days ago
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